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Being there for someone

 05/04/2011 05/04/2011
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    |   Mentor Ben Drake Mentor Ben Drake
    |   10:34 am 10:34 am

Being there for someone is part of being a true friend. During these times, you are there for them through thick and thin, which is the sign of a true friend, someone who is going to stand by you no matter what. They are the ones who talk with you when you are down even though you may be struggling. They are people who say you can just drop in; you can stay with me when you are in town. These people support and encourage their friends and love them for who they are as a person. Sure, there can be misunderstandings, yet they are often sorted out and the person is there when you need them most.

They may have to say to someone look right now it’s too much for me to support you with what’s going on for me, I have too much on my own plate. Yet they are there for you no matter what it does no matter. No matter what distance you have between you. Being in two different time zones can be hard yet it is what happens. Often find a way to work around such, you find a way to show the person that they mean something to you no matter what. Sure, there are people who do not understand another person’s need for support, companionship and friendship. There is nothing you can do about such, these people can be best friends yet they need to learn that friendship needs a lot of support and encouragement you can do nothing about such at all. The best thing is to then find people who are going to be supportive and you enjoy spending time with, who are going to support and encourage you as a person, they will also help you grow as a person.

Sometimes you need to choose just whom you are going to support, encourage, be there for, and set some firm boundaries with that person. It is what happens and part of life, boundaries are where you stop as a person and I begin. However, there are times when people will not even observe those boundaries as a person. Being there is about having those limits and saying look I do need time for me also. It is acknowledging such and going from there, saying ok here is how we can do this. When the person is important to you, then you often find a way to achieve such.

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Trust

 04/04/2011 04/04/2011
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    |   Mentor Ben Drake Mentor Ben Drake
    |   10:15 am 10:15 am

Trust is about belief in someone or something; it is about believing that they are telling you truth. Trust can take time to build however once violated unfortunately some people never earn another's trust back. We can often forgive someone when they use words which make us realise what had happened, however sometimes people do not even realise they need to use different words to make another person understand.

Trust is about relying on someone’s word, sometimes unfortunately words are not always fully understood by what another person is saying is correct. To trust means believing in someone or something, also having confidence in their ability although they may not as a person believe in themselves. In my own life, I can see a lot of people’s trust in me, as they believe in me as a person, they believe in my abilities as a person. When someone says I believe you can do a good job at this and you know they are being honest then it builds your own confidence and trust.

However when you know people will not do what they say they are going to do then it destroys your trust in them. I know people who will blow off someone as they want to have fun, sometimes this can destroy another person’s trust. A person who repeatedly does not follow through with promises to someone else will often find that the other persons trust in them is gone. Why well that person no longer believes them. Trust can be destroyed very quickly when someone no longer thinks that they can believe you as a person. This is the quickest way to destroy any trust someone may you have in you. When you treat them like they mean nothing and it destroys the friendship quickly.

Sometimes unfortunately people need to realise they have to use words which others understand and are known to that person or that a person will understand quickly. You can cause a big fight when the other person does not understand what you have fully said to them. Sometimes trust can be lowered owing to a simple misunderstanding or words, which a person does not understand what you are saying. The hard part is sometimes you need to use words, which that person is going to understand; sometimes the person needs more information or simpler words to be used rather than big words.

Trust is understanding that person, understanding that sometimes they just cannot fully understand what you are saying. Having the confidence that no matter what you shall work it out with that person even the simplest misunderstanding as a person. That is trust having the faith that no matter what it will be ok, that no matter what you will be fine. That you are going to be ok and that you can do what is being asked of you as a person.

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