Most people have a list of what they want to achieve or do with their lives. Often these are goals and dreams, however sometimes you need to identify what goals and dreams you really want to achieve for yourself and your own future. There may be people who say to you no do not do that I once had that and it was this, these people are dream stealers the ones who want to push their own agenda on you as a person. They say do not do this owing to such a reason and so your goal is wiped off your list for some reason. They want you to listen to their thinking and reasoning as to why you should do what they they want.
One thing you need to do is not listen to people when they are like this, having spent years listening to people who are would literally say. Why do you want this goal and then proceed to tell me what can go wrong or why it is the wrong goal for you as a person. These people force their opinion and thoughts on you, which quite often destroys any goal or dream which the person may have. They do not worry about listening to what you have to say; they push what they want on you and do not care what your goal is something that you have always wanted to achieve. Even though the goal is something that really makes you happy as a person. In the past I have personally set goals only to listen to people who do not understand what that goal would mean to me giving their thoughts which I listened to.
In order to achieve anything in life goals, dreams etc. you have to stop listening to those people who push their own opinion on you as a person. You have to say no I am not going to listen to this anymore, it will take work and a lot of persistence, determination and commitment from yourself to say. No this is what I want and I am going to achieve such whether you like it or not. People may not like hearing such yet what you need to do is consider yourself and what you are looking to achieve in your own life; after all it is your own life and not theirs. The people who are most supportive of your own goals and dreams are the ones who stick by you no matter what, they do not question your choices or decisions they actually stand there supporting that decision or choice no matter what happens. Now these are the people you want in your own life, the ones who support your own goals and dreams. These people may say look it hurts me seeing this happening to you, they will even say that is sad and ask how can we fix this, they are the ones who offer genuine help and will continue with such until no matter what.
Sometimes it’s a matter of sitting down and writing out what goals you want, saying I am going to achieve these things and I do not care what such and such has to say about this. It is my life not theirs, that is a powerful day when you literally start saying well this is what I want and I am not going to have someone who is not involved having any input in such. Ok yes when you have a spouse or partner who it involves or includes you have to talk it through with them. Yet when you have a supportive spouse or partner they will often say yes lets do that. When the goal involves no one other then yourself it’s your goal alone. People will surely say it’s not you, it’s too rough, it’s too steep, you are not good enough and try and influence their own goals or dreams on you. However, all you have to say is I am going to the top and I am going achieve this no matter what happens. You may have to say it to yourself, I am going to do this no matter what.
Are the people who do not support your goals and dreams really your friends? they may call themselves a friend or be false friends. Yet are they there supporting those goals no matter what happens, those people who support your own goals and dreams are your real friends. They may not be in your business or work with you however they are people who are the most supportive no matter what happens. These people see you through thick and thin, it takes work, time and patience to achieve any goal and to find those true friendships the people who are willing to support those goals. They say great lets work together to achieve this goal and they help you go for the goal.
So what do you do. Find those people who are willing to support your own goals and to make sure that you get there no matter what. They stand behind you through thick and thin. Also set yourself goals that mean something to you, not goals which mean something to other people. Why do you want to achieve that goal?, what is motivating you to achieve such, what will you be able to do or say when you have such. You need to ask yourself what is the purpose of this goal or why do I want to achieve such. That is the best thing with any goal, ask yourself what is pulling you to achieve such nothing more.
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