Had a great training today, looking forwards to a good rest and getting back out there.
Author: Mentor Ben Drake
Husband and father, mentor and coach, helping families to live better lives, model train expert living a healthy active fit lifestyle.
Fear and Faith
Fear and Faith.
These are two very powerful emotions one positive and one negative. What can I say faith is believing in something so much that you go for it saying to yourself "I will do it or die?" no matter what you are going achieve that goal. Faith is often the start of many dreams which became reality, it starts with a small spec yet grows bigger and bigger until it is consuming your own life. Having seen such happen in my own personal life well it is strange, having the faith to know you are making that right decision whether the outcome is good or bad. There are many ways that faith works and it is about exposure and what you choose to let into your own mind.
Influences come in many forms the TV, Culture and more. How much a person is exposed to something quite often means how the person's life may turn out, if a person is brought up around crime it is often that the person will be compelled to commit crime themselves. If a person is brought up in love, they will often know how to love another person well, should they not see that love or it dwindle then it left imagination or culture to program the person how to respond to such. Some people have a dream of what love is, even though they are brought up with love being very little they keep that view why because they have faith in such. Deep down they know it is who they are, the story of my life having had numerous people say no to me owing to how I view romance I shut down yet one person managed to help me draw that out again and I am glad I met them.
Now onto fear, this is again a very powerful emotion it is what stops people from acting. They remain stuck because they fear the outcome it is certainly such for me, having been brought up and conditioned to feel fear. It is what happens for me I am glad again to have met someone that has been helping me gradually work through such although they may not know that it is being done. For me I have lived a lot of my life in fear owing to many reasons a lot of hurt, anger and more. Yet these days I work on not letting those emotions get to me sure, they may eventually get to me quickly. I understand now that my motivation for me to get my weight under control was fear of ill health, lack of health, what was I going to do.
Anyway, years later I sit here having the best health possible with my weight under control, how well through belief. Through faith, the power of faith is a very strong thing when applied correctly, as I said I lived in fear of ill health and well I had let my health go badly. It is now working on maintaining it knowing what I could become should I not maintain that health. For me seeing myself in better health then I have known for years and now being able to say, I am happy with what I have achieved.
A tip for those who are looking to get their health back it is best to be motivated by some factor, yet that motivation often needs support and encouragement. Someone there who is willing to support you to achieve your goal in improving your health; without such it can be exceptionally hard to keep up the regime, I ended up with very supportive people who were encouraging me to get my health under control. Having been ill for so long it was not easy, today I am who I am thanks to their support and faith.
For me a great example of faith recently came my way, in the hours after a family death I realised what I was really looking for in my life. What I really wanted, for me I am prepared to walk that road. I have avoided the road for a while. Yet having that death in the family it's made that burning desire stronger to be a father, it's made me realise that yes that is who I am as a person. I am someone who is a family guy, who loves being around his family. I may not have had the best upbringing yet I can certainly give my own kids a better life, a better upbringing. Where anything is possible, not the environment where a person eventually ends up in fear; that is no way to live I know that from personal experience. I am coming out of a winter a very long winter yet spring is finally on the horizon and it is nice to finally have such. There may be more winters yet I know they may not be as long. It is good to finally be able to start putting my life back together again.
Desire
I have been doing a bit of personal development reading an awesome book recently. This book has allowed me to see myself yet also given me insights into who I am as a person. I have seen myself been drawn out a bit recently. The one thing that I have learned is how to stick up for myself in a fight; I have had to learn that. It is what happens, for me I have learnt that I am the type of person who is comfortable being surrounded by family. Despite our history, I am someone who just gives from the heart. Typical me, I know that owing to what I have been like for years. It is who I am as a person; I have had volunteer roles since I was 16.
