From the mentoring for free emails, a powerful lesson.

I'm 56 years old. A few years ago, on a cross-country flight, I realized that I am living my "WHY". That was an emotional event.

We don't do this because we have to. We do this because we love to do it. That's why we do a dozen or more training calls a week. It's our passion.

I come from a hard background. I love what Randy Gage says. He says, "My family life - we were the Addams Family on crack cocaine." I think mine was even worse.

My parents took me out of school in the 9th grade. I don't have formal education, but I have life lessons. I truly believe that if I can become successful, then anybody can.

My passion is to share that with others, to let them know they can do it, too. It starts with communicating. People don't listen to people. More than anything else, we teach them how to do that.

One absolute truth I've learned over the years -

- plays a very big part in the success we've had so far. And that is:
Leaders are readers.

That's why we put together a complete system to leverage this truth. We offer my "Success In 10 Steps" ebook at for free.

And here's the secret. There are no affiliate links. No affiliate program. We're not trying to get them in the deal, not selling any widgets. There are no catches. It's just giving others the benefit of what I've learned in 27 years.

And leaders are readers. When you give away a quality ebook, you attract leaders. And those are the people you want.

We used this system for years with another ebook. I have a list of people I've been following up with for years. And suddenly, here and there, they call to join my business. And some of them bring a LOT of people with them. It can change your life overnight.

It's about relationships. It's about caring. If you think internet marketing is a sales business, you're sadly mistaken. It is a relationship business.

You can create "know, like & trust" with your copy. Read it. You'll see it. To survive, you must create & build relationships.

You need to get the money out of the equation.

When the money's out of there and you're talking to somebody with no agenda, you can truly listen and be there for them.

When a boy & girl go on a date, there's an agenda. Most guys have one thing on their mind. How tense is that? Are they warm & open? No. They're apprehensive, because they both know what the agenda is. They know what the young man has on his mind.

How would it be if 2 people went on a date and they just wanted to get to know each other? No agenda. How much more enjoyable would that date be?

And how much more successful & happy would people be in business if the money wasn't the focus? if they had no agenda? The answer is, "A lot." I know, because we see it all the time.

From mentoring for free success emails. A powerful lessons

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A wonderful post from Lawrence Bergfeld on your why, as appeared on Lawrence Bergfelds blog.
Network Marketing Tip On Being Lazer Focused:
A network marketing tip on being lazer focused is to be disciplined by focusing on what do you want to accomplish. In other words you must have a why that makes you cry. Art Jonak once said if you do not have a why that makes you cry then you do not have one. It is sad that so many people die with the music inside themselves by saying to themselves “I wish I had” instead that I am glad that I did. Jim Rohns parents told him do not ever miss a thing.
Your why can not be about money because if it is then you will chase the money. Your why is being able to take that dream vacation, purchase that new home, having the time to volunteer in a homeless shelter. In this free e-book there is a coachability test in Chapter 2 regarding “Your WHY”. If you utilize the network marketing tip in the coachability test in chapter 2 of this free e-book then we can help you take your business to a whole new level.
Lawrence Bergfeld

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The Hardest Thing You’ll Ever Do:

She walked out on you when you were a little girl. You needed her to braid your hair because Daddy didn’t know how to do it. She didn’t mean to walk out, but the bottle made her do it, and once she did, she couldn’t look herself in the eye, so she avoided mirrors and drank more bottles.
Now you’re grown, and you can braid your own hair, and you survived in spite of her. Now, you’re pregnant, and she’s going to be a grandmother, and you want her to know you turned out pretty dang good, if you do say so yourself.
So you write the letter and open your heart. You tell her how it hurt when she walked away and left your little girl heart cracked wide open with no instructions for repairing it. You tell her how many times you’ve dreamed of having her rock you in her arms, even now, and how many times you’ve cried because other people got mothers who baked them cookies and kissed their boo-boos. You tell her you understand, that you’re not mad anymore, that you forgive her—really, you do—and that all you want now is for her to know how much you love her, maybe even to see each other again, just for coffee or even for your baby shower. Then you wait. And wait. And wait. It’s been weeks, and she hasn’t called or written.

Your quivering open heart, exposed and vulnerable, remembers what it felt like when you were seven and you watched her go out that door, not realizing you’d never see her again.

