What’s holding you back – Excessive Fear, Self Doubt?

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In our own lives there is something that might be holding us back from achievement of a goal or dream. The hard part can be working out what is holding the person back from success. Some people are afraid of success; some are afraid of losing the person they love. The thing is fear is a big thing which holds people back and it stops people dead in their tracks. It stops people from making that next move which will ultimately grant them success.

Personally I’d rather make baby steps towards a goal, rather then one big leap forward. Why? Well when you make minor changes you notice them more, the major changes can sometimes become so overwhelming. So it’s best to do such over time not to change everything at once. Ok so something happened and it was meant to, a situation comes up and you go ok let’s just handle this and get back to achieve that goal. Ok so you have limited time to work owing to having something unexpected coming up and that took it’s time; sure that does happen. However the one thing that needs to be done is saying ok lets regroup. What do I need to do to be able to get today done as this has happened? Life quite often throws tests at you to see if you are ready, it tests you. You are given opportunities daily to meet your goals; they are sometimes tests or designed to show you that you are ready for moving on. It also lets you see what you may have achieved or become.

The question is what is stopping you from achieving that goal, is there some voice inside saying hey you are not worthy. You are not ready, that’s what it used to be like for me, you cannot do this, why are you doing this. I have seen my life turn around owing to changing my thinking, allowing myself to associate with more positive people rather than listening to the programming of my past. These days seeing those changes in my life and going ok this is how we are going to handle such and this is what needs to happen.

Now old man fear can paralyse you and keep his hold on you. Why well he programs you saying look you are not worth this, you cannot do such. You need to recognise what is stopping you from reaching that next level in your profession, business or personal lives and say well ok this is how I am going to handle such. I am ready and that is what needs to happen, this is how this issue needs to be worked on. What you need to do is show yourself that the thing you fear is no longer relevant to you. This takes work, time and patience yet it’s what happens.

Self Doubt is driven by fear that you doubt you can do something owing to the programming you have received. We are programmed daily from many sources and we need to stop listening to such programming and start to program our own minds. We are the creators of our own destiny, there is a poem called Invictus by William E Henley which finishes by saying 

I am the master of my fate.
I am captain of my soul.

This is a very potent poem especially these last two lines, owing to the fact it reminds me that everyone is in control of our own destiny and we control our own future. We decide what is allowed to come into our own minds and what is not, we decide what holds us back and what is not, we decided who we are going marry, we decide who our partner will be, we decide to destroy a relationship or nature it. Yes ok health may get in the way of achieving a goal, no matter what there is always a way to work around such. You just need to find the way to deal with things and regroup. We need to learn to create our own life, that life which we ultimately want as person. No one else is capable of doing such, as they do not know what we are after. We have to let those who are special to us know what are needs are and what we want. We also need to remind them.

When we suppress our needs, wants and desires owing to others programming because of the negative emotions then it destroys our lives. However when we literally say look no that’s not on and that’s not fair it can mean you have moved on. Each of us will need to learn something that is going to assist us in the future. It could be more confidence or saying look no way. Each person has to learn to deal with different things and well that is what has to happen.

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