The laws of nature

Yes, this is about what goes around comes around. Now what you do to someone else will always come back to you no matter what in the long term; the way you treat another person has its own form of justice in the end. When you do not treat people with respect and integrity then it returns to you in the end often in spades, you may not see it immediately however in the end such does come back to you. Therefore, what I am saying is when you treat someone right and correctly then in the end you will get your reward and what you deserve.

Yet when you hurt another person, then such will often come back to you in the end. The universe remembers what you have done and often finds a way to hand out justice. This justice may not come immediately, however it will come back to haunt you in the end. There is no way to fight such and there is no way of appealing what penalty has been dealt out to you. It is a matter of accepting the consequences of your own actions and going from there.

You see someone helps people to get what they want the rewards will come when you have helped enough people achieve their goals, however should you of pushed enough people around then suffice to say that you end up learning from such in some way. There is no way of stopping this justice from happening at all.

Want to know more? Just ask. You can call or email me.

Do you want to learn how to create better relationships? Information is available by downloading our free eBook.

Wanting to and feeling obliged to do something

<![CDATA[

This is a very interesting topic, wanting to do something is essentially that you want to do it. However, with feeling obliged to do something it is more a requirement, often it may be imposed by another person; and can be something that is more of a demand from the other person. E.g., they want you to do something and it is necessary no matter what. When we feel obliged to do something and that we have to do it then a lot of resentment and hurt builds up within us.

However, when we want to do something the resentment is not there. Yet there are people who shirk both and not want to do something, nor will they understand that such must be done. They may be neutral to both, that they do not give a stuff if something happens or not. This is not a good place to be in as it can leave many things in life undone. Many goals unfinished and many tasks undone again which builds more resentment in some people.

In life, we need to do those hard things no matter how hard they are, we have to want to do them no matter what. We have to take out the rubbish, we have to deal with family and in laws, we have to go to work, we have to pay our bills. Unfortunately, the people who shirk responsibility and neither want to or feel obliged to pay their bills; take out the rubbish, clean up for themselves will end up in a bad situation. The best solution is finding a way to turn these things into a habit and do them regularly, also to not procrastinate by putting those things off for as long as you possibly can; just hoping someone else will do it or it will no longer be necessary for you to do such. When you want to do them and actually do the thing that you are putting off, you get a sense of achievement when you have done such.

Want to know more? Just ask. You can call or email me.

Do you want to learn how to create better relationships? Information is available by downloading our free eBook.

]]>

Being pushed away as a person

A interesting topic, when someone is pushing you away it is not easy to maintain any friendship or relationship at all. Even though the person may not realise that they are pushing you away and not pulling you towards them; some people do not realise that they are actually pushing people away. To deal with being pushed away it is a matter of speaking up and saying I am not going to take this at all, it is also about speaking to the person about what is going on and how you are feeling as a person.

Unfortunately, some people are unable to handle that conversation at all. They must learn it some other way; there is nothing that can be done about such. The person must understand that they have essentially pushed people away in another way. Some people will push others away because of a trauma or pain in their own life, which has happened. Unfortunately, they do not realise this, yet when they do, they work as hard as they can to mend those relationships.

Some people never learn that they have to mend those relationships themselves and they make people feel unwanted, unneeded and unloved. Unfortunately, its part of life, yet at the same time you have to deal with such. You can choose to live with that pain and not deal with such which is going to literally destroy you in the end. You could also find some way to release that pain and say ok I forgive you for doing that to me, you did not know what you were doing.

When we push someone away from us, it hurts the person and us also. It tends to hurt us more.

Want to know more? Just ask. You can call or email me.

Do you want to learn how to create better relationships? Information is available by downloading our free eBook.

Healing from a past pain

This is never easy for anyone healing from the pain of a trauma or simular. However, it just happens to be something that is part of live, healing from those painful memories is different for each person. In order to heal we need to express that pain with people whom we trust, so that our pain is able to be worked on. This takes a lot of trust in the person to be able to work through some of that large past pains. Sometimes it takes work and time; sometimes the pain happens to of been locked away until that person is ready to heal from such.

Getting over these past problems can take years of therapy for people; whist other people will need loads of support. It really depends on the person as to what works and does not, sometimes it takes counselling and the love of a wonderful partner to allow them to heal. Different things work for different people and it just takes work and time for people to heal. Everyone has a different way of dealing with his or her pain. Everyone has to find a way to leave that pain behind no matter what.

As I said it does mean counselling along with lots of love for someone to really heal from a very traumatic experience as a person. It really depends on the person as a whole as to what they need.

Want to know more? Just ask. You can call or email me.

Do you want to learn how to create better relationships? Information is available by downloading our free eBook.

When you abuse or bully someone do you respect yourself

This just happens to be a very interesting topic; we have to think about all the different factors. Unfortunately, someone who does not respect themselves quite often has little respect for others. Abusing and bullying someone as per telling them to shut up, even telling them off when they are speaking or not allowing them to even speak is saying I do not respect you. The person ultimately has little respect for himself or herself when the person is putting someone else down.

Abuse and bullying is a form of control, the person is trying to control you as a person. The person has no control of their own life so they are trying to take control of someone else’s lives so that they can start to feel better about themselves. They think making another person feel small or worse off is going to make them feel better as a person. However, these people often only feel better temporarily. The best way to deal with this to no longer push others around, and not to control them at all. To work on not being in control of another person’s life and expecting him or her to listen to what you must say.

The thing you must do is stop and think about what you have to say rather than saying the first things that come into your own mouth. This is the best solution for people who can tend to push others around. Also to think about your words before saying anything at all.

Want to know more? Just ask. You can call or email me.

Do you want to learn how to create better relationships? Information is available by downloading our free eBook.

TOP