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As I sit here pondering about these last couple of weeks its interesting that I have been achieving small goals, ones that I did not even realise I had done. It’s just amazing seeing myself achieving those things that really mean a lot to me. You see when you achieve those small goals its saying yes you are on track to that larger goal. When you achieve those goals then its great, you see sometimes you may not even realise you are achieving those goals and then suddenly it’s happened. The achievement of small goals does lead to achievement of those much larger goals. Sometimes the opportunity you have been seeking may present it’s self from a totally different direction and hide it’s self for the achievement of those goals. Its a matter of being aware about what’s going on and saying ok lets do this.

All I can say is the sky is the limit when you start achieving goals. Even the ones that you do not even know you are setting or may not be on your official goals list. Yet its the achievement of those much smaller goals that will lead to that huge goal. Quite often you need to achieve those small ones which will open things up for the larger ones.

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How to heal those big hurts.

10/01/2011

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At times in our lives we all have something that really hurt us, something that shaped us into the person we are today values and beliefs. Now often those big hurts are lessons on so many things, they teach us to be the person we have to be to become what we have to. When a person is hurt by someone else it’s often owing to the lesson they need to learn as a person. Some people do not respect others as you do, others are just rude. Now it’s about making sure you remain true to yourself, your own values and stand by them through thick and thin. Healing from those big hurts often takes time on it’s own, also you need to be able to in a way forgive or grow from that experience.

It is often the case that people are placed in your life to learn something from there, some are there to learn to trust again. Others to teach you the skills you need in relationships, healing those big hurts does need forgiveness. You also need to be able to express your own feelings on what happened, you do not necessarily have to talk about such with that person who hurt you. However you do need to release such. Keeping such inside develops a number of complications including anger, now that makes things very hard. Unfortunately some people just can not understand what you have been through and sometimes do not realise things or just how much it hurts.

When you are angry it’s not easy, so what you also need to do is set limits on what you are prepared to do and go from there. Some people will not like having those limits and will start to object, you can do nothing about this. However the people who really care about you as a person are happy to work with you through such. To work on building those boundaries and quite often are very understanding and helpful. The ones who do not respect such are the ones who will drag you down. Setting boundaries does take time and others need to accept just who you are and why. As I said forgiveness is the key and releasing the hurt from what has happened to you.

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Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake

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You become what you think about

07/01/2011

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This is a great saying, people will always become what they think of. When we think of success then we achieve success, yet should we think of failure then you do not succeed at all in what you are doing as a person. The thing you need to do is become success conscious and have a success mindset knowing no matter what you are going to succeed. You surely will be tested no matter what happens and it will take time. Remember that each failure is bringing you closer to that success as a person, sometimes the failures will show you just what you have to learn or what needs to be worked on as a person.

Other times it’s about using those skills and just saying no problem lets work on this, that or the other. Remember that when the situation is right then no matter what happens you can do nothing wrong, yet when it’s not right you can never do anything right. Its the same in relationships also, you need to program your mind to think of success and saying such to yourself regularly no matter what happens and just be who you are as person. When you can laugh at stupid things then it’s good, sometimes its what is needed. We all need to remember that no matter what you become that which you think about as a person.

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Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake

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Faith

06/01/2011

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No this is not religion, this is belief in yourself. When you believe you can do something then you set your mind on doing it no matter what, this is even if there are some very negative destructive influences in your own life. When you have enough faith and belief within yourself then you are capable of achieving so many things, at times people need others behind them supporting and encouraging them believing in them. Letting them know that they are loved, accepted and special. It takes work to build this within yourself, yet it is a good thing when you can and do such.

Sometimes others have to show you that they believe in you and what you are capable of doing before you end up saying yes I can do this. This is what happens, when a person does not have such it’s very hard for them to believe in who they are as a person. However with support and encouragement people can achieve the greatest things in life, often with faith a person can go on to work through so many odds to become exceptionally successful.

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A person’s health.

05/01/2011

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Each person has their own level of health which is optimum or peak when a person does not take care of it their health will generally decline. It is a matter of making sure that a person takes care of themselves to maintain that health. The people who do not take care of themselves properly often end up with complications at some point; others well they do what they can and yet still may end up with worse the health issues.

You need to know what is needed to maintain and keep your own health at it’s best level. Sure sometimes there can stop you from doing some forms of exercise, however you can quite often find a way to exercise around your health restrictions. Often when people start eating right or taking care of their health their medical side may improve over time. The injuries or conditions may still be there, however it just takes time. Sometimes you may not even remember what it is was like being sick after you have been well for so long and say no I do not want to go back there. People sometimes need a good scare to say well I am not going to continue on this path no matter what.

It really depends on the person, some people know that no matter what they have to continue doing what they are to keep their health. Others its less, it’s about having an awareness of what you are like and realising ok this is what’s happening right now. This is why this is happening, sometimes injuries can flare up for no reason, however things like stress do have indicators such as eating too much. Being easily overwhelmed or otherwise.

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Want to learn more about relationships http://bdrake.successin10steps.com/?mad=52669 information is available from this eBook.

Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake

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