How to heal those big hurts.

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At times in our lives we all have something that really hurt us, something that shaped us into the person we are today values and beliefs. Now often those big hurts are lessons on so many things, they teach us to be the person we have to be to become what we have to. When a person is hurt by someone else it’s often owing to the lesson they need to learn as a person. Some people do not respect others as you do, others are just rude. Now it’s about making sure you remain true to yourself, your own values and stand by them through thick and thin. Healing from those big hurts often takes time on it’s own, also you need to be able to in a way forgive or grow from that experience.

It is often the case that people are placed in your life to learn something from there, some are there to learn to trust again. Others to teach you the skills you need in relationships, healing those big hurts does need forgiveness. You also need to be able to express your own feelings on what happened, you do not necessarily have to talk about such with that person who hurt you. However you do need to release such. Keeping such inside develops a number of complications including anger, now that makes things very hard. Unfortunately some people just can not understand what you have been through and sometimes do not realise things or just how much it hurts.

When you are angry it’s not easy, so what you also need to do is set limits on what you are prepared to do and go from there. Some people will not like having those limits and will start to object, you can do nothing about this. However the people who really care about you as a person are happy to work with you through such. To work on building those boundaries and quite often are very understanding and helpful. The ones who do not respect such are the ones who will drag you down. Setting boundaries does take time and others need to accept just who you are and why. As I said forgiveness is the key and releasing the hurt from what has happened to you.

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