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Author: Mentor Ben Drake
Husband and father, mentor and coach, helping families to live better lives, model train expert living a healthy active fit lifestyle.
Accepting yourself.
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Being able to accept who you are is one the biggest things in life, everyone is made differently and others try and program us saying you should be doing this or saying no this is what you have to do. Each person has what they enjoy doing and why. For me personally I enjoy entertaining and being able to spend time with those who I love in my own environment, although at times it is what happens. As I have said a few times we all get programed by people around us. I know people who have told me to this because it’s the done thing. They do not care that I want to do things my way or the way I know how to do things.
You have to accept yourself who you are as a person, to the degree that you have to remember every single person is different. Some people like to eat healthy food, some people like to eat un healthy food, others enjoy a mixture of both. Some people like sports or enjoy going outdoors to do such others are content relaxing whist swimming or talking with people. Everyone is so different, there are people who try to force their opinions on you.
Accepting yourself is being happy with yourself as person, you need no one to validate who you are other then yourself. So what you have to do is say “I love myself” to yourself regularly and I do mean regularly. Can you say it to yourself, I could never do that. Because it was hard, it took time and work. These days I love myself, accepting yourself is about also accepting where you are in life and saying well I am not going to put myself down anymore. Unfortunately people may have made us feel bad at some point because of their own belief in themselves. So they tear others down, you need to find a way to distance yourself from those influences and say the good positive things to yourself.
Each person has a different idea of what they want from life and what their purpose is. Everyone is here for a reason, they just need to find it. When someone has been put down for years it is hard to find work, to be yourself and to love yourself. The main reason for this is because you do not feel able to express yourself, you may have been told shut up when talking, not allowed to express your opinion or otherwise. Its hard yes, these days I am learning more and more ways to remove those negative thoughts and reprogram my mind with positive thoughts. It will take work and time yet it’s what I have to do.
Accepting yourself is loving yourself with all your own faults and failings, knowing this is what you are to do and going ok. Do you know what your purpose is in life. It is ok to not know, yet when people do know it really does help them discover themselves better.
If you have any questions just contact or email me.
If you want to learn more about relationships http://bdrake.successin10steps.com/?mad=52669 some of the information is available from this eBook.
Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake
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Being too trusting who does it hurt?
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Trust it’s a big thing in any relationship if that’s a friendship, a marriage, a couple (partners, lovers, boyfriend or girlfriend). There are so many types of relationships that it’s not easy to name them all, essentially we all have relationships in our lives. Every relationship always requires trust some require more trust the others a couple who are married or seeing each other need to trust each other deeply. Where as work colleagues may not need as much trust, they may have to trust others with their lives in professions others it’s not as necessary. Trust is a necessary part of team work, when you do not trust someone how do you have any relationship with them.
It is hard, when you really trust someone and they abuse the trust then it’s not them that gets hurt. It is usually the person who trusted them that gets hurt badly. People tend to learn a lesson too quickly about trust when someone else abuses or missuses their trust. I learnt that one quite some time ago, I am a very trusting person and yes someone abused the trust quite badly. The friendship will never be the same again, there is no way it ever can be the same again. Once someone has violated your trust it is an exceptionally hard to win that trust back. The person who violated the trust in the beginning has to somehow show they are trustable again and that takes work.
As I said trusting someone too much does hurt only the person who trusted the other person deeply. When any trust is broken it’s not good for the person who has had it violated they can devalue themselves and their self esteem or self worth can start to decline further then what it was initially and that does hurt.
If you have any questions just contact or email me.
If you want to learn more about relationships http://bdrake.successin10steps.com/?mad=52669 some of the information is available from this eBook.
Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake
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