Mentor Ben Drake • Coach Freedom and Friends

Your image is very much a reflection of how you see yourself as a person. When you dress badly or poorly it shows, when you look down at the ground constantly or dress sloppy it does not help. Sometimes yes it is ok to dress badly however it not a good time to dress poorly in a interview for a job. People will think does this guy really care when you dress poorly or look uncomfortable.

What you need to do is dress so that you look comfortable and happy. Relaxed not uncomfortable that means if you are most comfortable in jeans a tee-shirt then ok, it’s about making yourself look presentable. Now it also means that if you are most comfortable in jeans and a tee-shirt is that possible in the corporate world, not really normally it’s the self employed professions that work with such that you can be a bit more casual.

Remember if your shirt is untucked, you have bad breath or are not neat then it reflects badly on you if you are dressed for the corporate world. However the more casual the role, the more relaxed, some roles will say enclosed shoes only which is often even great. It really depends on what work you do and are looking for. It’s comfortable for you as a person not the other person. Some roles you are literally able to wear anything you want, a pair of shorts and tee-shirt or worse good old ugg boots during the winter.

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Ben Drake

28/12/2010

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Oh what a wonderful day. I love my life

What is love

27/12/2010

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That is a very powerful question, I am not going to be able to answer it fully. It is not easy to answer this question fully, love put simply is caring for someone or something that you want to see them happy. Now the opposite of love is Jealousy and Indifference. Indifference is what breads jealousy. How well Indifference is the act of not caring, essentially it is not giving a stuff about what happens or caring about the other persons feelings, not caring if you reply to a message or email which may have been important to that person.

Having grown up in a house where there was more indifference then love makes it very hard. When someone is not bothered caring enough about the presentation of the house, not bothered about their own appearance or simular it shows. They let chores slip, oh someone else will do it. That’s Ron’s job (known as later on), the let the garden overgrow with weeds, they let the bin get crammed full and do not care to take it out, they do not care about making noise when others are busy or asleep. Essentially they do not give a stuff about anyone else, hmm a very powerful thought. How does this bread jealousy, well lets see a person who is indifferent doesn’t care to see others happy and when that person is happy they act in ways to sabotage and are jealous of that persons happiness and success.

For years I have seen so much indifference that people just do not worry about hurting anyone else. They do not simply care what happens or who they hurt. It is not easy. Now love is simply when you care enough for someone or something that it means a lot to you. That you take care of it and nurture it, you do not let the weeds get in the way, sometimes you have to prioritize what needs to be done and what does not need to be done. Other times you need to just do something small and that’s enough to make the task done. Yet when others do not worry about such when someone else has done something then it literally suggests that there is only indifference and not love.

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Being yourself

24/12/2010

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It is unfortunate that some people have to lock away who they are owing to another person’s treatment of them. They can not express themselves or be who they are; as a person owing to another persons conditioning saying things or doing things to them that have made them feel bad. It’s not a good way to live, the best thing is discover who you really are and isolate from those negative bad sources. The people who continually drag you down as a person and treat you as if you mean nothing to them, it’s never good. There are people in life who you can be around for just a few minutes rather then a few days, others who you want to spend life with or go on that amazing 30 day free cruise with.

So what you need to do is find those friends who you know you can count on for life and that will never let you down. The people who you can be your real self with, it’s about cleaning out the junk which others have implanted or conditioned you to believe that you are not worthy or good enough. This may be a long process it depends on what work needs to be done. Sure there are going to be people who do not want you to change, however you have to be strong enough to see those changes through. If the person really cares for you then they will accept the changes or who you are.

Unfortunately there are people who love to control others and have to ridicule and put others down, they may never learn their lesson. These people can end up in a lot of trouble, they do not realise nor do they care how much they are hurting others by their own actions. Anyway it is best to remain around people who motivate and inspire you to become the best possible person you can be they, accept who you are faults and failings. These are the greatest friends you could ask for.

Now when someone is able to be themselves they feel free and love who they are. There are lots of different types of people out there and well sometimes you just need to find the personality types that you are most comfortable with as a person. You have to feel free to be who you are without ridicule or criticism. If you can not be that person it’s not good at all. One way to find out who you are is by doing a 30 day mental cleanse at www.30daymentalcleanse.com and stopping the negative talk within your own mind.

Have a great day.

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