Who do you know that…..
Ok how would you like to relate to others as a person and know how to talk to them as a person?, to create those better relationships?, those better friendships????, sounds interesting. So lets take a look.
Do you know someone who is a lot of the time
kind hearted
sweet
kind
wonderful person
a very loving person
Has a lot of friends some may be false friends even and there can be a number of true friends.
Generous with time and money
They struggle to say no or when they do someone else is saying but and eventually give in.
Has been taken advantage of a lot by other people ….
Someone who nurtures others and rarely takes care of their own needs. They can even be a natural parent.
They can be a nurse, a doctor, a care giver, anything to really do with caring about others and showing they care.
I am sure that you do. Its who they are as a person
Do you know someone who always loves being the life of the party, centre of attention even
Wants to have fun and enjoys it too
They are out there trill seeking and doing all kinds of crazy stuff, it doesn’t matter what they do. They just go out there and enjoy themselves. It always has to be fun or their out of there. My mentor Michael Dlouhy is such
They are full of energy and vitality
They have all the awards and certificates
They may be constantly late
They are often talking quite a bit
They may be in sales as a person
They have sticky notes everywhere
They are unorganised
They have to get out what is in their head or they will forget such, which can be why they are talking so much. These people love the music and enjoy their life. Quite often they are in sales.
Do you know someone who takes forever to make a decision it may be to get into a company, it may to get a job, it may be find a new home, it may be to do something even propose.
Even to get into action
They follow through with such when they have decided what they want to do. Sometimes they stick with it until.
They believe they are rite all the time.
They may procrastinate and have something which have got to do and they want to use yet it takes them 12 months to do such. They may have to make a decision for a new place yet it takes them so long that when they do the place isn’t available anymore.
They can be good with numbers weather its engineering, accounting and everything has to be exact. Lets say everything has a place and it is in that place.
Do you know someone who is forever about authority
They expect it there way quite often they demand it
They believe they can talk to anyone anyway they want and it doesn’t matter
They are firm and stern
Quite often they are a chief executive officer, a pilot, a manager, a policeman they love the authority and the power which they get from such.
The person can be someone who has sayings like “I am old enough to be your father. Do as I say”.
Throughout own life I have met a number of people who fit into each of these 4 groups. Over the next few blog posts we are going to be looking at each of these people and what you can do to relate to them as a person. Lets look at the first group of people.
The nurtures or yellows as my good friend and mentor Michael Dlouhy would call them.
They are amazing people yet they are taken advantage of. They are constantly thinking of other people, they don’t often take care of their own needs as a person. They constantly put others needs before their own.
Their voice soft and gentle.
They may have a soft hand shake.
Always up for a hug and to display affection.
Always smiling.
They give from the heart of what they have as a person. They give money to the charities, they give time to such also.
They are taken advantage of by people as they don’t set firm boundaries and stick to them. They struggle to keep their boundaries as a person. They even struggle with the no’s owing to someone pestering them to do something they may not want to do as a person.
They love to talk about their family and friends, they enjoy talking about such. In order to get to know that person well forget about the money, just get them talking about their family and friends. How much they mean to them as a person. That is the best way to relate to someone, you can even relate when they have a pet such as a dog.
This is a good way to build that friendship with those people, talk about the important people in your life. Forget about business, just talk about the people who mean the world to that person. When you do that you will create a wonderful bond with that person.
The next person the fun person – the blues my mentor Michael Dlouhy is a blue.
His mind is racing so fast and attempts to get more than 24 hours out of each day on his own. Yet he’s a wonderful guy. For a blue it has to be fun, you have to be enjoying yourself. You achieve so much as you enjoy it.
Now to build a relationship with a blue talk about the fun things you’ve done such as the time you road a trail bike. A blue also loves to travel, they are generally on the go and will have a fast voice and will barely stop talking long enough to get a word in. You may have to interrupt them to talk, quite often they will take the conversation where they want it to go.
You can also cover 5 or 6 different subjects in one conversation with a blue, that they can be talking about one thing. Then suddenly speak on a different unrelated matter for some reason, then another topic. There are people who get frustrated from the constant changing of topics and who they are as a person.
A blue can be a very expressive person too, they will use a lot of emotion and will also use a lot of hand movements too.
There are a number of awards and certificates which they have as a person. They will be top sales person in their company and achieved a lot.
These people are often unorganised that forget appointments or are running late for some reason.
The Blues do have a wide circle of friends and family and are natural parents, although they need fun more than anything else.
In the next blog post we will cover the other two personalities also. Please note this is from training received from mentoring for free, that everyone will always have pieces of these in them however they will have a dominant personality.
Thank you to mentoring for free for their training on a persons personality and how you can relate to that person.
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