Finding the strength to cope during the rough periods.

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Finding the strength to cope or to move on during rough periods is hard. It’s not easy, one of the things that is needed during these periods is a friend who fully understands and is willing to be supportive and encouraging during this period. They accept and support you through that period either good or bad no matter what. Often when we hang around the wrong influences for too long we start to go downhill. I know that is the case with me, what you do is have someone who is willing to help and show you that they are there for you no matter what.

A true friend will stand by you through those rough periods. Even when you have to do what has to be done, the false friends are the ones who are unable to always be found when you need them. They are busy and do not commit. They do not reply quickly to you asking for help from them. During these periods it’s great to have more than one person to support you, however sometimes you may only find that one person who is willing to be there.

The people who understand the best are quite often those people who have been there before. They are the ones who can provide you with the strength to cope and show you the support which you personally need as a person. Yes sometimes you may feel like a fuck up and not be happy, however those times are when you need to say no I am going to do this until no matter what. The rough periods are tests to see how much you are willing to accept and take. How much you are willing to put up with, sure complaining doesn’t make situation any better. However when you can say what is going on or has happened then it really tends to be helpful.

The best thing is knowing what someone else is like and doing your best to not be frustrated by such. Yet when you are frustrated by something it’s either speaking up or saying no I am not going to take or accept this at all. When you say I am not going to accept or take this and people continually push your boundaries then it’s saying I do not care. At that point it is best to ask yourself what are you getting from that friendship. A rough period as Jim Rohn classes it are the winters of our lives, they are periods of change and assessment of what is working and not. They may be cold and barren with little results; however they are quite often a time for reflection.

A winter can be that period after the breakup of a family, a relationship, a friendship, a loss of a job, a death in the family. They are the hard times, as Jim puts it so well the winters can be either long or short. There is only a certain amount we each get, so what we need to do is take stock and develop coping mechanisms for ourselves with what has happened. Then we go out there and work on improving ourselves. So we need to find those people who are willing to help us through what we are going through and to find a solution to those problems. For some people it’s walking away from that relationship, others it’s working on so many things. You have to find the solution, quite often the solution to the problem will appear when you have developed into the person have to become.

That may just take time to become who you had to become and to develop into that person prior to finding the right solution for you.

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