I want to share a quote from the legendary Jim Rohn that completely shifted my perspective, especially as a disabled entrepreneur:
"The greatest gift you can give to somebody is your own personal development.
I used to say, 'If you will take care of me, I will take care of you.'
Now I say, 'I will take care of me for you, if you will take care of you for me.'"
When you're living with chronic conditions or a disability, it's so easy to fall into that first mindset: "If you just take care of me...". The world feels heavy, your body is a battleground, and you just want support.
But as an entrepreneur, a leader, and a parent (shout out to my fellow dadpreneurs and mumpreneurs!), that mindset doesn't build anything. It doesn't create transformation.
"Taking care of me" has a much deeper meaning.
It's not just about business skills. It’s about:
* 🧠 Guarding my mindset against the negativity that pain and fatigue can bring.
* ⚡️ Managing my energy so I can show up for my family and my team.
* 📚 Committing to growth even when it's hard, proving that our conditions don't define our success.
I owe it to my family to be the best husband and father I can be.
Iowe it to my team in network marketing to be the most resilient, positive, and capable leader I can be.
I can't pour from an empty cup. ☕️ The greatest gift I can give them is my own personal development. My strength. My resilience.
So, I will take care of me for you. I will manage my health, my mindset, and my skills for you.
And in return, you take care of you. For your family. For your team. For yourself. That is how we all win. That's how we create real change. 🌟
How are YOU "taking care of you" this week? What's one act of personal development you are committing to? Let me know in the comments! 👇
A Note From Ben:
My goal is to help you build a life of health and freedom. This blog is supported by two resources I personally use and trust to achieve that mission:
My ASEA Business: Supporting my family's wellness from the inside out.
"Success in 10 Steps": The framework I use for building a successful business from home.
You can learn more about ASEA here and "Success in 10 Steps" ebook here.
🔵 BLUE PILL: Restart life at 10 with all your current knowledge. 🔴 RED PILL: Jump to 45 with $50 Million, instantly.
When you live with chronic conditions, this isn't just a game.
The 🔴 Red Pill is tempting. It means financial security. The best medical care for my family and me. No more stress.
But the 🔵 Blue Pill... The thought of going back, knowing what I know about my health... could I get an earlier diagnosis? Avoid the injuries? Have more able-bodied years with my kids? It’s an emotional gut-punch. But here’s the truth:
* If I take the blue pill, do I lose the family I have right now?
* If I take either pill, do I erase the journey that built my resilience?
My challenges—my disability, my conditions—they forged the person I am. They gave me my "why." They taught me the empathy I use to help other families transform their lives.
Ican't skip the struggle. It made me who I am. I’m keeping the life I have. Which pill would YOU take? Tell me in the comments. 👇
A Note From Ben:
My goal is to help you build a life of health and freedom. This blog is supported by two resources I personally use and trust to achieve that mission:
My ASEA Business: Supporting my family's wellness from the inside out.
"Success in 10 Steps": The framework I use for building a successful business from home.
You can learn more about ASEA here and "Success in 10 Steps" ebook here.
⛳ Mini-Golf or Bowling? 🎳 A Different Kind of Decision
I'm just curious... when it's date night or family time, what's your pick: Mini-Golf or Bowling? 🤔
As a couple where one of us is a #DisabledEntrepreneur living with chronic conditions, this question isn't just about fun—it's about accessibility, energy, and connection.
Here's how we break it down:
* Mini-Golf ⛳: We love the idea of being outdoors! ☀️ But it comes with questions: How much walking or standing is involved? Is the course accessible for mobility aids? How are my "spoons" (energy levels) today? Sometimes, just a simple incline can be a massive barrier.
* Bowling 🎳: This is often our go-to! Why? It’s indoors (hello, climate control! 👋), there are places to sit down between every single turn, and it’s adaptable. We can use a lighter ball or a ramp. It’s an activity we can truly do together, side-by-side, whether it's a high-pain day or a good day. For us, building a life as #entrepreneurs and #networkmarketers isn't just about financial freedom. It's about the time freedom and flexibility to make these choices.
It's the freedom to have a "date night" at 2 PM on a Tuesday because my body feels up to it. It's the freedom to build a #DirectSales business from the couch on days when bowling isn't even an option. This lifestyle allows us to put our health and family first. 💖
Whether you're a busy #dadpreneur, a non-stop #mumpreneur, or a #disabled person building your own empire, your "why" has to be worth it. For us, it's these simple moments of connection.
So, what about you and your family? Are you team Mini-Golf or team Bowling? And what's the reason for your choice? Let me know in the comments! 👇
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A Note From Ben:
My goal is to help you build a life of health and freedom. This blog is supported by two resources I personally use and trust to achieve that mission:
My ASEA Business: Supporting my family's wellness from the inside out.
"Success in 10 Steps": The framework I use for building a successful business from home.
