Month: May 2011

Quite often our friends are our greatest influences. When we hang around the wrong influences then our lives tend to go downhill it is the same with family, that both of these people can drag our lives down owing to the power that they have over us. We allow them to have some form of power over us as a person so we end up letting them run our own lives. Quite often our income will match that of our greatest influences as people.

That should we be thinking poverty and hang around people who struggle to pay their bills then we will do the same, should we hang around people who have an abundance whether it’s love, money, skills or otherwise then we become like those people. Sure OK at times we need to learn new skills, however we are taught how to behave by our greatest influences in life. Sometimes it takes having to cut these people out of our lives and say no I am not going to put up with this anymore. Cutting out those negative bad influences and saying no I am not going to put up with this.

There are some good and bad influences out there, the good ones are those people who encourage you to grow as a person they encourage you to become the person you were intended to be. Whist the bad ones are the ones will pull you down to their level, when you hang around something for long enough then eventually you start to attract such. When you hang around people who struggle to pay their bills then you eventually fall into that trap. Your life goes downhill, so when you hang around people who pull you up then you tend to excel. However when they pull you down your life goes downhill weather that is friends or family. Quite often we have been shaped by our friends and family to become the person they want us to be.

Often we have developed our patterns of friendship and habits by the time we reach adult hood. The person who has been hurt constantly by people starts to have few friends owing to trust issues. They however in time learn to trust however it takes a long time. Once you hurt someone it takes work to earn a person’s trust back. It’s the same with most things we need to learn from those who have what we are seeking and then go from there.

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In our lives we have people who become part of us, these people see us through good and bad times. They become a part of our family; they are wonderful people who mean a lot to us as people. Meaning that you are involved in their lives as much as they are in yours. Often you will meet people who have very similar interests with mild differences and that helps to create a relationship and friendship with that person.

The people who become part of us are often the ones who are our true friends, they are great people who compliment us and make us a better person. They see us for the person we are, even when times are rough. They care for us and are a true friend, there for us when we need them most with their wisdom to support and encourage you. These people become a big part of our own lives, they are wonderful people.

These people touch our lives in a way that no other can, they leave a lasting impact quite often beyond their own death or leaving your life. These are great people as what they did for us remains with us for all our lives no matter what. These people leave a lasting impression which makes us a much better person and the person who we were meant to be as a whole.

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Manipulation is pushing someone around so that you can get your own way. Interesting yet we see it every day in our own lives that we have people who do not care about us, they just want to use us or our talents. Yes they just want to use our talents or skills so that they can get ahead for some reason, there are people who do not allow others to say no. They do not allow others to think for themselves and do not care who they push around. These people can really hurt others as a person; they push others around wanting to make themselves feel better.

So they hurt others and make them feel small, a lot of these people put others down making themselves feel bigger and better. It is best to walk away from the friendships and relationships which are like such, to create and establish clear boundaries. However some people do not even want to accept those boundaries as a person. That is hard yet walking away in this type of situation is what is needed and has to happen.

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Often in our lives there is something that drives us to succeed and pushes us to achieve what we were destined to achieve as a person. That can be a person, a goal or a dream it is our why. We have to discover just what is motivating and driving us to become successful; so we can become the person we were meant to be. We need to look at the person we are so that we can grow and say this is what I stand for and believe in. This is what drives and motivates me to succeed.

Remember that behind every great person is quite often a very loving supportive partner who has helped them through the good and bad times seen them through quite a bit and knows their story of pain. Think about what is driving you to succeed as a person.

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Lately I have been talking about our achievements from the courageous things we’ve done to our goals. What we achieve has something to teach us about our own lives purpose why we are here, own mission that we were sent here for. Each person is placed into our lives for a reason, yet we often have a reason why we are in their lives ourselves they are there to teach us a lesson. Yet that is not what this post is about, each person has their own strengths and weakness which we need to work through as a person. These can be good and bad, it is part of who we are as a person.

For some people their strengths are their natural parenting skills, along with the ability to write and be a good friend. However their weaknesses could be the amount of work are able to do, how they handle stress and pressure as a person. Its hard however it’s who people are as a person, each of us has those talents and we use them in our lives work. We are given the resources to perform our lives work through our past and also given our purpose when we are born.

Our past helps us to become the person we were intended to be, we were given at birth the reason why we here however we may not know or understand why and then our lives shape us to become that person we were to become to perform that lives work. You live through those things to become that person who you had to be. Yet throughout our lives we find a way to use our talents without even realising what we are doing as a person. It’s who we are and the person we are, we just need to acknowledge that person and the only way we find out who we are as a person is by cleaning up the junk from our past and becoming our true self as a person.

Then we are capable of becoming that person who we were intended to be for our own future.

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