Month: June 2012

CHAPTER 8
DECISION: THE MASTERY OF PROCRASTINATION

The Seventh Step toward Riches

I really appreciate the power and focus of this chapter.  Amazing how Hill ties all of these chapters together, I can have great organized planning but if I don’t DECIDE to put it into ACTION, it does me no good!  If I have a Strong, Pulsating Desire, reinforced by a consistent abundance of self-talk, I will find the Courage, in fact it will come automatically to Decide promptly and proceed with consistent action.  When I love and trust myself, I produce self-confidence as well as Faith. I will not hesitate to Decide and be passionate about that Decision and not to change my Decision unless it is very slowly and well thought out.

I have in the past been easily influenced by others in most things.  Lack of self-love and self-confidence will do that.  When I started becoming a critical thinker through MFF, I began to see more clearly why I didn’t need or want other people’s opinions!   They certainly didn’t serve me well, in fact quite the opposite.  Negative people who are always giving their opinion are self-serving, little people who are to be pitied.  They continually seek to build themselves up by tearing other people down, how negative.  These people are very small in their thinking.

Too much talking and too little listening, wow that is a face slapper, for sure.  When I learned to be present in the Now, listening became much more natural.  The other side of that coin was losing the agenda, it wasn’t about me it was about them, so Listen to them!  How did it make you feel the last time someone greeted hi, how are you, then kept walking away.  Why did they ask how you were if they weren’t going to stop and listen????  It is so fake and demeaning.  Don’t ask if you don’t intend on listening to the answer.  I know this is a common area for a lot of people, I certainly have been guilty of it.  I know if I don’t listen I am the biggest loser, possibly missing out on some nugget of knowledge that could be of great service to me.  It Pays to Listen!!!....AND it is the Right Thing To Do!!

Hill gives the saying, “deeds and not words, are what count most”.  I think we know it more as, “Action speaks Louder than Words”.

Decisions made in a similar spirit of Faith (as did Hancock, Adams and others make) can solve personal problems, gain much material and spiritual wealth.  Sounds pretty important to me!  Leaders from Every walk of life DECIDE quickly and firmly.  This is one of the reasons they become great leaders, they walk the talk!

There is of course a flip side to Decision, called Indecision.  Indecision has and will cause millions of people to live unfulfilled, mediocre lives.  Ninety-eight of every one hundred work for wages at a job they probably don’t even like, because they lacked the Definiteness Decision to Plan a Definite Position…they kinda just let life happen.  They took whatever road was the easiest for them.  What a waste of life, just putting in time.

Hill makes a statement that “shivers me timbers”:  Financial independence, riches, desirable business and professional positions ARE NOT within the reach of the person who NEGLECTS or refuses to EXPECT, PLAN and DEMAND these things.  There it is!  Make Quick, Firm Decisions or NOT, it is a choice.  Keep in mind each Choice comes with its Own Set of Results!

Sending Wishes of Powerful, Firm Decision Making to you all.

Blessings,
Bev Bojarski

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I had a dream last night where I was back to my childhood home. I was outside playing in the yard with some hotwheel cars in a big patch of dirt on the side of our house. I had a bucket of water that I was using to make a muddy mess. I was a muddy mess. But I was having so much fun! I remember thinking that it was nice to be home again, but Mom would be mad at me for getting so dirty, but I didn’t care.

All of a sudden there was someone standing next to me asking me if they could play too.

It was a kid from my neighborhood that I never got along with at all. We had some battles, him and I. I can’t remember his name, but we were always fighting. One day we finally had the “Ultimate Battle” and arraigned to settle everything over one big fight. It was sort of epic as far as 4th graders go… It was staged in a vacant lot across the street from our house. We planned on it happening right after school. It was the talk of the school actually. Kids from other neighborhoods even showed up to watch. Two of my older sisters were there too. Now this was a long time ago, but from what I remember, there must have been 50 kids who came to watch us fight. I was really scared because I hadn’t won many battles with this kid, even though I was bigger than him. He sure wasn’t afraid of me. But in my mind I decided that this fight had to happen or we would always be fighting each other.  I figured that one big fight would end it all. I went into the fight expecting to lose. Expecting that if he kicked my butt, it would all be over and I was just hoping to get a couple good shots in there to save face.

