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The following is as appeared on Positively positve a powerful post on what a worrywart does.
Really.
I used to say things like Do you think it matters? Is it going to be okay? over and over to anyone who would listen. It didn’t matter what I was talking about—what the it in question was—it just mattered that I was appeased.
I really didn’t care for the truth either. I just wanted to be told it was all going to be okay. And then I didn’t listen. I just kept on worrying and asking the same questions.
I obsessed. I bit my nails down to nothing. I wrote little notes to myself on papers that I would crumple up as soon as I jotted down my secret language on them. I would only write the first letter of every word, so if the sentence was “Am I going to get in trouble for not reading that book for school,” I would write “AIGTGITFNRTBFS.”
It was a language only I understood. And maybe my sister. Years later, I would find little notes with the same secret language that were not in my writing, but in hers, and although I think she must have gotten it from me, this secret language, she claims it was a weird talent she made up all on her own.
I used to use that secret language when I was anorexic to write down all the things I ate.
rice cakes
honey
apple
seaweed
would be: RCHASW.
I knew exactly what it meant when I read it. Even years later.
It was a craft, a skill, a profession I honed—this worrying business. This secret language.
During the years when I was losing weight rapidly, when I was deep in the throes of anorexia, I would ask people, anyone: Do I look fat? Do I look different than I did last week? Have I gained weight?
And the kicker is that I never ever wanted them to say yes. Never.
I wanted to stay in my secret language land and my land of worrywarts. It was like a kingdom of pain, and, although I hated it, I wanted to stay. I felt safe there with my first letters only of words, my bitten nails, and repetitive thoughts.
It started when I was very young. I remember having a recurring dream that our house was on fire and that I saved everyone but my sister. Never my sister. I was climbing a tree in the dream, and then the dream would end. Each time.
Maybe the worrying started before my dad died. Maybe after. The nickname started after he died, I do recall that, when we moved to California and I would collect soaps and line them up on the shelf in the room I shared with my sister. We had a hamster and bunk beds. At night, I closed my eyes and tried to forget everything about my life before the hamster and bunk beds.
I would sit in the library at NYU for hours, counting my hunger pains and staring at the book on American Literature without reading one sentence, or rather reading the same one sentence over and over for four hours. I would write in my secret language all the things I ate or didn’t eat that day and then obsess over how I would finish my homework when I hadn’t even started, and I had been sitting here for hours. Then I would obsess that I wasted time. Then the sun came up. To do all of this as well as I did was a true art.
To have the world fooled, that I had it together, was a skill unlike any other.
My eyes gleamed over, and under them were soft dark circles, which suggested that I spent the night awake and eating in my sleep, as I often did because I was starving. Anything really. Anything I could get my hands on. Cat food. Muffins. Anything.
To be so good at something took time and practice, and I didn’t have much time for anything else, mind you.
You never forget how to be an artist.
I still obsess. I still turn things over in my mind so much that they lose their meanings and become dog bones so chewed upon that there’s nothing left to do but keep chewing.
I catch myself now. I catch the thread of the thought and rip it before I trip over it and fall down the rabbit hole.
There was the year I was eighteen. I was obsessing on something so much that it ate that year whole. That year disappeared in the way that some years do, and the only way I can reconcile of any of that year is sometimes in a dream or in a photograph. Gone. Annihilated. Poof. Eaten up by worry.
Truly, it’s an art, I tell you. Not everyone could be so good at it.
It’s addicting, a drug in its own right. You know it’s bad for you and you want to stop, or maybe you don’t, but you can’t. It satisfies some deep craving where you’ve been broken, and nothing else does that, not yet at least, not that you’ve found. So you keep doing it; you keep slipping until you are so far gone that nothing makes sense anymore except your secret language filled with broken letters. That place where you worry is like a safe nest, and even though all the things you obsess over will most likely never happen, nor do you want them to, it somehow feels safer to be in there, in that cracked world where you can spin and spin and never have to look at what is really happening outside of your mind.
Yes, worry is an art. A skill and a commodity. The more you collect it, the more value it will have. Until, eventually, it is all you have. Walls of your worry. Looking back, they will demarcate the eras of your life as if they really happened.
Sure, I still want someone to tell me it will all be okay. My great big fantasy. I like to feel safe, yes.
Sometimes I still obsess, like a parrot with a three-word vocabulary, but, mostly, I catch myself in these moments and open the door to the cage and fly away.
