Author: Mentor Ben Drake

For me life has been a journey, I am unsure what the ultimate destination is however I have started to realise some of the visions which have shown up in my life over the last 6 months. Things are finally starting to make more sense for me and I am glad. Sure some of the things I have been through are not easy, things are placed there to teach us a lesson.

For example someone who pushes you around is quite possibly there to show you that you are hanging around with the wrong people. They an be someone who may not realise what they are doing however they have to have control. This person may not be easy to work with, OK so what this means is that my life until now did not suit the lifestyle which I was living. It's a long story and one that some people will hear. Yet essentially for me I know that a life I used to live is not the life that suits me. It's good to know whats going on.

Living my life. Well I have learned a lot over the last 3 months through some trial and error. Some people have shown their true colours or personality and made me realise hey why am I following those people who are unsuccessful or do not understand. Sometimes these people just want to make their presence known and push people around, tell them what to do and how to do it. That really hit home last week, despite the fact that I had a bug I still did my personal development. I still managed to get things done, despite being unwell I got things done; today I sat on my weekly conference call and listened to all the successful people.

I have to go back and learn many things, how to make my business work. It is going to take patience yet I am doing the best I can. I stopped blogging regularly on a daily basis owing to recommendation from a unsuccessful person who had merit in what they said. Now that I have come to understand myself, better and understand what was going on well ok it is what happened. My life was a mess owing to programming and the negative influences in my life. Those negative influences has me down and out, I had to choose to listen to other people. I listened to one person and that got me to a point, yet they only helped me start the journey.

Anyway, as I will say my mind is now a lot clearer and I have direction in what I want to do, I am better off. I have realised why some people have stuck around, others have not our personalities were never the same. That was why a friendship destroyed its self 6 months ago; our wants and needs were too different. For me being a person who needs to feel wanted and respected. The old friend could not meet those requirements. So what changed boy I wish I knew what to say, part of it has been having a constant friend in my life. Yet also, finding a mastermind group was willing to help me deal with things, for me finding mentoring for free and doing a mental cleanse has really opened my eyes allowed me to become a better person and to realise the type of person I am.

In my life, I have let others tell me what to do for too long, I left a group a few months ago and finally realised why that group did not work for me. This time I am not going to listen to those negative people that say stop this it is for your own good. When they are not successful themselves, my lack of success is because I have been around the wrong people. Coming from a broken family where I live with no love or love is not shown, that is ok it is not my fault. Yet knowing that someone does really care about me is the one thing I enjoy right now. Sure, I have my ups and downs, yet I know in my heart that I am on the right track now.

There are a number of people who I would thank so many times; they are worth their weight in gold. To me I was searching for a way to volunteer and help people when I closed the chapter on my old life and I found such. I asked myself time and time again what am I going to do when I move away from the coast, I found that answer. I know now that everything is being placed into motion for me to for fill my life's purpose. The negative people may say but Ben this is not how it has done, tough it is my life and I choose how to live it. I know deep within myself that I am becoming now the person I had to be, those 27 roles or jobs I had in the past each taught me a skill needed for my future. These days it's goodbye to the negative it is not possible or do not want to know it people and lets go.

See you at the top.

Ben

Everybody comes to the stage where they are saying all right that is enough. Right now, that is where I am; sometimes you do what you love yet no one will acknowledge such. I am someone who has given to others since I was 17, there are people out there who say oh a 3-day weekend time to party. 3-days off, what about those people who work no matter what day it is; I had to say this to someone recently I am not having 3-days off I am still working on Monday. Today I would like to look at appreciation for those people who just give, these people are the ones who work through the night to make sure that people are safe, and they are the ones who give from the heart.

Quite often, these people will not worry about their own needs and they even let their own needs come last. For year's this has been me, the one who has put everyone else before himself his parents, his siblings and even his colleagues. Doing everything for them, some people never know how much someone is doing for others. I think it is time that I choose what I want over my own family and colleagues right now. For me it is time to concentrate on those relationships I want and to let people deal with their own little mess that they have created. It is time to start that family, meaning finding someone who I can love and loves me back for who I am as a person.