You can learn more about ASEA here and "Success in 10 Steps" ebook here.
😀❤️👨👩👧 Learn to be a success as an entrepreneur by learning these simple skills.
A Note From Ben:
My goal is to help you build a life of health and freedom. This blog is supported by two resources I personally use and trust to achieve that mission:
My ASEA Business: Supporting my family's wellness from the inside out.
"Success in 10 Steps": The framework I use for building a successful business from home.
You can learn more about ASEA here and "Success in 10 Steps" ebook here.
👻 Are Napoleon Hill's "Six Ghosts of Fear" Sabotaging Your Friendships? A Disabled Entrepreneur’s Honest Look
We’ve all read Think and Grow Rich. It’s a cornerstone for any entrepreneur, network marketer, or dadpreneur trying to build a better life. We focus on desire, faith, and persistence.
But then we get to Chapter 15: The Six Ghosts of Fear.
For many, these are abstract concepts. But for those of us building a business as a disabled entrepreneur or managing chronic conditions, these "ghosts" feel less like shadows and more like unwelcome roommates. 😟
Napoleon Hill lists the six fears as: * The Fear of Poverty
* The Fear of Criticism
* The Fear of Ill Health
* The Fear of Loss of Love
* The Fear of Old Age
* The Fear of Death
As someone with chronic conditions, the Fear of Ill Health isn't a "ghost"—it's a daily reality. The Fear of Poverty feels heavier when your ability to "hustle" is limited by your body. And the Fear of Criticism is massive when you're in an MLM or direct sales and explaining your disability.
But here’s the truth I’ve learned: These fears don't just stop us from succeeding in our business. They stop us from finding what we really crave: genuine friendships, love, and support.
We are parents, entrepreneurs, and leaders. We are looking for our tribe. But these fears build walls.
🤕 The Fear of Ill Health & Criticism For healthy individuals, the fear of ill health is a "what if." For us, it’s a "what now?"
* The Fear Says: "Don't commit to that team call; you might have a flare-up." * The Fear Says: "Don't share your story; they'll think you're weak or making excuses." * The Fear Says: "You can't lead... look at you. You're not a picture of perfect health." 🗣️
This fear of criticism and ill-health combined is a powerful isolating force. We hide our struggles because we're afraid our team, our upline, or our friends will see us as "less than."
But here's the secret: Vulnerability is the price of admission for real connection. When you bravely share your story—that you're a mumpreneur juggling kids and chronic pain, or a dadpreneur fighting brain fog—you don't attract criticism. You attract your people. You attract other disabled people, entrepreneurs, and parents who are tired of pretending and are searching for someone real.
💔 The Fear of Loss of Love (The Search for Support)
This is the big one. So many of us joined network marketing not just for the money, but for the community. We wanted friendship, recognition, and a support system.
But the other fears threaten this: * Fear of Poverty makes us see people as transactions, not friends. * Fear of Criticism makes us hide our true selves, so no one can truly love us. * Fear of Ill Health makes us feel unworthy of that love and support.
We become so afraid of losing the "team family" if we don't perform, or if we're too "needy," that we isolate ourselves. We stop reaching out. We ghost the group chat. We let the fears win.
🤝 How to Banish the Ghosts and Find Your Tribe
Mastering these fears isn't about becoming "fearless." It's about deciding that connection is more important than fear.
* Reframe Your "Weakness": Your journey with chronic conditions or disability is not a liability. It is a superpower. It has given you empathy, resilience, and unshakeable strength. Healthy individuals may not understand this, but other parents and entrepreneurs who have struggled will.
* Lead with Service, Not Scarcity: When the Fear of Poverty creeps in, shift your focus from "making a sale" to "making a connection." Ask someone how they are.
Offer support. Be the friend you are searching for. Genuine friendships are the foundation of a sustainable business and a happy life.
* Be the Real You: Stop trying to be the "perfect" leader. Be the real one. Be the disabled entrepreneur who shows up anyway. Be the parent who is building a legacy despite the challenges. Your story is the lighthouse that will guide other people searching for support right to you.
The "riches" Napoleon Hill talks about aren't just financial. They are the riches of love, loyalty, and genuine friendship. We don't have to build our empires alone. 💬 Let's Connect!
These ghosts are scary, but they hate the light. Let's bring them into the open. Which of the six ghosts of fear do you struggle with the most on your journey?
Drop a comment below. 👇 Let’s start a real conversation. I'm building a community of network marketers, parents, and entrepreneurs who believe in community over competition.
A Note From Ben:
My goal is to help you build a life of health and freedom. This blog is supported by two resources I personally use and trust to achieve that mission:
My ASEA Business: Supporting my family's wellness from the inside out.
"Success in 10 Steps": The framework I use for building a successful business from home.
You can learn more about ASEA here and "Success in 10 Steps" ebook here.
