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Month: December 2010
You are who you are
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Wow what a interesting topic. Each person is made up different from everyone else, there are those who have the loving caring personality. They consider others first before anything else, there are others who are rather self centred and it’s who they are. I am learning a lot about myself and who I am as a person one thing that I can say is that no matter what I made a different, I do what I do because it’s part of my own self. Everyone has things they love to do, some people stay close to the fire others may not want to know it, their are those that will give from the heart no matter what happens. Then their are the natural born leaders and managers, everyone has a different purpose in life and I know right now I am for filling my own purpose and destiny.
Sure nothing ever happens without it meant to be happening, we meet those people who we meet as they are meant to impact our own lives in a way as we are to impact their lives. Everything is about choices, every day we make decisions. Sometimes you have not time to think it’s just do and act. Each person does things differently even though they may have the same personality, it’s who they are some people are comfortable in the fire others are not. In life everyone has a mission and sometimes these are done quickly others take a lifetime to complete. There are people who touch your heart once and leave an impression others who stay and never leave.
You have to accept who you are with your faults and failings, work on making your own faults you asset and using them to your own advantage. Working on them and not letting them control you, if you live by self imposed limits constantly you will end up frustrated as you may not be living the life you want. You are someone who is meant to be someone special to others, finding out what makes you who you are and what you enjoy really helps.
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Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake
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Married to a company
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This has to do with believing that someone is not looking for another opportunity, e.g. they are off the market just the same as they are when they are married to another person or in a committed relationship. I know people out there would walk up to another person who was married and go I want to take you on a date, it’s the same in any company. When someone says no this is what I am doing do not touch them it’s their way of saying this is what I am committed to. I have literally had people ring me up and start trying to get me into their business because they believe it’s better.
Now to me you do not do it, it’s a no go area. If someone from another company asks you to sponsor them in your business well yes that is ok, yet why go trying to bring them into your own business. In business you need to show you are trustworthy, people need to remember that each person has their own individual learning curve when they enter into any company some people will take years to become successful owing to what they need to learn the skills that need to be learnt. Others do not, however when you stick with the company often the sky is the limit. All you need do is stay committed or married to a company and say I am going to do this until and just go.
No matter what you will learn the skills at the pace you are meant to and also become successful in your own time. Being married to a company or a partner is about being faithful to that company or partner. It’s about wanting to spend the rest of your life working for that company or with that partner. How can you do this when you are changing companies all the time.
If you have any questions just contact or email me.
If you want to learn more about relationships http://bdrake.successin10steps.com/?mad=52669 some of the information is available from this eBook.
Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake
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Who would you take on 30 day cruise with you?
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No I am not asking a trick question. This question is designed to make you think ok who is there in my life right now that I would want to spend those 30 days of a cruise or a holiday with. 30 days is a long period of time to spend with someone, often we may only spend that amount of time with our spouse or intermit family members (our kids). Its asking who could you spend the 30 days traveling with and not end up regretting the experience. I know a couple of people who I could do that with that I would be able to go on that 30 day cruise or holiday seeing them every single day and not having them get on my nerves at all.
They are my 3 best female friends who are wonderful women, each of them have a heart of gold. Now who could you take on such?
If you have any questions just contact or email me.
If you want to learn more about relationships http://bdrake.successin10steps.com/?mad=52669 some of the information is available from this eBook.
Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake
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Listening why is this an important habit.
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Listening is a habit that can sometimes be not used by some people, there are people who just have to talk right over others. These people love to hear their own voice and rarely keep quite, they can be loud and very pushy. Now they may not be easy people to get along with. So they really need to learn the art of being a good listener, not talking as soon as someone has finished talking and letting them gather their thoughts. Some people are uncomfortable with a 3 second silence, they do not realise that silence is golden at times. Sometimes it is needed so people can think, now when someone is constantly cutting you off before you finish saying what you have to it does not help as the person speaking loses their train of thought.
Its best to be considerate enough that you give the person speaking a good gap of at least 30 to 60 seconds and do not walk away from them. Do not pick up something else to do or cross your arms as this may mean that you are not listening to the person speaking. Crossing your arms or putting them on your hips can mean I am impatient and not caring what you have to say, it’s hard yes yet these things do help to have better conversations.
The best listeners are those who are comfortable with the gap in speaking if that is 3 minutes fine, sometimes I see such a gap in some conversations. However when someone comes to you looking for support, encouragement or advice and you immediately start cutting them off it says that you do not value them or consider what you have to say is more important then what they have to say. It can be very frustrating yes that people are not listening however it is something that needs to be learned.
How you speak to people shows ultimately how much you respect them or how much respect there is in that relationship as a person. Some people can say things in a joking way and know the person just happens to be joking with them. When others say such it’s not easy for the other person, sometimes it’s using the right words with people that does help you to communicate better with that person you are talking with.
If you have any questions just contact or email me.
If you want to learn more about relationships http://bdrake.successin10steps.com/?mad=52669 some of the information is available from this eBook.
Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake
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