Mentor Ben Drake • Coach Freedom and Friends

The hard part is knowing when you have had enough of a problem, a situation or similar. Generally there happens to be an upper tolerance for people. When people reach this they start looking at the options and start trying to work out what is the best option for them. Essentially how they are going to get the problem deal with. They are saying look how am I able handle this problem or what can I do about this situation, it’s different for each person as to what they accept and tolerate as a person. Even for how long, however there is a point when they say I have had enough of this, I am going to do something about such and then to go from that point on.

This is often a time of change for that person, as they are saying I am not prepared to accept such anymore. Whether it’s a living arrangement, a financial situation, grieving over a dead relative you never know what will cause that person to say no more. Quite often the problem or situation has built up over time and will take work to be able to deal with. Each person needs to do this in their own way and go from there. When a person has had enough they work on dealing with the problem, they do whatever it takes no matter what and they are motivated to change the problem. Normally this is when the problem has been going on for so long.

Essentially only you know when you have had enough and when to say this is enough. It depends on how much you are prepared to put up with as a person. That is what the real test is knowing what you are prepared to accept and not accept as a person.

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The right opportunity

21/02/2011

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During the course of our lives we are given a opportunity, at times they last a while other times they do not last long at all. Those that last are the ones that we work to keep hold of, that we go ok this is what I want and I am not going to change it. Sometimes things are worth it, other times opportunity only brings learning experiences. So what you need to do is learn to recognise that right opportunity and go from there. You need to know what a good opportunity is and what a bad one is.

People can turn bad opportunities into good ones; it’s a matter of knowing how to do such. When the time is right you move forward and not backwards, you go full speed ahead and do not slow down. Sometimes you need to know when to rest and recuperate or to go ahead. It’s about knowing when to pull back and when to say yes to something there are times when you do not know, there are times when you can turn a bad opportunity into a really good one. It’s a matter of knowing how to do such and going from there.

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19/02/2011

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What’s holding you back – Excessive Fear, Self Doubt?

18/02/2011

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In our own lives there is something that might be holding us back from achievement of a goal or dream. The hard part can be working out what is holding the person back from success. Some people are afraid of success; some are afraid of losing the person they love. The thing is fear is a big thing which holds people back and it stops people dead in their tracks. It stops people from making that next move which will ultimately grant them success.

Personally I’d rather make baby steps towards a goal, rather then one big leap forward. Why? Well when you make minor changes you notice them more, the major changes can sometimes become so overwhelming. So it’s best to do such over time not to change everything at once. Ok so something happened and it was meant to, a situation comes up and you go ok let’s just handle this and get back to achieve that goal. Ok so you have limited time to work owing to having something unexpected coming up and that took it’s time; sure that does happen. However the one thing that needs to be done is saying ok lets regroup. What do I need to do to be able to get today done as this has happened? Life quite often throws tests at you to see if you are ready, it tests you. You are given opportunities daily to meet your goals; they are sometimes tests or designed to show you that you are ready for moving on. It also lets you see what you may have achieved or become.

The question is what is stopping you from achieving that goal, is there some voice inside saying hey you are not worthy. You are not ready, that’s what it used to be like for me, you cannot do this, why are you doing this. I have seen my life turn around owing to changing my thinking, allowing myself to associate with more positive people rather than listening to the programming of my past. These days seeing those changes in my life and going ok this is how we are going to handle such and this is what needs to happen.

Now old man fear can paralyse you and keep his hold on you. Why well he programs you saying look you are not worth this, you cannot do such. You need to recognise what is stopping you from reaching that next level in your profession, business or personal lives and say well ok this is how I am going to handle such. I am ready and that is what needs to happen, this is how this issue needs to be worked on. What you need to do is show yourself that the thing you fear is no longer relevant to you. This takes work, time and patience yet it’s what happens.

Self Doubt is driven by fear that you doubt you can do something owing to the programming you have received. We are programmed daily from many sources and we need to stop listening to such programming and start to program our own minds. We are the creators of our own destiny, there is a poem called Invictus by William E Henley which finishes by saying

I am the master of my fate.
I am captain of my soul.

This is a very potent poem especially these last two lines, owing to the fact it reminds me that everyone is in control of our own destiny and we control our own future. We decide what is allowed to come into our own minds and what is not, we decide what holds us back and what is not, we decided who we are going marry, we decide who our partner will be, we decide to destroy a relationship or nature it. Yes ok health may get in the way of achieving a goal, no matter what there is always a way to work around such. You just need to find the way to deal with things and regroup. We need to learn to create our own life, that life which we ultimately want as person. No one else is capable of doing such, as they do not know what we are after. We have to let those who are special to us know what are needs are and what we want. We also need to remind them.

When we suppress our needs, wants and desires owing to others programming because of the negative emotions then it destroys our lives. However when we literally say look no that’s not on and that’s not fair it can mean you have moved on. Each of us will need to learn something that is going to assist us in the future. It could be more confidence or saying look no way. Each person has to learn to deal with different things and well that is what has to happen.

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Using your talents

17/02/2011

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One thing each person has is talents; we all have abilities which we given that allow us to succeed in life. Bellow is just some of what be a person’s talents
a calm demeanour
a natural telephone voice
understanding of legal matters
financial management
writing of stories, poems, blogs and newsletters
motivating, supporting and encouraging others
story teller
natural parent
leader

Each of us has those talents which are needed and necessary in our own lives. We have a number of them as a person, the list above is certainly not a list of everything, I know there are so many talents. These were given to us to allow us to become successful in our own lives. When we use these natural talents we then start to become successful within our own lives. So what we need to do is find a way to use all these natural talents within our daily lives, whether its network marketing, parenting, teaching or any other profession. We need to use these talents in both our professional and business lives.

During our developmental years we are trained to hone our skills and talents, however there are talents which come naturally to us. Now sure there are also skills which need to be developed in people. However it is our natural talents that are the ones which are best being used in our lives. What you need to do is work on utilising those talents that come naturally to you and using them regularly in your daily life. There are many reasons why we need to use our natural talents. It can be helping a friend in their time of need by being understanding supportive and encouraging, it may be showing someone the path that is best for them to take and encouraging them to become better as a person, it may be raising a child or children you never know.

There are so many uses for our talents which we need to realise and use regularly. There are reasons why we learn those lessons and that is normally to teach us something. We have to learn something. There is nothing we can do about that. Think about what your natural talents are find a way to use them daily and regularly.

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Author: Mentor Ben Drake

When do you say this is enough

The right opportunity

What’s holding you back – Excessive Fear, Self Doubt?

Using your talents