Mentor Ben Drake • Coach Freedom and Friends

One thing each person has is talents; we all have abilities which we given that allow us to succeed in life. Bellow is just some of what be a person’s talents
a calm demeanour
a natural telephone voice
understanding of legal matters
financial management
writing of stories, poems, blogs and newsletters
motivating, supporting and encouraging others
story teller
natural parent
leader

Each of us has those talents which are needed and necessary in our own lives. We have a number of them as a person, the list above is certainly not a list of everything, I know there are so many talents. These were given to us to allow us to become successful in our own lives. When we use these natural talents we then start to become successful within our own lives. So what we need to do is find a way to use all these natural talents within our daily lives, whether its network marketing, parenting, teaching or any other profession. We need to use these talents in both our professional and business lives.

During our developmental years we are trained to hone our skills and talents, however there are talents which come naturally to us. Now sure there are also skills which need to be developed in people. However it is our natural talents that are the ones which are best being used in our lives. What you need to do is work on utilising those talents that come naturally to you and using them regularly in your daily life. There are many reasons why we need to use our natural talents. It can be helping a friend in their time of need by being understanding supportive and encouraging, it may be showing someone the path that is best for them to take and encouraging them to become better as a person, it may be raising a child or children you never know.

There are so many uses for our talents which we need to realise and use regularly. There are reasons why we learn those lessons and that is normally to teach us something. We have to learn something. There is nothing we can do about that. Think about what your natural talents are find a way to use them daily and regularly.

Want to know more? Just ask. You can call or email me.

Do you want to learn how to create better relationships? Information is available by downloading our free eBook. Ben Drake

What makes you happy and what does not?

16/02/2011

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In our own lives we have things which make us happy and things which don’t. We have talents and abilities, our talents are what we need to use to be successful. However when we combine this with something that makes us happy it is a great combination. When you are happy you sing, you dance and act stupid, you can be yourself, you know that no matter what you will be loved and accepted by the person who you are communicating with. However when you are unhappy you can be grouchy, mean, disrespectful and hurtful to others. Unfortunately people do not realise that this is will often be what causes a person’s life to be a total mess. They do not realise that the source of their own unhappiness has been brought on by themselves. They hurt others in an attempt to boost their own ego and self-esteem.

It’s a matter of ok what do I need to do to be happy. What does literally make you happy as a person? Is there a special someone who makes you happy, a partner, a friend, a child, is there something you enjoy doing which will help improve your mood? Such as helping people change their lives, volunteering, raising kids, talking with someone that you love. Within each of us is a deep yearning for what makes us happy, this happens to be the key to making others happy also. When we let others know what makes us happy it helps those relationships develop. When we are happy others are happy too.

You notice when you are happy that more people will say hello or want to talk to you, they want to know you. When you are happy you walk different, talk different and move differently. However when someone else is unhappy it literally effects dynamics of every relationship. When you put in a person who is unhappy it drags the whole group down. However once that person is taken out of that group it is once again harmonious. The more negative people that are there the more draining it can be on those who are positive. Put a number of very unhappy people into the mix and you end up with a group which goes downhill.

In order to be happy again, you need to find a way to make those things that have to be done enjoyable. You may need to put on music to listen to whist cleaning, listening to personal development audios at the gym. There are often ways to make those things more fun and enjoyable. Sure sometimes we have to find out how we are going to do such and take it from there. Yet once you find a way to enjoy such it’s great.

I know that communicating with my special friend makes me happy. A chat with her makes me happy, also communicating and chatting with the people who are important to me. Staying involved in their lives as person means a lot to me. So what makes you happy and enjoy life more. Only you know that and only you can answer that question yourself, no one else can do that. Just remember though you do need to be able to fore fill your own needs and desires too. So you have the right to expect that your own needs are meet also.

Want to know more? Just ask. You can call or email me.

Do you want to learn how to create better relationships? Information is available by downloading our free eBook. Ben Drake

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Life’s Changes

15/02/2011

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Quite often we are asked to change something about ourselves by life. This allows us to become that person we have to for our own future. E.g. we decided to make a change that has in the past not even been considered and it propels our lives forwards. The thing is we may not be listening to that little voice which is saying I want you to make this change. Often when we make that change it propels our lives forwards. When oppose the changes because we are not willing or wanting to change and we have become comfortable where we are as person. So what happens we remain the same and do not change? Some of the changes are needed, whist others are not.

The only person who has the power to change us is the person who we allow to change us. We can be asked to change however unless we want to make that change people are unable to change us in any way. Life may ask us to change either through a thought, a person suggesting a change or otherwise. You can never know what changes are going to be needed. That’s the thing some people are unhappy with something and yet they want another person to make a change in their behaviour. When someone is trying to help you change it’s because they love you, people who refuse to accept changes remain stagnant and do not get anywhere.

Sometimes life is using a person who loves you is used a conduit to help you to make a change in your own life, however at other times they may not be. At times it’s a matter of thinking why do I need to make this change and is it something I am prepared to commit to. When it’s a change you do not want no problem, yet when it is a change you want great. Change is about becoming the person you were meant to be, certain people have different things which look good and bad on them as a person. E.g. their dress, their clothes, their appearance, their family, it’s a matter of knowing what works for you as a person and what you are most comfortable wearing and dressing in, then going from there. You may not be comfortable in a dress no problem, you may not be comfortable in a suit ok, how do you like to dress. How you like to look to feel, what is it that is really important to you as a person. It’s a matter of ok this is something I like and something I don’t like. Sure sometimes those who you love will disagree with such, yet it’s just a matter of accepting their opinion and finding a way to work with those who you care about.

The people who can accept the changes that they are asked to make are often the ones that will make great progress in life, when they are asked to change their diet or to make a change in their lifestyle for some reason it’s quite often for the best. Quite often it’s the change that the person really needs to make in order to move onto that next level as a person, in order to become worth a lot more. You have to think ok what change is needed to make this better or work for me. Life may through a bunch of changes at you however when you change and become the person you were intended to be then the sky is the limit. There are times when you need to consider what am I happy doing and what am I not happy doing, how can I integrate what I am happy doing into my own life.

Some people are so conditioned by others that they will stop changing and then they literally stop becoming more than who they are, so what these people need to do is make some gradual changes in their lives, when people make gradual changes rather than rapid changes they propel their life forward in small steps. When they make a rapid change a person tends to not be happy when the changes stop happening and they become dissatisfied with the results they are getting.

Think about what it. What changes are needed or wanted in your own life?
Do you need to change your diet?
Do you need to change how you relate to your partner?
Do you need to lose weight?
Do you need to gain weight?
Do you need to lower your stress levels?
Do you need to regain or improve your health?
Do you need to learn to become financially independent?
Do you want to find true love?
Do you want to foster kids?
Do you want to start a family?
Do you want to leave where you are now? (E.g. home, environment, who you are living with).
Do you want to change jobs?
Do you want a income which supports your life?
Do you want a better lifestyle?
Do you want to create better relationships?
Do you want to pay off your debts?
Do you want to travel more?
Do you want to spend more time with your family?
Do you want to get married?
Do you want to needed, wanted, accepted, supported, encouraged, and loved?
Do you want to be financially free? (Debts paid, money in the bank to do what you want and when you want to).

There are so many things a person can change or may be dissatisfied with in their lives. You need to find out what you niche and how you work best and go from there. Change is something that is very important in life.

Want to know more? Just ask. You can call or email me.

Do you want to learn how to create better relationships? Information is available by downloading our free eBook. Ben Drake

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My story – Out of the ashes

14/02/2011

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I have many different versions of my story, each of them to do with a different area of my life. As I shall say, a lot of it has been lessons to allow me to become the better stronger person who I had to become. Seeing myself become that person and looking around at what my life is like now. I needed to learn those lessons which would allow me to become successful in my own life and my profession and business. What is successful to me? That is answered later on; I had to learn what success or rich meant to me as a person. I am concentrating on professional, business, relationships and health in this portion of my story.

