There were some pretty major lessons that learnt from the time working on building 
relationships with others, even from getting to know people over the years. They were the lessons that needed to learn for own future, looking back they were the lessons which were needed. These were lessons that were so applicable even within own business life.
So what were the lesson’s well here they are.
Be yourself
You are unable to be anyone else other than Yourself, that was a hard lesson yet it was one that was needed.
For years I would just do what others said in order to be liked. That wasn’t being an individual as a person, expressing self was difficult as was unaware just who Ben was as a person. Yet when would express self was told to shut up or the other person felt that they were always right. So it just meant that stopped expressing who was as a person.
All knew was that was searching for love, that wanted own family and was hurting badly. Yet it was difficult to express such as felt unsafe around to speak up. That was owing to a lot of fear that had been placed within own heart over the years, that conformed to others. Yet that is being another person its being someone You truly aren’t at all. You have to feel safe to be able to express what is truly going on within You as a person. There was no true relationship with that person that was able to feel could talk with them about what was deeply going on within own head.
For Years the true person was screaming inside as to what he wanted, Ben was looking for Love, he wanted to love someone else yet also to share his love. When that love failed to come back it hurt deeply it just cut into own heart, so it became part of the journey. Also when someone took advantage of that love or trust it would hurt more.
Personally I have come to enjoy cooking, swimming, camping, getting to know people, amusement parks, travel, kids and being healthy. Yet also Volunteer and donate to charities as well, which is quite the opposite to what grew up in. You have to be strong enough to be Yourself in such situations that You walk away from the junk food and have it seldom when You are healthy. When was living with family to be able to keep up the healthy lifestyle it meant having to cook own meals. Someone may go sorry I don’t do healthy in angry tone. That is their own issue, its Your own choice weather to take that onboard.
Yet part of the hardest lesson had to learn was that the guy who wanted within own life was own self yet was unaware that was myself.
At times what You desire as a person is truly within Yourself. It’s up to Yourself to create that person and become that person or build that what You truly desire.
You Can Do This Also and You Can Create A Brand New You,
Learn to create that life of Your Dreams
Wishing you the best in health and love and big hugs
Jenny and Ben
Mentors with a servants heart
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