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Author: Mentor Ben Drake
Husband and father, mentor and coach, helping families to live better lives, model train expert living a healthy active fit lifestyle.
Doubting yourself
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There are many reasons why people do not succeed in any venture; weather it’s life, family, work, business or otherwise. A person does not achieve their goals or dreams owing to the fact that they doubt that they deserve what they are looking for. The hard part is remembering no matter what that you deserve such, sometimes it’s remembering those setbacks and there can be some very major setbacks and then picking yourself up and continuing on the journey. However when their is even a small doubt in your mind that you are going to achieve that goal then you do not achieve it. Sometimes you need to build yourself up and say ok this is what I want. Making sure that you find those people who are going to support you in that goal no matter what.
You often need the support of many others who believe in you enough until you can believe in obtaining that goal and that can be the hard thing. Others see it before you do at times, they can see you care for someone deeply, that you are excited about something, that it is what you want to be. Sometimes the greatest test is one of patience and knowing that no matter what it will happen. Sometimes you need to set that goal and forget such. I will use this as an example, I set a goal to go and see a soccer team, knowing no matter what I would. It kept on coming to my mind so it was a goal that I was meant to achieve. Now for me I had no idea how I was going to achieve this goal, yet I just let it happen.
Then a competition turned up, which I was listening to the start of a conference and they were talking about it I entered and was lucky to be one of those first 20 people and got tickets to go and see the sponsored soccer team locally. I see that as having set a goal and having no doubt within my mind that I would achieve such. That is what it’s about, knowing within yourself that it is going to happen no matter what may come your way. Yet when you do not believe such then it does not happen.
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Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake
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Following a recipe
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No I am not talking about cooking in this post. I am talking about following a system, following a tested system which is proven to work for others and not making any changes to that system.
Every business has a system and a way of doing things, we all develop that system through our training and habits. Some are complex that no one can even duplicate or replicate what we are doing others are simple that even a 2 year old may be able to do such. When you decided to change things is it for the best or is it because you want to, when you use a proven system and do what they do it’s how you get the best results; however when you tend to deviate from such then you may no longer get the results you are looking for or none at all. Other times when you are following the system your results may be small yet in the end the pay off is larger.
The question is asked would you use motor oil if you had no cooking oil in a cake recipe? I know would not like to motor oil as a cooking substitute although some people tend to think changing something will make all the difference to make that better or to get a better result from such. Sometimes yes tweaks will make it better and other times it can make things a lot worse. Sure it’s trial and error when their is no proven system, however with the proven system or something that works you do not need to change it. So why change it, unfortunately some people do devise systems or procedures which are so complex that they only understand such.
I am having to change some ways of doing things because of the complexity of what they were. Others are just perfect as they are. So what you need to do is make sure that the change is really necessary. If not then do not change it, is so then only make the changes needed. I spent years with a system that was to complex, now it’s easier and more workable. So make it easier for others rather than complex.
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Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake
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Imagination Synthetic and Creative
Ok lets look at this portion of imagination, I wrote a quick post yesterday on creative imagination now I am going follow on from that.
So what are the two synthetic imagination is thinking inside the box drawing inside the lines and remaining within the confines of what you are told to do, it is thinking this is the only way things are really. Not thinking ok is there another option to such. Whilst creative imagination is thinking outside the box, drawing outside the lines. The people who are creative tend to show it yet may be shunned from showing such at some point either by family or otherwise. They can be people who have low self esteem owing to them having been ridiculed, abused or hurt for thinking outside the square. Their talents may not of been recognised or developed for a variety of reasons and they may be restless in work that does not allow for them to be creative. Schooling may be hard owing to them not being able to use those talents.
Now the people who tend to use synthetic imagination are the ones who do the jobs like engineering or accounting. Having to always have the information the facts, not thinking ok this is possible or what about such. Where as someone who is creative tends to have the artistic flare, they can write, decorate, paint, build, they are the ones who think outside the box. They are caring people who love those who are in their lives, they tend to be people who make the most difference in others lives. They care about their friends, their family and those people who are important to them so deeply. What this means is that these people need a way to be able to express themselves without feeling that they have to do what they are told no matter what.
There are unfortunately people who do not allow others to creatively express themselves, they are only concerned about thinking inside that square at what is possible and is known. These people are people who will push those creative and artistic people away as they do not understand thinking outside the box. The parents who shun this creative ability will tend to drive their children away owing to them needing a way to express themselves however they are not receiving such. What is best is for people to develop the are of both thinking inside and outside the box. Sometimes it takes work, other times it does not. Yet when a person is continually put down by others for being creative it chips away at their inner person their self esteem and they are made to feel small. So they walk away from those relationships and say no sorry I am not going to associate with you anymore. They may not even say what happened they just stop spending as much time with those people, weather it’s family or otherwise. They just do not spend that time with them, the people who have said no sorry I am not going to take this will start wondering oh what has happened yet they may never be told.
Think about it are you driving someone away or are you pulling someone closer to you?
If you have any questions just contact or email me.
If you want to learn more about relationships http://bdrake.successin10steps.com/?mad=52669 some of the information is available from this eBook.
Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake
