Expressing yourself

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One of the hardest things for some people is expressing themselves as a person. Some people are unable to do this this is owing to role models in life. Unfortunately it is what happens, now when feelings or emotions are left unexpressed and sublimated they tend to cause a number of issues which does include anger. The build up of feelings unfortunately does not help people when they are unable to be expressed in some way, sometimes this may be because of a pain or hurt in someway. So you need to be able to get that hurt or resent me out of you, sometimes it needs counselling or therapy or otherwise.

However when emotions do build up its never good, one of the hardest parts is being able to say that yes things are not easy or to express that emotion when we are not taught how to do this effectively during our upbringing. Therefore we have to learn to do such as an adult which only makes it harder for that person as they then need to remove the old programming and reprogram their own mind as a person. Hard and yet this is where the counselling etc. comes in. Some people have a trauma which has forced them to supress their emotions of such, some people are told to shut up when talking or expressing how they feel.

How does that feel when you are trying to express what is going on and you are told to shut up. It’s not good for you, as then you learn oh I shouldn’t speak up, when you do not speak up you tend to lock away feelings. Sometimes even when you do speak up people will sweep things under the carpet, this is hard when it does happen as you never feel any closure to what did happen. Especially if it was a traumatic event that happened. It is unfortunate that sometimes people do not even bother to understand what the real problem is or they assume and then do not let things get out. This happens and people do not get closure, they are used and abused so what happens they repress those emotions and are unable to release them.

It takes years for some people to recover owing to what happened to them as a person. Some people never may be able to express themselves.

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