Author: Mentor Ben Drake

Walking the road of life is never easy. What we need to do is become a better person. What we really need to do is work on becoming a much better person as a whole. We need to work on starting to develop ourselves into a much better person. A person is never the same; you are either progressing as a person or declining. As there is no middle ground, we have to grow as a person or we will soon start to decline.

Becoming a better person is about learning those skills that you need to and having an awareness of what skills you need as well as which barriers you may need to conquer yourself. Which fears and what scares you, then going out there and doing such. Becoming a stronger better person for such, you can do this only through personal development and improving yourself with courses, trainings and much more.

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A very interesting thing is that you cannot force someone to love you just as you want. You may want another someone to love you as a lover; however ultimately you are unable to make them love you just the way you want them to. People choose to fall in and out of love by choosing to no longer commit to a relationship or a friendship. They choose to say I do not want your friendship anymore and many other things. Now the hard part is that some people may love you but suddenly choose to no longer love you for who you are.

Love is about choice, you must choose to love that person everyday or it is not going to work at all. Therefore, love is about choice. When you wake up having been abused or hurt by someone whom you live with then it does not help the love or relationship at all; once someone starts abusing or hurting someone else owing to no love then it makes it very hard, the people who put you down are the ones who do not love themselves. They do not know love themselves and find it hard to show it to others.

In order to love someone else you have to be able to love yourself your good and bad points. Yet also forgive those who have really hurt you. The pain may still be there yet you have to release that hurt as a person. Ultimately, you cannot force anyone to love you no matter what happens. The person must choose to love you as a person.

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Essentially, we become a product of those who we listen to; however, those who we listen to as a person are the people who shape us to become that person who we have to become for our future. These people teach us to become they person who we have to be. Some of us grow up in a home where love had to come from another person treated badly, others grow up in a home where love is constant however we treated poorly and need to learn things again.

There are people who try to condition us into the person they want us to be owing to the fact that they believe she should be more like them or that they can make us in their image. Some people even think they are doing the right thing for us however, they are hurting us. Some people will use various tactics to get us to do what they want without realising that it could be in fact hurting us more then they realise. They may even like the person who we used to be, it is hard when someone does not accept some else after they have changed something about themselves.

This could be regaining their health; it could be that they do not do a normal job. These people want that person to be just like them, they may not love themselves so they work on conditioning that person to become more like them. Some people do not want others to grow up or are jealous of losing someone they love. However in this case they quite often drive a wedge between themselves and that person who they love forcing the person to walk away.

Some people’s influence on us can be positive others negative. When we hang around good positive people then our life goes forward, however when we hang around bad people then our lives go downhill. This is how we are shaped that we essentially become the product of our environment and another person’s influences on us. We therefore need to learn from these experiences and become that person who we had to become for our future selves.

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Our attitude toward life’s problems can quite often be the thing that determines our own success of failure, when we think success then we are successful. However, when we think negative or failure then that is what we are going to get. So essentially we must work on keeping our mind positive and knowing that no matter what we are going to be a success. That things will always work out for the best and how they were meant to.

We must take the learning experiences in our stride and say ok what do I need to learn from this, what is my lesson from this. Quite often beneath every challenge is a lesson for each of us, we must learn that lesson and go from there. We take those lessons with a positive attitude and say this was to teach me something, what was that. When we say ok what did I have to learn and expect success even with those small failures, which are teaching us where we are going wrong and why we are not succeeding.

It is the same with relationships, business and family. When we expect to be successful then we are, even though we may have numerous failures. When we are consistent and persistent towards a goal no matter what and say no I am going to do this even if it is the last thing I ever do. Normally we achieve it even though we may go through lots of failures. Each of those failures is a learning experience of what to do and not to do.

Having a great attitude, picking ourselves up after a failure, and working on finding out why such did not work helps. It is a matter of expecting success to come when we are ready for such, once we have grown to become worth that success and knowing no matter what that we are going to do it. Yet when we think we are failing then we often do fail. So think about such, which is your major, mindset the thoughts of failure or the thoughts of success.

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Ben Drake