How to build a relationship with someone.

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Everyone is different as to how they build relationships with people. Some people prefer to get to know another person online. Others are ok meeting in person, however you find it best to develop that relationship with others is ok. People say hey you should be out there meeting people through cafes or simular. Some people are uncomfortable meeting new people unless its in a group situation and they know someone already. Each person is different. Now the best way to build any relationship with another person is through the following.

• Getting to know them as a person (with no motive at all)
• Being yourself (not putting on a show or acting)
• Being interested in them as a person.

Lets look at this in more detail.

This is all achieved by getting to know them as a person; this is about knowing who they are as a person. The best way is to start taking a interest in them as a person using the following areas of their life. Work, Family, Kids, Friendships.

• What do they do for work or have they done in the past.
• Are they married, single, seeing someone, do they have kids
• Do they have many friends
• What do they want to achieve in life
• What motivates them as a person.

You can not have any other motive or that person will see right through such, when you take a genuine interest in someone it is obvious.

For example: When you are only interested in making more money then it shows. People can detect such, the same as when you are only interested in someone for a one night stand and they are not, the other person will see right through you. When you genuinely yourself then you have nothing to fear at all. People will stay with you when you have no motive what so ever as a person, they will respect you more for not having any motive. They will want to be around you as a person, I have met a lot of people who have motives other then my own, these people often leave a clue showing their intentions. People do not realise their true intentions are showing through however it’s what happens.

You have to be yourself at all times, now when you know the person you can be a little more comfortable and relaxed with them. However if you have a motive it does not help, a good friendship of mine started off as friends. Now I was just a friend to them, we’d communicate and they’d help. As I was genuine it’s been a wonderful thing, I have seen it become stronger. You do not get such when you have a motive as a person. A number of people who have come into my own life have left a clue as to their real intention, sometimes it may be a word or phrase. You see when you are yourself then all sorts of possibilities open up and it’s really great.

So what you need to do is know the person, not start pushing what you want from them. Be yourself, when you do the wrong thing by someone it will blow up in your face. However when you do the right thing it does not. Sure there are going to be times when it’s scary, however when you have nothing to worry about or have done nothing wrong then its not going to blow up in your own face. I know that no matter what I have always been genuine and to me I am proud of that.

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Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake