January, 2011 • Coach Freedom and Friends

Major disasters happen all the time. There are earthquakes, floods, bushfires, cyclones, fires and so many more disasters that happen in a person’s life. It’s not just the natural disasters which happen with Mother Nature’s; it’s the ones which are personal also such as divorces, death of a loved one, a major illness, a major injury. Yet when faced with such would it be possible for you to rebuild your own life. Sure it would take time no matter what.

One of the things that I have been learning is despite any disaster which does happen that no one can take away what I know, who I am as a person. Now my home may be destroyed by something yet I know that no matter what I can rebuild my life and become stronger. You see you may fall down many times before you are successful, however with the knowledge you have inside you it is always possible to rebuild your own life. Some people look around and go it’s all gone what am I going to do and fall to pieces. Yes that is what would happen to anyone, the people who are successful are those that pick themselves up from such and go ok this has happened lets rebuild.

They dust themselves off and get back to work. No matter how many times they are knocked down, no one can take away what knowledge you have inside you. You may lose your job, you may lose your home, your child, your spouse, however sometimes you need to say it’s happened now and it’s time to build this again. The death of a loved one is hard for anyone, yet life does move on. Sometimes we meet the most amazing people who are in our lives for a little while. Each person quite often has something to teach us or a reason why they are placed in our own lives. Some people are in there a short time others, a long time.

The question is could you rebuild, I know I certainly could dust myself off and get back on the road towards my goals again.

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How to build a relationship with someone.

21/01/2011

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Everyone is different as to how they build relationships with people. Some people prefer to get to know another person online. Others are ok meeting in person, however you find it best to develop that relationship with others is ok. People say hey you should be out there meeting people through cafes or simular. Some people are uncomfortable meeting new people unless its in a group situation and they know someone already. Each person is different. Now the best way to build any relationship with another person is through the following.

Getting to know them as a person (with no motive at all)
Being yourself (not putting on a show or acting)
Being interested in them as a person.

Lets look at this in more detail.

This is all achieved by getting to know them as a person; this is about knowing who they are as a person. The best way is to start taking a interest in them as a person using the following areas of their life. Work, Family, Kids, Friendships.

What do they do for work or have they done in the past.
Are they married, single, seeing someone, do they have kids
Do they have many friends
What do they want to achieve in life
What motivates them as a person.

You can not have any other motive or that person will see right through such, when you take a genuine interest in someone it is obvious.

For example: When you are only interested in making more money then it shows. People can detect such, the same as when you are only interested in someone for a one night stand and they are not, the other person will see right through you. When you genuinely yourself then you have nothing to fear at all. People will stay with you when you have no motive what so ever as a person, they will respect you more for not having any motive. They will want to be around you as a person, I have met a lot of people who have motives other then my own, these people often leave a clue showing their intentions. People do not realise their true intentions are showing through however it’s what happens.

You have to be yourself at all times, now when you know the person you can be a little more comfortable and relaxed with them. However if you have a motive it does not help, a good friendship of mine started off as friends. Now I was just a friend to them, we’d communicate and they’d help. As I was genuine it’s been a wonderful thing, I have seen it become stronger. You do not get such when you have a motive as a person. A number of people who have come into my own life have left a clue as to their real intention, sometimes it may be a word or phrase. You see when you are yourself then all sorts of possibilities open up and it’s really great.

So what you need to do is know the person, not start pushing what you want from them. Be yourself, when you do the wrong thing by someone it will blow up in your face. However when you do the right thing it does not. Sure there are going to be times when it’s scary, however when you have nothing to worry about or have done nothing wrong then its not going to blow up in your own face. I know that no matter what I have always been genuine and to me I am proud of that.

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For things to change you have to change Part 3

20/01/2011

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One of the things that you have to change is your attitude and friendships, your influences and who you are around. Those that come from the mentality of there is not enough money are often the ones who have to learn how to save and start working on their finances more. People learn their attitudes towards things at a young age when they are growing up. As I stated in yesterdays blog, often you need to change something to become successful. Other times it’s a number of things that have to change, also you have to act on blind faith and go with something knowing that it’s the right thing for you.

At times a person needs to change their environment, other times it’s the persons attitude that needs changing. It really depends on the person as to what they have to change. In order to become better you have to be willing to progress as a person. You have to change those things that need change in your life and have to be prepared to do what it takes as a person. You have to say ok this is what needs to happen and I am going to do such. So what is there in your life that needs to change. Quite often a person has to be ready for leadership, they have to have built those skills. Also need to say no problem to such. They need to develop. How many hours do you spend daily or regularly working on yourself and becoming more as a person?

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For things to change you have to change. Part 2

19/01/2011

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In part one I wrote about the fact that people need to evolve or become better to improve a situation. At the same time we have to think ok what needs to change so that I can move onto the next level, at times it’s a decision. Other times you have to learn more skills, other times its a matter of creating a plan. More often then not it’s because you are not becoming that person who is worth such. Now there are going to be good and bad days where you are tempted to quit, however that is part of the changes. Its when you work through those challenges you become a stronger, wiser and better person.

Some people need to change who they are around to become more successful. Others need to learn those skills and completely create that new lifestyle a fresh beginning. Every person is different as to what they need to learn and at what point they will say no that is enough. They are then either desperate or dissatisfied, when someone has been dissatisfied enough they become desperate to change and will do whatever it takes to become that better person. Yes it may mean having to accept that you can not do what you always wanted, yet at the same time you need to acknowledge what limits you have.

In order to change a person has to want to do such. Also they need to say no to those bad influences, some people literally live all their lives programed by someone else. Someone has said to them at some stage “No you can not do that. It’s too hard” or something else and when they have been told enough then the person starts to believe such. We can either choose to program our own minds or let someone else program it for us. In order for us to reclaim our own lives; a person has to choose who are good and bad influences. Who can help them grow or who will drag them down, it will take work and time yet it’s what has to happen sometimes.

You have to learn who you can really trust with your deep dark secrets and who you can not. Work on finding those people who you can talk to and trust as person, who you are happy to talk with about anything necessary. Another good thing is that you need to know how you are built and accept that. Some people are built that they can go for hours and not sit still, others are not like that. Limits and disabilities are things you can work around. I know that from personal experience, you work around what is possible and say well I am pushing myself to far. Time to pull back and do such.

Ask yourself who is it I trust the most, who am I around the most, what are they doing to me, what have they taught me, what do they have me believing as a person, where did you learn your beliefs on money, where did you learn your beliefs on success or what successful is to you? Everyone is built up of habits from not only our own but others programing, we learn such during our developmental years, however when we do not have good role models then it does not help.

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