You cry like a child, and the sobs wrack you. Your heart aches so much you want to close your heart back up, sew it up with big black rope, bar the door with chain metal and armored locks, never open that heart again.
But you don’t, because life is too precious.
* * *
You’ve been BFFs since you lost your first tooth. You fixed each other’s hair for prom when you both went stag, and even though you knew they might make fun of you, you danced with each other to Alphaville’s “Forever Young.” When your fiancé broke it off the day of the wedding, when you were already wearing the white dress, you sobbed in her arms, your heart open wide like a surgeon had just sawed through your ribcage. When you finally found love again, she was the maid of honor in your wedding, and you were hers.
Then her husband calls you one morning at 2:00 a.m. and makes a pass at you. You’re shocked, appalled. Your heart is broken on behalf of your best friend. You know you must tell her. You have to tell her. So you break the news as gently and lovingly as you can. And she turns her back to you. Walks out.
You call. You leave messages. You write letters. You wait. You keep your heart open. You forgive her for not calling back. You know you did the right thing. You love her like crazy. It’s been a year, and your heart hurts so much you feel like someone took out an organ and forgot to put it back. You think about closing your heart. She had her chance. You were just being a good friend. (But if your heart is closed, why are you still crying?)
You want to cut her out of your heart. Remove her like a cancer. Fill up the hole with chocolate or wine or a new pair of Manolo Blahniks.
But you don’t, because, in spite of it all, you still love her.
* * *
You didn’t mean to fall in love with him. You thought it was just a harmless crush, and then it crushed you like a bulldozer. You didn’t see it coming, and if you had, you would have run far, far away because it’s an impossible love. You can’t have him. He can’t have you. Maybe it’s some crazy past life thing because your relationship makes no sense. You shouldn’t love him. You shouldn’t feel this deep soul connection with him. Plus, he’d be crazy to love you back, not that he does—or does he?
You shouldn’t tell him how you feel. It would be a total disaster. What if he loves you back? (Does he?) You try to convince yourself it’s nothing. It’s just a silly crush. It will go away. You get pissed off at him when he’s sometimes there for you, then he disappears. You’re getting mixed signals. He pushes; he pulls. You’re confused. How dare he, when you care for him like this? But you’re not really mad. It’s just a defense mechanism to protect your vulnerable, fragile heart.
Finally, the truth washes over you, and you just can’t lie to yourself anymore. You can’t keep up the act, faking it like you don’t feel it, pretending to be cool and casual when you’re hurting.

So you tell him. You bare your heart. You confess everything you’ve been holding inside.

And then he is silent. He doesn’t say he loves you back. He doesn’t say he doesn’t. You wait. More silence. Is he just overwhelmed with your confession? Is he confused by his own love for you? Or is he just not that into you? Your heart is naked, open, waiting. Then there is more silence, and you want to pull your heartstrings closer together. Leaving it open feels so raw, like your heart is bleeding love and you’re hemorrhaging all over the floor. You want to close it back up. Keep it safe. Never let anyone in again.
But you don’t, because love can’t get in when your heart is closed.
* * *
He shot his pregnant girlfriend, that bastard. Shot her right in the belly, right where that baby is. She’s not breathing when the ambulance brings her in. Blood is pouring out of her belly. So you do what it is you do. You put a tube into her lungs and pump air into it. You call for liters of O negative blood so you can fill her veins back up again. You call the operating room, ask them to open it stat. You give orders to the team. You check the baby’s heartbeat: It’s still beating, but not fast enough. Everyone springs into action. You race her to the operating room, slicing clean through her belly, while the heart surgeon slices through her chest because there’s another bullet there. You open her uterus in one clean swipe of the scalpel, and you pull out the blue baby and hand him to the pediatricians who are waiting with the incubator. Her uterus bleeds, pouring blood.

You feel a gush of love for this mother and her baby. Your heart opens. You pray. You plead. It’s not looking good. The monitor flat lines. You start to cry.

The cardiac surgeon calls for drugs. Shocks. You’re trying to take out her uterus so it will stop bleeding, but you can only operate so fast. The cardiac surgeon is pumping her heart in his gloved hands. Everyone is watching the monitor except you. You’re watching that blue baby, who is getting bluer. An hour passes. The cardiac surgeon should have called the code sooner, but the mother was so young that nobody wants to quit. There’s blood everywhere. The operating room looks like a combat zone. Two-dozen people stand there, looking at the dead mother, the dead baby. There isn’t a dry eye in the room. The cardiac surgeon and you hug, getting blood all over each other. Your heart is in his hands too, cracked wide open and bleeding.

You did everything you could. He did too. And it wasn’t enough.

You want to ask the surgeon to suture you back up again, so you won’t feel so much when you lose a patient. But you know you can’t. That’s no way to live.

The Serial Heartbreak

He left you for that woman half your age.
She up and died on you, when you’re only forty; you’ve got three kids under the age of five to raise without a mother.
He won’t call you anymore, after you breastfed him and held his hand during rehab.
She overdosed.
He doesn’t love you anymore.
She cut you out of her will, and that’s not the worst part: She cut you out of her life.
He had sex with you right before ending your twenty-year relationship.
Your dog, who is more like your child, got cancer, and you had to hold her while they injected her with the drug that made her heart still.

The Hardest Thing You’ll Ever Do

The hardest thing you’ll ever do is keeping your heart open in the face of serial heartbreak. Closing off your heart is the easy way out. It’s an understandable defense mechanism. It makes sense. Nobody would blame you.
But it will also make you sick and suck away your joie de vivre.
Life is full of traumas to the heart. Pain is inevitable because love is everywhere, and love hurts. Period.

Love is scary. Love is risky. Love is unsafe. Love isn’t for the faint of heart. Love takes courage. Love and fear can’t coexist. Love means giving people permission to break your heart—over and over and over.

