Growing up without being shown love

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One of the hardest environments to grow up in an environment where there is abuse. Unfortunately it’s an environment where some people grow up, the environment where the parents do not love themselves; so they show the child no love, which hurts them later in life. It makes it hard to be able to create friendships and feel safe with others; it makes it hard to even love yourself. What you need to do is learn that it’s not your fault that your parents were unable to love themselves and therefore showed you no love. You grow up being told what to do, what to say, what to think. Hmm again this leads back to programming.

So what you need to do is learn to love yourself despite the environment and upbringing. When you are able to leave awesome, however the hardest part is when you are unable to leave through fear or lack of funds. Now when someone has placed fear inside you from a young age making you feel worthless or worse. Then it does not help; when someone is unloved the lock off a lot of things, it’s hard as they sublimate their feelings in a way. I know that’s what I did, programming does not help. You get to the stage where you are pleading for help however it does not help, so what you need to do is learn to let yourself be lovable and to feel loved as person. The best way is to start by saying “I like myself”, when you start saying such to yourself and say it without problems, then you are able to say “I love myself”.

It may take a bit of work to say hey I love myself. Yet when you can love yourself you start having a chance to rebuild your life again. Can you say to yourself 10 times without a problem I like myself or I love myself? That’s a big question. You have to say such to yourself constantly, no matter what and program such into your mind that you love yourself. Despite your influences you love yourself. Many people turn to different things owing to not loving themselves. That is the thing; many addictions are because the person may not love themselves. They are writing themselves off owing to not loving themselves as person.

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