I allow myself my humanness. I astound myself at my own humanness at times, in fact. But I refuse to be swept up in the arms of this clever nonsense. No thanks, I say, I am just passing through.
I would love to hear what you can stop worrying about. Leave a comment.
Jennifer Pastiloff was recently featured on Good Morning America. She is a yoga teacher, writer, and advocate for children with special needs based in L.A. She is also the creator of Manifestation Yoga® and leads retreats and workshops all over the world. Jennifer is currently writing a book and has a popular daily blog called Manifestation Station. Find her on Facebook and Twitter and take one of her yoga classes online at Yogis Anonymous.
Jen will be leading a Manifestation Yoga® weekend retreat at Kripalu Center for Yoga and Health in the Berkshires, Massachusetts Feb 1-3, 2013.
*Photo by Peter Blanchard.
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The following is from Dave and Darlene mills blog and which has a wonderful article on stopping attacking other peoples products and services. It deals with those people who have lost faith in their company and are frustrated with their results in nework marketing. Thank you to both Dave and Darlene Mills for the powerful post.
Do you ever wonder why someone attacks your Network marketing Company and/or products after you have posted your business opportunity or your products? Sometimes these attacks are malicious and unwarranted by a Frustrated Network Marketer–Hansel and Disgruntled.
There are a number of marketers in the field who use their time to put down products and businesses without any cause or real reason. They always seem to be disgruntled and live a negative style life. If you have read or learned anything about magnetic attraction marketing you will soon realize negativity pushes potential customers and business partners away. If you are looking to use magnetic attraction you must separate yourself from the negativity and the people who promote the behaviour. It is a must if you want to have a chance at being successful.
Possibilities for a disgruntled attitude can be endless. We see this in our everyday lives with people we know, fellow workers and sometimes from within families. Sometimes people become disgruntled because of problems not even related to that which they are aiming their attitude towards.
The problem is that negativity is contagious and can grow if you allow it to. The best method is to separate yourself from the negativity and think and act positively which promotes magnetic attraction.
The reasons for being disgruntled are varied but in network marketing there are two main reasons. The first may be the fact that you were scammed and cheated by some network marketing scam posing as a legitimate opportunity. This is preventable by doing your due diligence (research) before joining any opportunity or buying products. You may have a legitimate reason for being disgruntled with this but you need to get out of this negative realm before it becomes a way of life for you. Move on to a better life by finding a company and product which will help you reach your dreams and goals.
The second reason is far more common with network marketers who have joined a legitimate company. It just didn’t work for some marketers who were looking for success. So they became disgruntled towards the company and products. Many many times success never came to these people because they lacked the skills to do network marketing properly. Without the proper skills they went out and tried to recruit and sell products to their warm market and received negative results. When they moved on to their cold market they spammed and fire hosed their business opportunity and products only to be rejected. The conclusion they drew was, it didn’t work so they blamed the company and products for their lack of success.
As they become more disgruntled they will often spend their time making disparaging remarks against the company and products without real facts or proof to back up the remarks. Sometimes they can get themselves into real legal trouble because of the disparaging remarks.
Their lack of success was not the company or products fault. It became an issue of how to market and promote properly with the right skills. Is it fair that they slam the company and products on their wall and fan pages or on any social networks. No, but it does show their true leadership qualities, NEGATIVE ONES.
Are you a Frustrated Network Marketer–Hansel and Disgruntled . I would suggest you learn the skills needed to market and recruit. Tom “Big Al” Schreiter has been teaching his skills to other network marketers for years and they have become very successful.
Tom’s training comes from years of very successful marketing. Tom tours the world teaching these very skills… so if you have the opportunity to attend one of these training seminars it would be in your best interest. 
You will learn what to say and do to promote your business opportunity and products. OH, if you are disgruntled, leave the other marketers alone and don’t make comments if you don’t have solid fact but basing it upon your own experience and opinion. If you go into a business opportunity or buy a product with a negative sceptical view don’t expect to have success because the universe gives you what you ask for, so if it is negative, expect negative results but if you are positive expect positive results. Stay on the positive side of life and business and enjoy positive results leading to success.
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From Dave and Darlene Mills blog, thank you for such an insperational post on what some network marketers do when they are frustrated with the growth of their onw business
a very powerful post. Thank you.
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