What is Your own desire for life????

My Own desire has been over these last few years has been to improve my own health, yet healthy_living9to also assist others to improve their own health and relationships. What drives such is my own family; that want to be out there spending time with them and experiencing life with my own wife and kids, I am also rarely far away from the family as well able to travel the world and enjoy self with them. For many years I was needing to learn ways to be healthy from others asking as I could. Many years ago it started with a desire to change my own health and life after a scare; and it turned into wanting to share such with others.

I am able to assist those who want help with improving their own health and am going to find a way to share what improved health and lifestyle along with relationships has done for me personally. After seeing the effect of improved nutrition and eating right on my own life it’s time to share that experience with others and to keep on sharing; which I have done for many years and will continue to do. The results will come when the universe realizes I am refusing to give up.

th3Napoleon Hill had the desire to let his son Blair hear and expressed such within himself and worked with his son installing his own belief within his son, that desire came across to Blair and eventually Blair was able to assist many who were deaf to be able to communicate and hear. Had Napoleon given up on such a dream or said it was too hard; such may of failed to be the case and Blair may have been deaf for life. It is that same desire and determination that we are all needing to use within our own lives. It is the same determination and desire that we are all needing to use with whatever we are wanting to achieve in our lives and whatever the music is within us.

Whist I am refusing to let natures error stop myself from having the health that I want, daily I am building stronger muscles and for years I have gone out there seeking ways to improve and maintain own health and my backs condition. It wasn’t until spent 12 months in physio and the physio felt there was deeper issues that found out that all the issues were the result of needing to build beta core strength, yet also that the issue was coming from my back.

11047934_4259789170191_3622783990674896124_nIt had been own desire for many months to build that core strength and to be tightened toned and firm; although I was doing all the activities that knew was right, I needed to find that missing piece in order to allow such to take effect. That turned out to be that was needing to correct my back problems. Before was able to start to tighten up those muscles had to build such first; right now we are working on correcting that issue and then back to strengthening the core again.

That was a area that I had desired and wanted for so long now and was initially part of my own dream. Medium clothes and tightened toned and firm, yet was needing to get to the stage where the universe was realizing that I was just going to keep on going and working towards such. That did mean going to the gym 3 days a week since 2006 as well as eating healthy and supplementing diet. As well as going to pilaties classes for a while now. As well as learning to stop listening to those who really didn’t have the experience in what was looking to achieve.

Thank You to Michael and Linda Dlouhy for this wonderful amazing system, the wonderful love You constantly give and the ongoing continual support. To Ken Klemm, thanks for Your own ongoing support, love and encouragement. To the mental cleanse participants thanks for Your own inspiring lessons. A big thank You to my wonderful, ever loving, beautiful, sweet, sexy wife and life partner Jenny Drake for Your own ongoing support.

Have a wonderful day all,
Hugs to all and I love You all,

Ben Drake

West Ryde Sydney NSW Australia

“It’s all happening perfectly.”
– Susan Jeffers

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The major lessons learnt from looking for a relationship over the years before getting married at 37. Part 2

The major lessons learnt from looking for a relationship over the years before getting married at 37. Part 2

Incase you missed part 1 its here

You may be a wrong fit for those others

After asking for thousands of connections during own time doing online dating, getting to know some yet they were the wrong fit. Yet also those who meet throughout own daily life, whether it was a group setting or simular. There is no changing from happening it will just happen.

thWDY6B3NIA person would be flirting with me; however I was unaware that it was going to be a wrong fit in the end. When was talking with the potential on a date I would talk about what was wanting as a person, where own goals and dreams were, what direction was heading in personally. Yet a lot of the time they were seeking something totally different from what sought as a person. We were heading in two different directions. One of us wanted to settle down the other was looking for a casual bed buddy in away; without much responsibility. Two different trains in a way that they were heading in a totally different way.

These situations did cause a number of interesting situations and yes I did lose a few friendships that were unable to understand and accept who I was as a person; Yet these people were looking for someone totally different from what had to offer. At times I was unable to even hear the signs that were being given or told during our interactions as a person. The person may of been unable to understand what I was were attempting to communicate as a person. We were two strangers really.

