Living life for yourself and not for others

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What do I mean by such, well at times in our lives we live by what others tell us or program us to do. At other times we put others first we take care of them over our own wants needs and desires. People will put others needs wants or desires ahead of their own, therefore what we do is live our lives filling those needs and wants that others have. It’s hard when you have people are telling you no you cannot do that as this is going to happen. Often you need to switch off to those negative naysayer’s who do not understand what is going on or why you want to do something. When you do not feel safe telling them what’s motivating you to do such. You then need to find a person who motivates you to achieve those goals no matter what.

Often people are driven to achieve the goals of others, they are told to go do this by someone who means well and may be trying to live out their own lives through yourself and they do not understand what they are doing. So what happens is the person who was convinced to do something ends up regretting the decision or not being happy with that choice. They end up hating the decision and feeling like they have done nothing or achieved nothing major in life. It’s not easy yet what is best is to honestly put yourself before others needs. That means saying no I am going to do what you want. It means living your own life now that may mean clothes, being closer to friends. A relationship, a family who knows only that person does.

When someone is saying you cannot do that it’s their programming coming up as a person. They were told no you cannot do that so they want to push such onto whoever they speak to, so therefore what you do is you find the people who are going to encourage you to achieve those goals and dreams and not say why do you want that. These people do not understand what they are doing. Its hard and yet it’s what has to happen, sometimes you need to realise who your most valuable influences are and what they are doing to you. Are you working to achieve your own goals or the goals of someone else.

Along the road you will find someone who’s goals and dreams will closely align with that of your own. I have seen this happen; you may have such a deep understanding with someone that it’s not funny. People live their lives programmed by others, when they start programming their own mind it can really help them a lot. When they start achieve their own goals and dreams it can also help so much. Sometimes it may be a matter of saying no this is my goal or dream and I am not going to let you take such away from me. When you give up its saying well I am not good enough to achieve that goal or dream, you say well I do not deserve such. I am not worthy; I do not deserve such at all.

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Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake