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Everyone in life needs to find out why they continue through those thick and thin moments. Is there someone who has stood there beside you through those thick and thin moments and has supported you no matter what may happen? That person has stood beside you no matter what they have seen you through heartbreak these are often you best friends. Sometimes they are in a literal mess themselves. So what do people do to get themselves out of the rubbish and to move on with their lives. They need to stop listening other people's thinking and not taking it on board as a person. In order to find out what you are meant to be in life you need to stop this, you need to stop that chatter in your mind and start thinking for yourself. I know for me what I am meant to be and what I am meant to do.

Sure it's rough at times and it's not easy, however in the end we all do manage to get through it all. It's also about knowing who your influences are as person. Remembering that it's none of your business what others think of you, I know one person drags me down and it's now learning to disassociate from them owing to how they treat me. They have to be told no this is not acceptable, there are others who respect me enough to say you have enough on your plate right now I will just make it worse; that is how much they care about you, so essentially they are saying it's too much for you right now and I care about you as a person. In order to find this why and who you are meant to be in life you need to stop listening to those people who do not respect you, those people who are negative and will drag you down even future.

The people who have the maturity to say it's too much for you with what you are going through are the positive influences in your own life. They stay there, you need to also switch off the negative self talk of those people who have oppressed or belittled you for some reason. That takes work as sometimes you do not even know they are doing such at all, what I am currently doing to remove such is a 30 day mental cleanse which helps me remove that old stinking thinking which has been programmed in for years. This is the only way you can find your why by switching off that chatter and no longer listening to that negative little voice inside yourself. You can find out more about a 30 day mental cleanse here www.30daycleanse.com

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Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake

Finding a job you enjoy

26/10/2010

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| Mentor Ben Drake

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Part of me is excited about things that have been going on lately, after having found another piece of the missing puzzle. For me it was great on the weekend it showed me why I do what I do and why I am in that field, I have always been a volunteer in an emergency capacity. For me I have always been out there saving people, helping people in their time of need it's just who I am as a person. Nothing will ever change that, for me personally I have found a job that I love. I do not care that it is volunteer; it's a job that I love and really enjoy. So what makes me enjoy it so much is because I love what I do as a person, it's been great I enjoy helping people making sure they are ok and helping them when they need help.

It's been ages since I did work in the emergency services for a number of reasons yet I enjoy it. There are people out there who are happy doing volunteer jobs and going from there. There are people out there who will never get the emergency services and how much they give or what they often do. Sometimes they put their own lives on the line just to save someone else. Finding a job you enjoy is about finding your own talents and using them. Finding something that motivates you to get to that job and do it. Finding a job you want to do no matter what, everyone has things they enjoy and hate. It's about finding what work they really enjoy and concentrating on doing such until no matter what.

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Who I am as a person.

25/10/2010

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I spent the weekend away however it managed to show me more about myself and who I am as a person. The weekend just past showed me why I work in the role that I do, it is because I enjoy that role. I enjoy working my business and the role that I do with marine rescue NSW. They are both positions I enjoy, when I find a position I enjoy I will stay with that position for many reasons. The strange thing is I tend to enjoy volunteering more than paid work, yesterday was awesome and I loved it. I saw a great example of how a team works, working as a team to achieve that common goal. Also having my own limits and tolerances acknowledge and being supported with those limits, which is ok lets work around such.

I saw me which is a guy who cares about others, who does his role with the best of his ability with many wonderful talents. I have worked in the field of emergency services for years in a number of capacities, however none of which has used my talents like my current role did over the weekend. It was just so great, sure ok I need to work my business also. Yet I know inside that I can do both and that I personally have an awesome life.

When someone discovers who they are as a person everything starts to fall into place.

Had a great weekend, boy was that awesome.

24/10/2010

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Being teachable

22/10/2010

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In life there is one thing a successful person needs to be able to and that is being willing to learn. When you close your mind to learning those new things and start saying I know it all you become unteachable and start declining in life. Some people need to be literally down and out before they become teachable. Others never are, some people are so teachable that it's not funny. It's strange yet I have learned so many things about myself and my life, I have become the teachable one. The one who is willing to learn the new ways and methods, despite the fact that I have lived around others who remain unteachable such is life.

Anyway for me I know now why I have failed in the past and see it again and again, some people set themselves up for failure others do not. In the past when I have gone downhill I have been in the lions den or associating with the wrong people for too long. These days I just switch off or do not fully listen to them. Other days I do, right now it's about being supportive to those who mean a lot to you and not listening to the bad stuff not taking that on board. Sure there are those people who literally need your support and are going through some of the roughest times like myself, we talk about it and move on, trying to find the positive inside that negative.

Some people need to learn that others love them, they have lost all faith and all love within themselves. Others need to learn other things, everyone has their own learning curve in life. The biggest mistake that people can make is saying I know everything as then those people become unteachable. Are you teachable?

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Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake