Month: May 2011

Essentially, we become a product of those who we listen to; however, those who we listen to as a person are the people who shape us to become that person who we have to become for our future. These people teach us to become they person who we have to be. Some of us grow up in a home where love had to come from another person treated badly, others grow up in a home where love is constant however we treated poorly and need to learn things again.

There are people who try to condition us into the person they want us to be owing to the fact that they believe she should be more like them or that they can make us in their image. Some people even think they are doing the right thing for us however, they are hurting us. Some people will use various tactics to get us to do what they want without realising that it could be in fact hurting us more then they realise. They may even like the person who we used to be, it is hard when someone does not accept some else after they have changed something about themselves.

This could be regaining their health; it could be that they do not do a normal job. These people want that person to be just like them, they may not love themselves so they work on conditioning that person to become more like them. Some people do not want others to grow up or are jealous of losing someone they love. However in this case they quite often drive a wedge between themselves and that person who they love forcing the person to walk away.

Some people’s influence on us can be positive others negative. When we hang around good positive people then our life goes forward, however when we hang around bad people then our lives go downhill. This is how we are shaped that we essentially become the product of our environment and another person’s influences on us. We therefore need to learn from these experiences and become that person who we had to become for our future selves.

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Our attitude toward life’s problems can quite often be the thing that determines our own success of failure, when we think success then we are successful. However, when we think negative or failure then that is what we are going to get. So essentially we must work on keeping our mind positive and knowing that no matter what we are going to be a success. That things will always work out for the best and how they were meant to.

We must take the learning experiences in our stride and say ok what do I need to learn from this, what is my lesson from this. Quite often beneath every challenge is a lesson for each of us, we must learn that lesson and go from there. We take those lessons with a positive attitude and say this was to teach me something, what was that. When we say ok what did I have to learn and expect success even with those small failures, which are teaching us where we are going wrong and why we are not succeeding.

It is the same with relationships, business and family. When we expect to be successful then we are, even though we may have numerous failures. When we are consistent and persistent towards a goal no matter what and say no I am going to do this even if it is the last thing I ever do. Normally we achieve it even though we may go through lots of failures. Each of those failures is a learning experience of what to do and not to do.

Having a great attitude, picking ourselves up after a failure, and working on finding out why such did not work helps. It is a matter of expecting success to come when we are ready for such, once we have grown to become worth that success and knowing no matter what that we are going to do it. Yet when we think we are failing then we often do fail. So think about such, which is your major, mindset the thoughts of failure or the thoughts of success.

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Who we are as a person is a combination of our beliefs; the talents and skills we have learnt and were given at birth. We were provided with these talents at birth to help us to fulfil our life’s purpose as a person. Then we are shaped into the person we have to become for our own future, we have been taught how to become the person we were meant to be for our own life’s purpose. What this means is that we are a sum of our lives experiences as a person that we are also the product of those skills and talents we were given at birth.

During our own lives, we are given learning experiences, which allow us to become that person. Then we also use our own talents to become that person who we were destined to be as a person, meaning that we have become the sum of our own experiences, which means that we are then the person who we were meant to be for our own future. So essentially, who we are as a person is both, the sum of our experiences and our talents we use both within our own lives.

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Ben Drake

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