Would it be ok if I shared my lesson on Chapter 15 from Think and Grow Rich for this week’s Think and Grow Rich Lessons with You. A program that has helped thousands to change their lives and to become the person that they were intended to be. It has helped myself to become a better husband, father and friend.
Fear it will run our lives when we let it take over our lives,many have let fear run their lives and it has stopped them dead in their tracks of achievement. We must learn to lock up that fear and put it aside, as my good friend and mentor Ken Klemm has said “lock it up in a goal cell and throw away the key”. Leaving that fear alone, for many of us including myself spent our lives living in fear.
We listen to the naysayers who have lived their own lives in fear and attempt to get us under their control from fear. They use the destructive negative emotions to run their own and others lives. It may be someone who has caused us a significant emotional pain.
Often they will make use of the following emotions to run their own lives and to take control of our lives too. They are The seven major negative emotions (To be avoided)
The emotion of FEAR
The emotion of JEALOUSY
The emotion of HATRED
The emotion of REVENGE
The emotion of GREED
The emotion of SUPERSTITION
The emotion of ANGER
They will stop someone or express a destructive opinion about a person’s plans and that person will stop working towards their goal or dream that they have just spoke to someone about. It may be planning to buy a new car, planning to build a model train layout, their family plan, a holiday, what they want to do with their lives. They hear a comment based on fear and bang its all gone, they stop dead in their tracks.
For many years that was how lived life, that would express an idea that had, to someone about buying a new car or similar and would hear all the wrong reason for the achievement, often that opinion was stemming from fear when would hear the comments. Many a times when have expressed an idea or opinion its been to the wrong person. Those ideas are then gone to wayside unless You have enough belief in You idea to make it happen and have those who support You to achievement. For many years some of us rarely have had that in our lives.
Thanks to mentoring for free for allowing me to hear those destructive ideas that were coming across from those who were the wrong types of influences within my own life. Allowing me to realise yes sometimes it may be needed to be scared about an area, we still need to achieve that or do that even against the fear. For many years I allowed that fear of being a dad and a relationship run my own life owing to the emotional pain from many years.
I had to stop letting that pain run my own life and learn to see what was better now. Focusing on that positive, having a son on the way that gives a chance to correct and be that dad, mentor, husband that had always wanted to have within my own life.
Thank You to my amazing, wonderful, loving friends and family, who have helped me to learn to love again. To become more and to a better person, to let my own love be free and share that with those within my own life. Thank You Ken Klemm, Linda and Michael Dlouhy for Your ongoing guidence love and support, to my own wife Jenny thanks for being that amazing wife, mother to our son and being the best wife could ever ask for.
Your friend for life,
Ben Drake
West Ryde NSW Australia
Bob Shoaf Alamogordo, NM, USA
CHAPTER 15 HOW TO OUTWIT THE SIX GHOSTS OF FEAR
For me, this is the DECISION chapter. This is the chapter one either makes the
decision to get rid of the three main enemies that hold them back:
INDECISON, DOUBT AND FEAR
Or they continue where they are.
There are 6 basic fears Napoleon Hill talks about, but eliminating the big three
will go a long way to eliminating the remaining.
For me the biggest step forward was when I realized what Michael Dlouhy had said
numerous times:
IT IS NONE OF MY BUSINESS WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK OF ME. THE ONLY THING THAT IS
MY BUSINESS IS WHAT I THINK OF MYSELF.
I find thinking this way helps in all areas of my life. What others think just
does not matter. I do my best. Work on eliminating mistakes and the heck with
what anyone else thinks. I have started being a reader in church again after a
couple years off. Of course, I follow approved procedures, but I apply this same
thinking there.
Again what Michael Dlouhy says:
HOW YOU DO ANYTHING, IS HOW YOU DO EVERYTHING!
How do You want to feel in 6 months? In a year? This chapter can be a defining
moment for You as it has for me.
BE HERE A YEAR FROM NOW. IT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE IN A VERY POSITIVE WAY!
I am grateful to Linda and Michael Dlouhy for providing this opportunity where
each one of us can grow; gaining the personal growth needed
so we can lead a
better personal life as well as business life. Thank You Linda and Michael
Dlouhy for this opportunity.
I am also grateful to each person who makes up the mastermind calls. We are
helping each other seek our way, each learning how to do everything in our lives
better. Thanks to each one of You.
Bob Shoaf
Alamogordo, NM
PS: I am especially grateful to each person who has downloaded my ebook and
chosen to show they are COACHABLE and desire more out of life. As Napoleon Hill
says, it takes at least 2 people to make a mastermind group. One person doesn’t
work. The two of us are learning together. We teach each other. Thank You to
each one of You.
Tuula Rands Summerland, British Columbia, Canada
Chapter 15 – How to Outwit the Six Ghosts of Fear.
Hill writes “INDECISION is the seedling of FEAR! Remember this, as you read.
Indecision crystalizes into DOUBT, the two blend and become FEAR! The “blending”
process often is slow. This is one reason why these three enemies are so dangerous.
They germinate and grow without their presence being observed.”
I believe the fear of criticism is the one fear that is most prominent in the Network
Marketing industry and as Mr. Hill states “This fear and its effects are fatal to personal
achievement, mainly because this fear destroys initiative, and discourages the use of imagination.”
How do we know we have this fear? We could ask ourselves a number of questions.
Do we shy away from sharing our business with our friends and family?
Do we say we are going to go out and share our products with people and then come
home and say we could not find anyone to talk to?
Do we fail to give out our business card when we had an opportunity to do so?
Do we fail to call and follow up with potential clients and customers?
As Mr. Hill states this fear of criticism is fatal and if we don’t do something about it
we will fail in our endeavours to build a successful Network Marketing business.
Hill also tells us “The fear of criticism robs man of his initiative, destroys his power
of imagination, limits his individuality, takes away his self reliance, and does him damage
in a hundred other ways.”
So how do we get rid of the fear of criticism? How do we outwit this ghost?
We need to do as Michael Dlouhy continues to teach us, and that is, I paraphrase here,
we need to tell ourselves “It is not my business what other people think of me. What is
my business is what I think of myself.”
What I think of myself is the important part because when we worry about what others
think, we do not do the things we should do and want to do. We basically are living
the life we think others want us to live even though that is not what we want. Others
do not pay our bills, they do not worry whether we have enough food, whether we have
enough clothing and they do not call us at the end of the month to see if we have
enough to pay the rent or mortgage.
Oh, how foolish we can be!
The solution is to take action. We are the only ones that can change our lives.
We need to play our music, live our music and just do what it is we want to do to accomplish
as our desires and quit worrying about what others think.
Hill also tells us “in order to to protect yourself against negative influences, whether of your
own making, or the result of the activities of negative people around you, recognize that you
have a WILL-POWER, and put it into constant use, until it builds a wall of immunity against
negative influences in your own mind and to deliberately seek the company of people who
influence you to THINK AND ACT FOR YOURSELF.”
In other words, we need to take responsibility for our own lives.
Tuula Rands
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