When I first came to network marketing in 2003, I was looking for work; I had spent years not able to find work stable. When I did find work it did not last long and was short lived owing to me being unable to cope with such for a variety of reasons. Sometimes owing to being unsupported in the role I was doing. At that time, I had little or no friendships, a number of jobs had been wrong for me; I was overweight and had a couple of life disabilities.

My life was literally a mess; I spent the next 2 years learning the business and then left because of ill advice and someone offering me an opportunity which I took. At that time I was not ready and still had things I needed to learn, for the next 2 years I remained self-employed working in that field of IT, I would work as needed. My health was not good; I was not taking care of myself health wise. In 2006, I was told either you lose weight or you are up for an operation or worse.

I could not afford the operation, having no work and so I slowly started to lose weight. I had also seen the consequences of ill health on my own family who still do not take care of their health. So I started my regime of losing weight. I’d seen my mum with diabetes not control her health and that was not something I had wanted, so in 2007 whist I was still searching for work and having left the IT role for a number of reasons which included medical reasons. I came across the same network marketing company that I had been involved with previously. I found out that it was someone whom I had met the first time and said yes without a doubt. Knowing the products worked. At that point I had no money and yet I knew I would find a way to get started, which I did.

From that simple decision, I started to get my weight under control and regain my health, a person who had struggled to maintain work and his health owing to many reasons. I literally started to put my life back together, living with a disability which limits your lifting ability was not easy; also knowing that I needed a role that I could do around my health, which could create problems. During this time, I started working on relationships and my other issues as well. Some relationships worked some did not; it was simply what I had to learn. So I worked on my relationships as much as I could and creating friendships which I had hardly any.

I also had a very poor diet owing to the lifestyle I had been living and the diet my family ate. Very much fast food or meals that were premade, that had been the lifestyle for a number of years. I did not know any better. I began eating healthier and getting my weight under control along with working on relationships. I was going to the gym to physical side of my health, which needs to be maintained constantly.

In just over 14 months New Years Eve 2008 I finished my weight loss and had gone from weighing 116 kg to 82 kg which was 34 kg weight loss. I had also lost over 135 cm of body fat it was great. I had gone from a double or triple extra large to a medium / large which was great. As the months went by from there I gradually went down to lose a further 6 kilos to keep my weight around 76 kilos for me I had never been able to do such. I was not as hungry and was able to do a lot more then what I had been able to do in many years.

One of my disabilities used to restrict how long I was able to stand on my feet. These days I no longer have that issue; sure, the condition is still there. I have managed to maintain my weight bellow 82 kg since then. For me I have been working on keeping my health and appetite under control. Something I do not ever remember having done at all. I spoke about success and rich at the begging of my story, to me rich is relationships. Strong friendships and being happy, it has been over 3 years since I started that journey now. I have had to learn creating relationships, friendships, to be comfortable with myself, to be myself and not care what others think. I have also needed to learn financial independence, saving, investment, so many things.

Why did I have to learn all this? Well I was not taught such. I was always made to feel that my needs, wants dreams and desires were not worth it. So I they been pushed so far down that it was not funny; owing to my upbringing. Why do you want that I would hear. The people who I hung around would literally drag me down rather then pull me up. I just existed as I did not know any better. Looking back I had to learn all that I learnt to be the guy who I am today.

I have gone on to find 3 of the best friendships I could ever ask for. These friends are wonderful, they know what has gone on and I am glad to of met them. One of them is a legend and my very best friend, they are the best. They know who they are and I am glad to have them in my life. What can I say I have literally started to rebuild my life from nothing, out of the ashes and had to do that, I started with nothing, now I know that no matter what I can rebuild my life no matter what does happen.

I have become successful and rich in being able to find those 3 great friendships, they are friends who I can count on no matter what and would trust with so many things. Each of them are the best. I have best colleagues who are there to help when I need them and I am glad to have them around.

I have kept my story generic and non-company specific owing to the fact that I have had to use a number of different methods to get my life back on track. Let me know should you want to know more.

Do you want to learn how to create better relationships? information is available by downloading our free eBook. Ben Drake

Author: Mentor Ben Drake

Using your talents

What makes you happy and what does not?

Life’s Changes

My story – Out of the ashes