Month: March 2013

Why I’m Not Afraid to Cry at Work « Positively Positive.

A wonderful post from positively positive on being able to express your own emotions as a person.

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Wow a wonderful post by Dr Tony Alessandra on treating people as you want to be treated as it appeared in Jim Rohn’s newsletter. Some people may not enjoy the way that you treat them or handle them. You have to learn to treat them as they want to be treated as person, this comes back to treating a person as they want to be treated.

Yes there are people out there who will not appreciate your style of leadership, who you are as a person and the way you do things. However its who they are, you have to treat them as they want to be treated as a person.

Respect for Others
by Dr. Tony Alessandra

Respect for others goes beyond the Golden Rule. You remember the Golden Rule? Do unto others as you would have others do unto you." It's been around for over 2000 years and still has a solid reputation as a rule to live by. I like to add what I call “The Platinum Rule" which says: “Do unto others as they want to be done unto.” The Platinum Rule helps us to avoid the possible conflicts the Golden Rule could unintentionally set up.

Let me explain. When you treat others as you want to be treated, you can end up offending others who have different needs, wants and expectations from you. Following the Golden Rule verbatim means treating others from your point of view.

That means you naturally tend to speak in the way you are most comfortable listening; or sell the way you like to be sold; or manage the way you like others to direct you.

When you treat people as you seek to be treated, it can cause tension. Why? Because the other person may not like your way. That brings us to the second reason the Golden Rule can actually damage relationships. It implies that all people wanted to be treated the same when, in fact, our preferences are not all alike. So the application of this principle varies from one individual to the next based on their personality differences. Respecting others means learning to treat different people differently, according to their needs, not ours. This leads to greater understanding and acceptance all around.

The trait of “respect for others” can be narrowly interpreted as “live and let live.” That philosophy is giving way to a larger interpretation which breaks down the old "us and them" mentality and leads us to the conclusion that there's only “us.”

From Jim Rohn’s newsletter on the power of treating people as you want to be treated as person.

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The following is from Jim Rohn on Fascination and being fascinated rather than frustrated by something.

Vitamins for the Mind by Jim Rohn

Fascination

Fascination is one step beyond interest. Interested people want to know if it works. Fascinated people want to learn how it works.

Learn how to turn frustration into fascination. You will learn more being fascinated by life than you will by being frustrated by it.

I'm on my way to the airport to catch a plane that leaves in 45 minutes. The traffic is not moving one inch. I am now fascinated - not frustrated, but fascinated. But I must admit: it doesn't work every time.

Develop a childlike fascination with life and people.

“Vitamins for the Mind” is a weekly sampling of original quotes on a specific topic taken from The Treasury of Quotes by Jim Rohn. The burgundy hardbound book with gold-foil lettering is a collection of more than 365 quotes on 60 topics gathered from Jim’s personal journals, seminars and books and spanning more than 40 years. Click here to order “The Treasury of Quotes.”

From Jim Rohn’s newsletter

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The following is from Jim Rohn on the challenge of being a quality leader yourself and being that wonderful inspirational leader.  As Jim states you must refine your skills as a leader. You need to show you are a capable leader and grow as a person. So you need to do personal development and become worth more.

The Great Leadership Challenge

by Jim Rohn

If you want to be a leader who attracts quality people, the key is to become a person of quality yourself. Leadership is the ability to attract someone to the gifts, skills, and opportunities you offer as an owner, as a manager, as a parent. What's important in leadership is refining your skills. All great leaders keep working on themselves until they become effective. Here are some specifics:

Learn to be strong but not impolite. It is an extra step you must take to become a powerful, capable leader with a wide range of reach. Some people mistake rudeness for strength. It's not even a good substitute.

Next, learn to be kind but not weak. We must not mistake weakness for kindness. Kindness isn't weak. Kindness is a certain type of strength. We must be kind enough to tell someone the truth. We must be kind enough and considerate enough to lay it on the line. We must be kind enough to tell it like it is and not deal in delusion.

Next, learn to be bold but not a bully. It takes boldness to win the day. To build your influence, you've got to walk in front of your group. You've got to be willing to take the first arrow, tackle the first problem, discover the first sign of trouble. Like the farmer, if you want any rewards at harvest time, you have got to be bold and face the weeds and the rain and the bugs straight on. You've got to seize the moment.

Here's the next step. You've got to learn to be humble but not timid. You can't get to the high life by being timid. Some people mistake timidity for humility. But humility is a virtue; timidity is a disease. It's an affliction. It can be cured, but it is a problem. Humility is almost a God-like word. A sense of awe. A sense of wonder. An awareness of the human soul and spirit. An understanding that there is something unique about the human drama versus the rest of life. Humility is a grasp of the distance between us and the stars, yet having the feeling that we're part of the stars.

Here's a good tip: Learn to be proud but not arrogant. It takes pride to build your ambitions. It takes pride in your community. It takes pride in a cause, in accomplishment. But the key to becoming a good leader is to be proud without being arrogant. Do you know the worst kind of arrogance? Arrogance from ignorance. It's intolerable. If someone is smart and arrogant, we can tolerate that. But if someone is ignorant and arrogant, that's just too much to take.

The next step is learning to develop humor without folly. In leadership, we learn that it's okay to be witty but not silly; fun but not foolish.

Next, deal in realities. Deal in truth. Save yourself the agony of delusion. Just accept life as it is. Life is unique. The whole drama of life is unique. It's fascinating. Life is unique. Leadership is unique. The skills that work well for one leader may not work at all for another. However, the fundamental skills of leadership can be adopted to work well for just about everyone: at work, in the community, and at home.

From Jim Rohn’s newsletter a wonderful article on the skills needed to be a wonderful leader.

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