Well, the fight started and was over before anyone could blink. The kid hit me and I dropped like a stone. Then he jumped on me and started wailing away. I heard my sister in the distance telling me to roll over to throw him off me, but all I did was roll over under him so he was on my back. That made it worse. He just grabbed my hair and beat my face into the grass. I was crying now and begging for him to stop. Finally my sister pushed him off me and I got up and ran home.

My plan didn’t work. Everything got worse after that day because now the other kids thought I was a wimp and didn’t mind reminding me of the fact every chance they got. The absolute worst thing that came out of it was that even my Dad teased me over it. I think it embarrassed him somewhat that I didn’t even put up a fight with the kid. That turned out to be the last fight we had because I guess he finally just got bored and went to pick on someone else.

Anyway, back to my dream. All those emotions came flooding back when I saw him standing there. I was ready to get up and run, but he told me not to worry. He said he’s seen how much I’ve changed my life and he wasn’t going to hurt me anymore. He said he loves me. I looked up at him and it was me standing there.

I instantly woke up and started crying. I had to leave the bedroom so I wouldn’t wake Tianne. I went into the bathroom and probably cried for another 20 minutes.

You see, I think that dream was telling me that I’m finally in a place where I love myself and I’m not going to beat myself up anymore. Yeah, that kid from my past wounded my ego and my pride, but that was nothing compared to my own hate of myself. I’ve been harder on myself than anyone else in my life, even my Dad. Well, he’s gone now. And for all I know, that kid picked on someone who kicked his ass. Who cares?! I’ll never know and don’t want to know.

The past is the past. No matter how many times I replay that stupid fight in my mind, it never changes. That fight and the results of it don’t define who I am inside. What’s funny is, out of all those 50 or so people there, I’m probably the only one that really remembers it anyway. For most of them, it was just two idiot kids fighting each other. We were their entertainment one day after school.  So by me letting it bother me all these years is really silly. It’s nothing more than a memory at this point.

I made a decision about a year ago to finally own my life. I decided to take this seriously. Michael advised me that in order for things to change I had to start loving myself. My past didn’t matter. My Dad didn’t matter. What mattered was that I finally learn to love myself. By doing that, all the anger, all the frustration, all the loathing would end.

You know what? He was right.

Love you guys!

David Haines
Doylestown, PA

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Chapter 8 Decision
This is a powerful chapter for me personally I have had to make a number of decisions lately and that’s hard as people often get frustrated at how I make a decision. It’s a process for me as a person as am needing to step back from making a decision when in an emotional state. When I am in an exceptional emotional state I make bad decisions, bad choices, even read a message the wrong way, however when in a good state I can make more rational choices.
For many years emotions have ruled my life and I have to master them. There are people who I know that can teach me such, one is a blue. A wonderful loving woman who can be herself around me, as I can be myself the hard part is when I am in an emotional state at all as then I find it hard to communicate on any level. So that has to stop, I have to gain control of my emotions and stop letting them run my own life.
As I care about people so much and love them so much it tends to hurts me when something goes ary, I even tend to get emotionally involved in a movie which can identify with. Its great who am as a person, I just have to learn to detach from my emotions that they are less rampant that they have less control over me as a person.
Recently I have made a number of choices and decisions in regards to a lot of things. Such as working on taking things less personal, being less concerned about others opinions of myself, for now it means learning to emotionally detach. That is something that will be a process and needs work, for ages I have been emotionally involved in the outcomes of many things and even attached to many things. Yet I have also decided its time to have a go at the relationship am currently in, for a while sat there getting to know the person could this work was this right.
I came to decision recently that it was time to persue this relationship, to follow my dream of a relationship and eventually my own family. Yet that means being my nurturing self who just is less emotionally involved. Something have needed for too many years now and yet was unable to see how emotionally involved I was. Its time to do such, I am going to hold myself accountable to doing the best I can. Should I fall down I will be ok as can get back out there and just go back to such its safe and I shall achieve my goal. It’s taken years to feel that can do such and be ready for this relationship and having kept one going as have its time to show my best female friend how much she means to me.
Thank you to Michael, Willena and Ken for you love guidance and acceptance as a person allowing me to grow as a person and getting to the stage where am safe enough to be myself. A big thank you to the wonderful mental cleanse participants who have inspired me.
Ben Drake
Mona Vale Sydney NSW Australia

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