As new friend and fellow Hay House author and Positively Positive contributor Agapi Stassinopoulos writes in Unbinding The Heart: The secret to living a joyful life full of miracles and love is to keep you heart open, even when it keeps getting hurt.
Every day is a lesson in this most important life class. Every day is a choice to keep your heart open, even when you feel it slamming shut. Every day is an opportunity to practice the art of letting your heart bleed, to cry, to feel, to ache, to gulp, to let go of your ego, to recognize that being right is overrated, to stop judging, to learn the art of forgiveness, to bare your soul, even when it doesn’t feel safe, and to keep doing it over and over and over again until it’s like breathing.
Every day, love is a choice, and it’s yours to make.
What are you choosing?
With a cracked wide open heart,
Lissa

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 Do you need to eat fat?:
From Herbalife's Discover Good Fitness & Nutrition Blog
You only need small amounts of fat to be healthy.
Years ago, I had a client who was truly ‘fat phobic’.  If she could detect any trace of fat in her food, she’d reject it.  She’d dissect a piece of roast chicken into tiny pieces, trying to tease out any specks of fat she could find between the muscle fibers, and she dressed her salads with straight lemon juice – never a drop of oil.  She did this primarily as a weight control strategy – she was a tiny woman and intended to stay that way – but she’d also heard that people need to eat fat.  So she was worried.  Was being this finicky about fat bad for her health? And – more importantly – did she really need fat in her diet?
The simple answer to the question, “do I need to consume fat?” is yes, you do.  And here’s one of the main reasons why.  The fats you eat are made up of a variety of components called fatty acids.  Some of these fatty acids are considered essential – which means that they have to be provided from food because your body can’t make them.  If your body doesn’t get the essential fatty acids it needs, it could negatively affect your health.
But here’s the catch.  The amount of fat you need to eat in order to provide your body with the essential fatty acids it needs is tiny. How tiny, you ask?  It’s estimated that if at least 5% of the calories you eat come from fat that’s found naturally in a healthy, well balanced diet that will do it.  That’s about 75 calories’ worth on a 1500 calorie a day diet – or less than 9 grams of fat.  So yes, you do need to consume fat, but the amount you need is so small, that it could be provided from a diet of whole, natural foods, even if you added no fat to your diet at all.
That said, I’m not suggesting that you should do all you can to eliminate every trace of fat from your diet.  One reason (and this is a topic for another day) is that the types of fats that you eat and the balance of your fatty acids matter too.  Just eating 9 grams of fat a day won’t ensure that you get the right balance of fatty acids if you don’t choose your foods carefully.  Suffice it to say that most of us don’t eat nearly enough of the healthy – and essential – omega-3 fatty acids that are supplied by fish, nuts and flaxseed.
But the point here is that there are traces of fat to be found naturally in all kinds of foods.  People are really surprised when they hear this.  And, to be honest, I was reluctant to tell my patient this, because I was concerned that her fear of fat would lead her to avoid all kinds of healthy foods because of the specks of fat that might be lurking within… Thankfully, it didn’t.
But think about it.  Our ancient hunter-gatherer ancestors didn’t have butter dishes and bottles of salad dressing.  They had to get their essential fats from somewhere so they consumed foods that naturally contained fats – like fish, nuts, seeds and, yes, even vegetables.
It is recommended that you eat fats sparingly – particularly the fats that you add to your food – because their calories can add up fast.  But foods that naturally contain small amounts of fat can provide your essential fatty acids and, at the same time, give a huge flavor boost to food.  A few slices of avocado on a piece of grilled fish, a sprinkle of sesame seeds in a stir fry, some toasted almonds in a salad – all add flavor and texture, and essential fatty acids to boot.
Here’s a list of some plant foods that naturally contain fat.  The numbers just might surprise you!

Written by Susan Bowerman, MS, RD, CSSD. Susan is a paid consultant for Herbalife.

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This Week's Jump-Start

Baseball's greatest hitter grew up near my neighborhood in San Diego. When Ted Williams slugged for the Boston Red Sox, my father and I kept a record of his daily batting average. And when I played Little League ball, my dad told me not to worry about striking out or not getting a lot of hits. In Williams' finest year, dad reminded me, he failed at the plate 60 percent of the time.

Football's greatest quarterbacks complete no more than 6 of 10 passes. The best pro basketball players make only half their shots. Actors and actresses auditioning for roles are turned down 29 out of 30 times. And stock market winners make money on only 2 out of 5 of their investments.

Since failures are a given in life, success takes more than leadership practices and a positive outlook. It also takes an appropriate response to the inevitable, including an effective combination of risk-taking and perseverance.

You must risk to gain security, but never seek security. When security becomes a major goal in life—when fulfillment and joy are reduced to merely holding on, sustaining the status quo—the risk remains heavy. It is then the risk of losing the prospects of real advancement, of not being able to ride the wave of change today and tomorrow. Had the founders of Google, Yahoo and Amazon.com been concerned with immediate profits and return on investment, we would not be enjoying those Internet services today.

—Denis Waitley

From Denis Waitley a very true post on the law of averages and being prepared to win.

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