Yet that is not the reason why I choose desire as today's topic. There are a couple of states of desire; desire is wanting something essentially, there is desire and a burning desire. It is the burning desire, which helps people to succeed most in life. What is the major difference between both desire and burning desire; well with a burning desire, you will stop at nothing to achieve it. I have heard something great a number of times and it is true of burning desire. Once you have chosen your mountain in life "It's my mountain in life and you will either see me at the top waving my flag or dead on the side cause I am not coming back – Jim Rohn – Business Philosopher". It is too true, basically its saying I am going to achieve this goal or die trying, when you have that will to succeed, it is saying ok no matter what I am going to make this happen. The person often comes from the position of ok nothing is going to stop me from achieving this goal no matter what.
Recently I finally realised that I had a burning desire of my own to be a father, for me I know I can be a great father. I know that I can use my own experience from my upbringing to raise a child of my own and show them love. Having been brought up in a broken home where love was very much hardly there, anyway there is nothing I can do to change that. Yet I can make sure that I teach my own kids the value of love, love them for who they are as people. Encourage and support them in their goals and dreams.
Having come to the discovery that I am happy being surrounded by loved ones. Even if they are not good for me makes it very hard yet it is what happens. I know it is time to move on and walk a road that has to be done. For me there are many things, which are important to me, yet none as important as being surrounded by those that matter most to me. I always will give from the heart; money is no object to me. I know that it is time for me to become a father and move into the next phase of my life. The area where I can love someone else and make them feel special.
I have seen a side of me that shows me the type of father I will be and how I shall treat my partner in life. All I can say is it is great for me; I look forwards to that day when I do become a father and I know deep inside myself I will be an awesome father.
Lessons
I have learned a bit lately it has been interesting lately and for me it has been learning about myself. However there is one thing that deeply inside myself I want. I shall need to discuss this with the appropriate person and well it is time to take that path. Sure that scares me and it's what happens, however the road I must take is one that I know needs to be taken. I have searched high and low and for me answers have finally started coming to me. It is time to move on, for me I know it is what has to happen.
Let see tips for weight loss or diet. A very important part in being successful in any weight loss program even maintenance or simular is changing your eating habits. Yet also having the right support from someone who can really help, this is critical in success for such. It's hard yes to lose weight and some people really do struggle with such. Coming from personal experience and knowing how hard it is, each person is different on how they chose to lose weight. One method may work for one person but not for someone else. You are unable to tell what will work for someone and not for another until they get into the program.
Moving Forwards
It's taken me a little while to know that I will be ok. Last week I had to say to a role thank you for having me, I am not coming back. For me that was a big decision to make saying to a company look I am unable to work for you anymore. I know that what happened was to show me that I need to move away, it's time for me to leave that area of life behind me. For me it's time to walk away from working in the IT industry. Despite the fact it's where my training is, I am unable to work there anymore owing to my health. So ultimately that means working in the area I am now health and wellness a area I love and enjoy as it gives me a life.
For me I enjoy swimming 3 days a week, years ago when I first went to the gym I was barely able to move up and down the stairs. Compared to what health I had then to now I am running at well better then what I used to, my health may of been 10% of what it is today then. I was not a well person in those days, I have built up a support network who encourages and believes in me. I have hope and I pleased. Sure I still have to overcome a number of hurdles, however a major portion of them have been overcome. Last week being able to say to an employer I am not accepting this and I am not staying was a big thing for me. It showed that I am not prepared to accept people thinking they can treat me badly. I have grown up with a number of people who have treated me rather poorly, some of them I am surprised I let them get away with such.
That was the old me, sitting back and reflecting thinking hang on what is the major change here. Well for me there have been a few things that have changed for me. Since changing my diet I am not as angry as I used to be, since losing weight I have more self-esteem and confidence, I am happier with myself. Sure there are things that still have to change and they will change as time passes. For me it is time to build my business, it is time for me to build my life and to enjoy a great family.
Ok let's look at persistence and weight loss or achieving your goals, persistence is about being committed to do something until achieving a result it means doing until. It's something that is needed if you want to succeed with weight loss or anything in life. When you make a choice and decision, you choose to either go for it or leave such to fall to the side. Anyway for me it's great to finally have created a life which I love.
