November, 2010 • Coach Freedom and Friends

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No I am not talking about cooking in this post. I am talking about following a system, following a tested system which is proven to work for others and not making any changes to that system.

Every business has a system and a way of doing things, we all develop that system through our training and habits. Some are complex that no one can even duplicate or replicate what we are doing others are simple that even a 2 year old may be able to do such. When you decided to change things is it for the best or is it because you want to, when you use a proven system and do what they do it’s how you get the best results; however when you tend to deviate from such then you may no longer get the results you are looking for or none at all. Other times when you are following the system your results may be small yet in the end the pay off is larger.

The question is asked would you use motor oil if you had no cooking oil in a cake recipe? I know would not like to motor oil as a cooking substitute although some people tend to think changing something will make all the difference to make that better or to get a better result from such. Sometimes yes tweaks will make it better and other times it can make things a lot worse. Sure it’s trial and error when their is no proven system, however with the proven system or something that works you do not need to change it. So why change it, unfortunately some people do devise systems or procedures which are so complex that they only understand such.

I am having to change some ways of doing things because of the complexity of what they were. Others are just perfect as they are. So what you need to do is make sure that the change is really necessary. If not then do not change it, is so then only make the changes needed. I spent years with a system that was to complex, now it’s easier and more workable. So make it easier for others rather than complex.

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23/11/2010

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Imagination Synthetic and Creative

23/11/2010

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Ok lets look at this portion of imagination, I wrote a quick post yesterday on creative imagination now I am going follow on from that.

So what are the two synthetic imagination is thinking inside the box drawing inside the lines and remaining within the confines of what you are told to do, it is thinking this is the only way things are really. Not thinking ok is there another option to such. Whilst creative imagination is thinking outside the box, drawing outside the lines. The people who are creative tend to show it yet may be shunned from showing such at some point either by family or otherwise. They can be people who have low self esteem owing to them having been ridiculed, abused or hurt for thinking outside the square. Their talents may not of been recognised or developed for a variety of reasons and they may be restless in work that does not allow for them to be creative. Schooling may be hard owing to them not being able to use those talents.

Now the people who tend to use synthetic imagination are the ones who do the jobs like engineering or accounting. Having to always have the information the facts, not thinking ok this is possible or what about such. Where as someone who is creative tends to have the artistic flare, they can write, decorate, paint, build, they are the ones who think outside the box. They are caring people who love those who are in their lives, they tend to be people who make the most difference in others lives. They care about their friends, their family and those people who are important to them so deeply. What this means is that these people need a way to be able to express themselves without feeling that they have to do what they are told no matter what.

There are unfortunately people who do not allow others to creatively express themselves, they are only concerned about thinking inside that square at what is possible and is known. These people are people who will push those creative and artistic people away as they do not understand thinking outside the box. The parents who shun this creative ability will tend to drive their children away owing to them needing a way to express themselves however they are not receiving such. What is best is for people to develop the are of both thinking inside and outside the box. Sometimes it takes work, other times it does not. Yet when a person is continually put down by others for being creative it chips away at their inner person their self esteem and they are made to feel small. So they walk away from those relationships and say no sorry I am not going to associate with you anymore. They may not even say what happened they just stop spending as much time with those people, weather it’s family or otherwise. They just do not spend that time with them, the people who have said no sorry I am not going to take this will start wondering oh what has happened yet they may never be told.

Think about it are you driving someone away or are you pulling someone closer to you?

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Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake

Being Creative

22/11/2010

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Each person has one of two personalities within them; there are those who think inside the box and colour as such inside the box and those who think outside the box. The people who think outside the box are those who have a creative streak inside them; they are creative people and use their talent and creative streak to their advantage. My creative point is my writing, I can write up a storm and I have seen it happen for years, I know people who are good a using other talents. Some are artists, some are good a decorating. People need to learn to use this creative streak and to take advantage of such, those who have such and are told no stay within the lines or do not do that will walk away from people who put them down or do not allow them any room to be creative. As when they are being shunned or told no do not do this it is saying to them I do not want you expressing yourself.

This can sometimes create real problems in a person’s life, each of us has to be able to use our creative streak or to find such.

If you have any questions just contact or email me.

If you want to learn more about relationships http://bdrake.successin10steps.com/?mad=52669 some of the information is available from this eBook.

Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake