This is who I am and it makes little difference your opinion of who I am as a person. It only matters what I think about myself. As my mentor says it’s none of my business what anyone else thinks of me it is only my business what I think of myself. So who is Ben.
- A husband and father
- A mentor and coach
- Model train lover
- Entrepreneur
- Healthy and fit
- A volunteer
That is just part of who I am, I have my own choice in underwear, how I dress, my own car, what I do. Growing up my own father had his own choice how he was it was and still is his choice to sit down and read the paper daily. It was his choice to get upset when was doing something different than what he was wanting, just like its someone elses choice how they act when You mess up. My own dad has taught many lessons although he scares me. These days it’s also a reaction based environment from a number of people. For many years I was sitting there letting my own father’s reaction run my life. It was a big bulling environment.
A disagreement with my sister when dad was resting would turn into being told to shut up. Doing high school homework would result in him getting angry as he wanted to go to bed with me doing the homework in the master bedroom. At the time it was where did my homework and was very uninterested in the subjects. There was no where else to do the homework.
I really am unconcerned if Ya dislike seeing me wearing tights, if ya dislike me wearing a thong underwear or dislike me being an entrepreneur. I have been a entrepreneur since 2003 and before that with a number of companies. I left some owing to ill advice that the person failed to understand what was doing as a person. I needed to grow as a person and leave a lot behind after that experience.
That is who I am and I am allowed to be myself. I’ve had comments coming to me that the person wants me to wear shorts to stop tights moving down when in Pilates class now I pull up the tights often and I know that shorts are just gonna give the same they will fall down. It’s that person’s reaction to the situation which is who they are. As for me well I am allowed to be myself rather than hearing someone who is unhappy with their own life drag me down to their level. As one of my mentors says its like crabs attempting to pull You back down to their level.
There are times when hear someone make their thoughts about a dream or goal known with how the project is too big or this or that. Again it’s my own dream and who I am it’s not my choice the size of my own model train layout and if it’s a large or small layout if it incorporates a huge station or not if it contains a huge custom mountain range.
That’s just who I am having a big dream and I refuse to let someone take that dream away. Recently after watching the greatest showman which shows how the circus formed. Aswell as learning to accept who You are one song this is me is a very true song. Its about accepting Yourself. So what if I’ve had a long medical history of injury and illness or constantly unwell or take turns looking after our son. That is my own choice. It’s who I am as a person, if I choose to be the stay at home parent that’s my own choice.
Who I am is a Stay at home dad, the peanut gallery may want me to keep working for someone else or be unable to accept that being a entrepreneur is also working it can be a lot harder than working for someone else. In the end we are all ourselves and one big area most of us are seeking happens to be acceptance of who we are as a person. It starts within us.
So yes Ben is the model train lover who has a huge layout plan idea for his layout, yes it’s also the same guy who is happy sleeping naked, happy using a butt plug, happy wearing tights only at the gym. I really am unconcerned what You have to say. I am a stay at home dad, that’s who I am. He also loves science fiction. He loves romance and candles and cuddles. It makes little difference to me, there are those who are happy to see You volunteer and help out others who really wouldn’t give it a thought.
In my own life I have sought acceptance from my own piers however I needed to accept myself as a person. I have spent many Years working on myself to give my own family the best husband and father that can be. After spending many years listening to those whom were pushing themselves on me.
Wishing You a life full of Love and Health,
Your friends and mentors for life,
Ben and Jenny
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