For me I am a romantic writing poems, picnics in the park, candle lit dinners, music by candle light, sleigh rides in the snow, gondola rides in Venus, it's part of my personality who I am as a person. I am someone who romances a woman and appreciates her in my own way; it is not about flowers to me. It is showing her I care, spending time with a woman and sharing my life with her. I have many deep beliefs even in the fact that a person's personality is more beautiful than their exterior beauty. No one is the same; people have a different view on how they see things. People's beliefs have formed so differently for many reasons; I certainly know my deceased grandmother a family woman who would do anything for her family majorly influenced my belief system.

Anyway, for me the time has come to walk that road to say well I am not going to just sit around and do nothing about it anymore. It is time to really care about someone deeply. It is time to break those shackles that my family has engrained into me and say that is not true. For me it is time to build my own life. I have no idea how I am going to meet the woman who is to be my wife yet, however it will happen. It is destined to happen.

Yet I for me I know that there are people out there protecting us when most people are asleep, they are the police, the ambulance, the fire fire-fighters, the emergency workers both volunteer and paid. They work 24 hours 7 days a week and 365 days a year to make sure people are safe, then there is the public transport providers they do the same thing do not stop. For me occasionally it would be nice to hear someone say I appreciate what you do, it would be nice to have someone show me they appreciate me for doing that which I have done for many years. In a way, it would be nice to be shown hey I appreciated what you did for me; I have been the one who has taken care of things for others for too long. Anyway, I know it is time to create that life. There are a lot of people out there who are the unsung heroes or people who never get acknowledged or appreciated or very little appreciation. Yet I know it is time to take charge of my own life.

Others opinions and their beliefs, there are many people who enjoy making others feel small. There are people out there who love to build people up, there are people out there who love to have fun, there are people out there who love to build others up. One of the things that I have been learning recently is about personality and how people are made just from their words or actions. I have noticed a few examples of someone who loves controlling others just from words or actions. They are people who are saying get out of my way; this is my way or the highway. Even this morning I saw classic example of someone like that, driving back from the gym someone was so frustrated with my driving that they were exclaiming with their hands in anger. Eventually they overtook me yet they were playing "coming through move out of my way".

This type of person is someone who in-stills fear others and expects that they can get away with such. These people have destroyed others dreams because they can often think of themselves and not of others. I have been starting to understand more and more about these people and myself. Last week's funeral went well and it showed me where my personality came from and why I am who I am. My personality is that of someone who loves giving to family and friends, someone who will just give, give, gives. The person who keeps on giving, yet also my consuming desire to be a father and I even realised why I have struggled to maintain work for so long.

I was not meant to work for a boss, I was meant to be someone who helped raise my own kids. That is my mission in life, to be at home with his partner helping her raise the kids, for me I love what I do, yet I work around my family and other commitments. The funeral taught me that I could work things around my family and friends no matter what, its finding things that work for me to get my business going. For me I am someone who is always there for my friends when they need me, I always have been. There are people I know who were not such, they could not be there for someone when that person needed them. Eventually a person will get so frustrated with that person that they will just say sorry goodbye and leave. That is what I do, I get to a stage where I have had enough and walk away. There is a saying "I've had enough of this", then walk out the door.

It amazes me the people who need to analyse everything. Everything, they have all the coupons save the most money, yet they sometimes miss things. There are people out there who miss out, as they took too long to make a decision. For me I just know that although I take time to make a decision sometimes it is because I am not ready to act yet, others it is because it is not right. Other times I have already made the decision; I just have not realised that yet. Sometimes I am just getting the information for future reference. Other times it needs work, there are many reasons people delay action and a great saying I heard recently. There is never the perfect time to do something. You just need to work around what is being done and you will know then to say or do something.

There is one last person who is out there, the ones who just want to have fun. Everything they do just has to have fun involved meaning dancing the night away, parties and just generally having a good time. These are great people they can be family orientated and wonderful people also. Anyway, a question there is no right or wrong answer to this.... Other than money, what is most important to you?