Mentor Ben Drake • Coach Freedom and Friends

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The one thing everyone needs is to feel is loved, accepted or cherished; when people do not feel loved, accepted or cherished then they do not believe in themselves. It’s hard when you don’t believe in yourself, as this often sends someone’s confidence and self esteem right out the window. People need support and encouragement to allow themselves to feel capable of doing things, each person is different as to how much support and encouragement they need. Yet when someone is constantly put down for their choices or decisions they need a lot more support and encouragement then people who may not of been as badly hurt.

It really does hurt; people end up with low self esteem and low self worth. Why well people are influenced by others and their environment when people are negative or constantly putting others down for their own goals and dreams then it does not help. You need to find those people who support and accept your goals and dreams as a person. They build you up and are there for you constantly through thick and thin, they let you know you are cared about regularly. They stand beside you no matter what, a true friend and often a life friend. Someone who you know you can count on no matter what happens and they are the greatest. It’s finding those positive people who support your own goals and dreams which is something that is rare at times.

Once you find those people who accept and support your own goals and dreams quite often the sky is the limit. When people feel supported, loved, accepted and cherished you can achieve anything you set your mind to. When those people are standing behind you and say things that literally make you go oh my gosh and take your breath away it’s an amazing feeling. It’s so lovely to have that, when this happens you can feel on top of the world. It’s not that you are indestructible however its more that you no longer let those negative naysayers get to you as a person. This can take time yet when this happens and when you feel loved, accepted and cherished as person you tend to switch off to those negative people.

Accepting ones self and being accepted is hard yet there are people out there who truly do accept you. You need to find those people who do accept your goals and dreams and they work with you as a person to achieve them. They support you no matter happens, this really does help when people do feel that someone cares deeply about them as they know ok I can do this no matter what they believe in me as a person. They believe in my abilities as a person and know I can do this which really does help build a persons confidence and self esteem.

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31/12/2010

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Happy New year all, have a wonderful day. Catch up soon.

What is holding you back?

31/12/2010

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It is common that something is possibly holding someone back from the success they are looking for. Some people they need love, others need different things, when people find that thing that has been missing in their life or they become who they were meant to be they go into what is known as lift off. This means that they may achieve many successes or simular within a short period, the thing is that for years they have had so many failures and had to learn so many lessons before they ended up achieving their goal or dream.

People quite often need to become the person they were intended to be prior to their successes occurring. For some people this means a few changes, others it can be a lot more then just a couple of changes. Sometimes it may take years for that person to become what they had to be to develop into what they were destined to be. Others well this happens over a short period. Those who achieve success quickly may not remain when the times are rough as it’s these times which builds your persistence. The ones who stick it out are those who have persistence and determination.

You need to know why you are continuing and what’s driving you towards that goal or dream. Why do you want it?, at times it takes one simple change for everything else to fall into place. Other times it takes more changes, you can never tell what needs to happen for someone to change and to become what they were intended to be as a person.

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Desire

30/12/2010

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Desire wanting something so bad that it’s all you want to do, inside everyone is what is known as burning desire. Some people never actually allow themselves to achieve this owing to the programming they have received from others and the influence that person has on them as a person. Should it be positive or negative influence on that person.

People do not realise that this desire is quite often something that could make them successful in life. desire as the dictionary stares is one of the 7 deadly sins, how come and why? I do not see it as such; when you really want something so much that you are willing to burn your bridges and just go for that goal and dream. Desire is wanting something so bad that you will do anything to achieve it. This means cutting off all sources of retreat and saying yes I am going for this no matter what happens, sure people are going to say you can not do that or you are not good enough. Its knowing that the goal is what you want to do and going for it no matter what happens.

Sometimes it can take years to achieve that which you want and it means having patience and being willing to say I am committing to this until. You will surely be tested no matter what, this is determining just how patient, persistent, committed and determined you are to achieve the goal. What it means is you need to say I am doing this until no matter what. Even when the goal does not appear to be forthcoming. Remember that when the opportunity does arrive it may be hidden or come from a direction you were not expecting at all. Sometimes you may search for something in one direction and then suddenly the opportunity presents it’s self in a totally new direction without fail. A person needs to be observant to recognise when the opportunity has presented it’s self to you. You need to be open to all possibilities good and bad; as sometimes the opportunity does have the chance to solve more than just one problem. It could mean a lot more and be the key to having an abundant life.

In order to work out just what you are meant to be in life; you need to know just what your meant to be doing in life. That is the key, when the missing piece comes along the person may go into lift off and then the sky is the limit. Sometimes it takes one change that will make that person just fly. What this means is you also need to remove all negative self talk and bad thinking from your own mind making it so that your mind is filled with positive and powerful emotions. Not always easy yet it’s the best thing.

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Persistence

29/12/2010

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This is the art of committing to something until achieving the desired result. Sometimes you may go years without knowing what happened or how you are going achieve the goal. Yet when you have enough belief in yourself and know that deep inside you that you are going to be able to achieve that goal it comes when it is time. It may take years to achieve the goal or dream however sometimes it’s a matter of being patient and yet when the opportunity does arrive it may sneak in within a completely opposite direction. Its never known just how it may happen yet sometimes that opportunity is just what you have been seeking.

It can disguise it’s self and you have to be ready to spot that opportunity when it happens. This takes a keen eye yet when it is right its the best thing in the world and you will be glad that you took yourself up on that chance. Never give up on any goal or dream, as no matter what it will happen and the sky is often the limit from there.

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Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake

Author: Mentor Ben Drake

Being Accepted

What is holding you back?

Desire

Persistence