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Today there is a question which would like to ask. What makes you happy?

Me personally I know the answer to that question inside myself and its part of my why! It's why I do this business and why I keep on going, what makes me personally happy is romancing someone and communicating with that special someone. Letting that person know how special they are. They are a great friend and someone who is a wonderful person, they may have had different experiences in life and well it's what happens. Yet for me what makes me happy is romancing them, getting to know them as a person. Being able to show them they mean something to someone, that is what makes me really happy.

Often you need to find this and understand this about themselves, it's quite often part of your why and who you are as a person. It may take some soul searching to find such yet when you know what makes you happy often you enjoy things more.

I have written a little about your why as a person, yet there are a number of questions which may help you find your own why in life. Quite often a person who knows their why is happy to deal with the issues as it means they are getting closer to their goal. As well these questions will help you know exactly what you are looking for or wanting from life. These questions are the following.

If you only had 24 hours to live what would you do?

If you knew you only had 1 month to live what would you do?

If you knew you only had 3 months to live what would you do?

If you knew you only had 6 months to live what would you do?

If you knew you only had 12 months to live what would you do?

If you knew you only had 3 years to live what would you do?

If you knew you only had 5 years to live what would you do?

If you had all the money and time needed what would you do?

If you had all the money you wanted what would you do?

Answering these questions may take work and time. Yet when you can answer them knowing what you would do then you know who you are as a person. Sometimes you need to look real deep within yourself to know exactly what really does make you happy or what you really want to achieve in your own life. Then you need to set some goals based on such. So what really makes you happy as a person, is it your work, is it your current relationship, a friendship or what.

If you want to learn more about relationships http://bdrake.successin10steps.com/?mad=52669 some of the information is available from this eBook.

Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake

What is love?

07/11/2010

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What is love, sure it's an emotion. Yet is it love when you keep on buying stuff for kids when you have enough, when you scream at them for needing something or needing to do something. I'd say not, it's not love when someone manipulates you for years and has a hold over you. Some people are screaming for love not stuff and to be treated with respect yet they are bullied, manipulated and treated badly that those scars will affect that person all their lives. Some people walk away from the abuse others are literally stuck in that fear routine as it's all they know, they fight for their own justice yet it never works. love is doing stuff for people not just buying them things all the time.

I have been reading a interesting book lately called thresholds of the mind it's a great one by Bill Harris it came free with my latest mediation CD. It explains so much about who I am as a person.

If you want to learn more about relationships http://bdrake.successin10steps.com/?mad=52669 some of the information is available from this eBook.

Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake

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My own story

06/11/2010

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Well for me personally I grew up as the eldest of 3 kids in a generational family. At times there 4 generations of the family living together; when I was born there was my great grandparents, grandparents, parents and myself living together. I do not remember such, and then years later it was my grandparents, parents a cousin and her son as well as my siblings and I.

Now I struggled with one emotion as it was not expressed in my biological family it was only at the recent passing of my grandmother that I realised hey that's where this came from. My parents are unable to say they love you; you often get it through stuff. They buy you everything and anything all the latest things, to me I needed love not stuff. You ask where something is and if it cannot be found quickly, a new one is brought.

I finally realised, I had been searching for love and nurturing since I was a teenager as I had hardly any growing up. I needed someone who was willing to be there for me yet I did not get such years later. It took years for me to realise why I had struggled for years or what need I was expressing that I was not able to put into words and people were no hearing what I was saying. That was part of the issue.

I received a lot of bullying in high school and in my early work career, in my early 20's when I was working for a major cooperation some of my colleagues who only made my self-esteem worse. I have worked for many years getting myself better and now have to understand that my family is incapable of providing the love I need them to. They are not a failure they are just unable to do such, they have their own issues and they refuse to deal with those issues.

I have found some of the best friends I could ask for during these last few months, these days my life; is a lot better than what it ever was and I am so glad. I do what I love on a regular basis and I am working on creating the life I want with a wonderful bunch of great friends who mean the world to me as a person. For me I am living a life I love, although there are many things I want to still do with my life I want to experience it with someone who means a lot to me; and well I am ready to walk that road. There are a lot of things I look forwards to, I am glad for those friends I have made some of them have become the best friends I could ever ask for. If I had not started this journey of relationships I would not of found these most amazing wonderful friends each who has an important part to play in my own life.

There are many people who I could thank publically yet each of them know who they are, they have often been there guiding or helping me in some way during these last few months. Thank you all for being the wonderful people you are.

For now, I know that I am on course and things are great.

If you want to learn more about relationships http://bdrake.successin10steps.com/?mad=52669 some of the information is available from this eBook.

Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake

Finding myself

05/11/2010

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As I am on this path I have come to realise why with a number of things. I have come to understand a number of things and for me it's time to experience life. Sometimes someone has to find themselves in order to understand what they are to be in their life. That can be a really challenge finding oneself at times, it literally means removing all that rubbish programming from your own mind. For some people that takes work and time. This is owing to their environment they are exposed to. Some people have their lives torn apart and are in therapy for years owing to their up brining. Some people are brought up in fear, that they are literally treated so badly that they live in fear.

To this degree they are condition to behave, they are taught do not step out of line. Do not speak your own opinion they are discouraged at an early age from having their own opinion. They are conditioned and taught no this is how you will behave and what you will do. You will do what I say no matter what, for me I personally grew up in a home which was not easy. It still is not, the one thing I have noticed is that I can be in a good mood for most of the day and when someone else comes home with a foul mood it does not help as it sets the whole place to be on edge. So what that means is that my exposure to negative or bad mood is quite intense, that someone else has such powerful influence over me when they have had a bad day.

Now it's hard yet it's part of what I need to work on distancing myself from those bad influences. I was reading one of books yesterday and it started to make sense a lot of things. I have lived in fear for so long now it's not funny fear of so many things because it was how I was brought up. Fear of my own safety and more, I see it all the time here at home. I was trying my hardest to cope and also trying to say look I just cannot deal with this. Owing to the fact that I did not see that it was going on, I sat there denying the fact that such had been going on. I am unable to change the past; yet I can certainly change the future, I can make it better stronger and not live in the current environment I have that choice not to accept those peoples rubbish weather they like it or not.

Now the one thing I realised is that for years I have been screaming out to others love me, I want someone to nurture me. I managed to find those people recently, the people who I know are going to be great support. However the hardest part is that I need that love, support, nurturing, encouragement and more. I want it more than anything and that is something that's been missing in my life. Right now it's what is necessary, yet I have also made a decision and well I am pleased with that decision. It's time to implement that decision and work on it, for me I want to live my life and there is a number of things that would be lovely to know.

I know that my life is better now than it's been in years however I do need to work on many things. There are many experiences that would be just awesome to experience and I know that since I was young that I had always wanted to know love, romance and more. Why well that's part of my own individual personality it's who I am. Now the one thing I realised yesterday at a meeting for my volunteer role is just how respected I am by my colleagues who will do anything to help. They know I will do the same.

If you want to learn more about relationships http://bdrake.successin10steps.com/?mad=52669 some of the information is available from this eBook.

Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake

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05/11/2010

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<![CDATA[Good morning all, I love my life. Ah time to do some of the great things.