At times it meant that others would be saying hey such and such likes You or loves You and yet it wasn’t the truth. That caused a number of years of frustration on its own; yet also feeling that was unable to express those emotions as well. At the same time it also caused a shutdown of a lot of emotions that felt very that was even unable to feel could give hug’s at all. That took a few years before was able to do such again; it took attending a support network and a few other areas to be able to do such, feeling safe enough to be myself to do such. Yet on first attendance at that meeting and seeing the hugs first reaction was “awe nice hugs”. That made a very powerful impact on myself personally.8096548653_22b7eab50d

At times I would mention something that was part of who was as a person and the person can take it totally differently and run for the hills. One getting to know someone beta mentioned that was looking to settle down in the future, that was the end of that one. It was not what the person was looking for. At times would talk about family and wanting kids that wasn’t who the other person was. I was unable to realize the signs that the person was interacting with wasn’t heading in that same direction.

I would talk about what was important personally and yet we didn’t have the same values. Yet when met now wife I did the same and it worked. It was what own wife was looking for, that both Jenny and myself both had the same values as a person. Yet there were others that were not really looking for what had to offer. That is part of being the wrong fit that we both had different Values, yet also being Yourself; that took a few years to work out. It also took a bit to sort through to find that diamond that was looking for from all the coal.

In a previous relationships I had failed to pick up on the signs that the person would be unable to support who was as a person; despite those signs being right there infront of me; it was just who they were. We weren’t traveling the same path together and we were on two totally different roads. Let’s put it this way one of us was looking to settle down, the other was looking for bed buddy’s. That was what would find.

I would of done anything for these people, yet was blinded because had no idea what was looking at or what a stable true relationship looked like. That was what it was like with any of these people within own life until also started to set limits and realize that such wasn’t good at all. The longest relationship before getting married was 5 months, that ended owing to being unable to see we were wrong. Also owing to the other person being unable to accept who was as a person, yet they were unable to support It comes back to being yourself again.

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Yes You’re gonna have those people within your life who will get frustrated because You are someone who cuddles, someone who gives kisses in public, they will get annoyed cause You post on Facebook, they will get annoyed because of anything. These are the ones that are quite often the wrong fit within Your life. They are the ones who may have a true false reality or way of seeing such. Someone may get annoyed simply because a relative has passed away and they missed the message. Unfortunately its that persons issue. They will choose to take that energy out on You and You need to stop letting such happen.

It is like attempting to fit a square peg into a round hole. Will that work???? What needs to happen is You have to stop taking all that energy on board. Yes that is rough, yet its what has to happen. At times it means being willing to walk away from that person, letting them deal with the issue on their own. Saying I am beta than such and refuse to take such.

At times have had those who as soon as may tell them what You are going to do they will start kicking up a stink of some form. Its about jumping out that small pond and into the larger pond, leaving the small minded alone and going from there.

That is what may need to happen with relationships from my own life. It’s limiting contact with a number of people who know are just the wrong fit personally. They are heading in a different direction as much as love that person and truly care about them at times loving that person does mean letting go of them as well.

“Money is nice, but I came into tennis thinking that if I can buy a two-bedroom home, I’m ahead of 90 percent of the people in the world.”
– Pat Rafter

You Can Do This Also and You Can Create A Brand New You,
Learn to create that life of Your Dreams
Wishing you the best in health and love and big hugs
Jenny and Ben
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Release Negativity From Your Life

Originally posted on Positive Outlooks Blog:

Free yourself from negative people. Spend time with nice people who are smart, driven and like-minded.  Relationships should help you, not hurt you.  Surround yourself with people who reflect the person you want to be.  Choose friends who you are proud to know, people you admire, who love and respect you – people who make your day a little brighter simply by being in it.  Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.  When you free yourself from negative people, you free yourself to be YOU – and being YOU is the only way to truly live. — Unknown

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Don’t Be Dependent On Someone

Originally posted on Positive Outlooks Blog:

There’s so much more to life than finding someone who will want you, or being sad over someone who doesn’t. There’s a lot of wonderful time to be spent discovering yourself without hoping someone will fall in love with you along the way, and it doesn’t need to be painful or empty. You need to fill yourself up with love. Not anyone else. Become a whole being on your own. Go on adventures, sit in a coffee shop on your own, dress up for yourself, give to others, smile a lot. Live for yourself and be happy on your own. It isn’t any less beautiful, I promise.Emery Allen

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