<![CDATA[Good morning all, I love my life. Ah time to do some of the great things.
Author: Mentor Ben Drake
Husband and father, mentor and coach, helping families to live better lives, model train expert living a healthy active fit lifestyle.
Focus and your why
Focus. As I was saying in yesterdays post it's only when you are really determined to achieve that goal that you will receive the reward of achieving that goal. For me it's about being laser focused on what you want as a person. Saying ok no matter what this is what I am going achieve and being prepared to pay the price demanded by life to get that goal. Every person has one thing that they really want to achieve in life, one thing that they really want to experience one really big why.
For me I discovered my why a few weeks back. Now I have come to realise that I have focus on that more, it is a very personal big one for me. It means being what I was meant to be, I have discovered also why I have spent years at home with little or no work. It has not been because of health, it's been owing to the fact that I am a stay at home father, I know that in my life everything I need will ultimately come to me. If I walked out of home today with what clothing I had on and drove to a friend's place saying I have just left home I'd be accepted and helped to get my feet back on the ground. They would help me as much as they were able to no matter what.
I have lived a life with people, who focus on an emotion called lack, now this caused me to do the same. Right now I know where my focus has to be and I am personally glad about that. It's time to work on achieving that area of my life and no matter what I will do such.
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Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake
Focus
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One thing in life that a person needs to learn is focus, to focus on that goal they are going for no matter what. When you focus on something with all your effort then it is what you achieve. When you concentrate on that bad neglectful relationship then you continue in such, I was listening to a training this morning and realised hey this finally makes sense. I now understand how a few things happened in my life and what went on.
Essentially what this is saying when you focus on being abused you get abused. When you focus on success everything falls into place, the problem is that sometimes people change what they are focusing on so often that you do not achieve your goals or dreams. I know I have done it myself in the past changed my focus so often. These days I am focusing on one thing and that seems to be working, I am getting signals saying yes this is working. Ok you are doing the right things.
When you focus on a goal or a dream and making that your main focus and getting that dream achieved often you will achieve that goal. It means being persistent, determined and committed to achieving that goal. Back in march I was searching online for someone to create a connection with, I'd been searching for years yet seriously for the months prior had a couple of good people yet no connection. Then I found someone who became a good friend to me and I am glad.
I can remember looking through the paper 18 months ago now and saw an ad for people to do the role I currently do. When I went away recently I said to someone hey look I will get my turn and it will be a great job and an enjoyable time. That was true also. I ended up on a job which used my personal experience with the boat crew, now it's about saying ok I will take care of this and do this. However you have to do this for me and I did that.
Focus is about knowing no matter what you are going to get that goal and just working towards doing such. Leaving it to happen also in its own time also and knowing no matter what that goal or dream will happen. When you focus on finding that special someone it happens, when you focus on that family it happens. When you focus on loving someone it happens, when you focus on becoming that person's lover it happens, when you focus on being the partner, husband or wife of someone then it happens. However you personally have to be 100% in. No matter what or deals off, ok there will be sometimes things that say you need to sacrifice this or do this before such yet honestly they are quite often well worth such.
As I said before when your focus is on the past hurt then you end up being continually hurt as a person, when you focus on no longer being single or being with someone then it happens. However you need to be prepared to pay that price which is asked by the universe for this reward. There may be one big sacrifice which you need to make in order to achieve that goal and well it's something that only you can say yes or no to.
When you focus though you can often end up with more than one goal having been achieved.
If you want to learn more about relationships http://bdrake.successin10steps.com/?mad=52669 some of the information is available from this eBook.
Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake
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Persistence, determination and commitment
Persistence, determination and commitment these are 3 very strong emotions, they are essentially cousins however they are all needed to achieve anything life. Persistence is having the faith to continue with that goal, whist determination is saying I will get that goal and commitment is the same thing. It's about knowing what you want and going for it.
Persistence is about knowing what you want and going for it no matter what, sticking with that goal through the rough times that's where determination and commitment come in. Its about being determined to see something through to the end as well as being committed to that end.
Business Jim Rohn put this so well in relation to being determined to get your goal, it shows the art of persistence and commitment also. The quote is.
"When you find your mountain in life go for it, some people will say no that mountain is to high, too rocky or to steep, you are not good enough". His response to this is "I am going to the top, you are either going to see me waving my flag from the top of that mountain or dead on the side as I am not coming back".
We call all learn something from this, its saying once you have chosen your goal and dream go for it. There will be people out there who are going to say you can't do such. Why do you not try this one or throw their negative rubbish at you. However the person who ultimately win's is the person who picks himself up and dusts himself off in those rough times. He does not quit on his way to his goal, now sure there will be times when they say oh this is too tough. I am not good enough. It's about working through those times and just going for it, continuing no matter what happens.
Sure the universe is going to test us to see how committed and persistent we are achieving that which we desire most. However when one is persistent, determined and committed and the universe knows that they are not giving up then that person receives that which they are asking for if they are prepared to pay the price which the universe does ask for achievement of that goal.
If you want to learn more about relationships http://bdrake.successin10steps.com/?mad=52669 some of the information is available from this eBook.
Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake
Acceptance
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One thing that is vitally important in life is acceptance, not just by yourself others also. One of my greatest battles has been getting others to accept that I am who I am as a person. I have my own personal limits and tolerances what I am able to do as a person. We are essentially a product of our own upbringing that we are brought up to believe things by our own family as they think they may know best.
Some people literally refuse to accept others decisions in life. They refuse to accept that the person wants to work in a volunteer role, they refuse to accept that the person has chosen to do what they want, they refuse to accept the person getting married and living their own life. They think that they can control you or tell you want to do as a person. Part of my battle has been such, having people in my life that refused to accept my choice and decision.
It is my right to make that decision and my choice be it right or wrong no matter what. I recently made a major decision and well it's time to implement that decision, it's going to take work time and patience yet it is possible to achieve that goal. There is a way it's just finding such and going from there. For me things are moving forward it's just needing to take it as it comes and say well lets go.
Some people do not see the opportunity in front of them because they are so conditioned by their family or past that they do not notice it. Others know it's easiest to wait and say ok it's not good right now or I need to wait longer. This time I have to say that the time is right for me to do what has to be done.
If you want to learn more about relationships http://bdrake.successin10steps.com/?mad=52669 some of the information is available from this eBook.
Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake
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