Colleen K. Peltomaa
Have a Pulse, You Have a Purpose” was painted on the back of a colorful RV parked at my local Walmart. I spoke with the lady and later checked out her blogs and her poetry from the heart, and her story of how she persisted with choosing life.
[Latin persistere literally, to stand firm permanently]
Today I initially did not feel like hauling rocks and it felt like effort and my mind protested and as I persisted through the interference from body and mind, I felt more in present, and it seemed like the thing to do and any sense of effort was the body exerting muscle power, but even the body was getting into the spirit of play of it. So my persistence through some initial resistances paid off. For example, a good psychotherapist basically helps the client focus and then persist through that focus until he gets the “Aha!” moment. So we have systems of focus and persistence.
The other thing that comes up as a barrier to meeting my goals is complacency. Complacency is the effort to keep anything from changing, or believing nothing needs to change.
Also, failure to meet a daily target makes me upset with myself and, instead of getting warped about it, just say, okay that was that, time to correct now. “When is NOW the best time to continue?”
A good system of persistence is some sort of planning tool(s) that turns the goal(s) into daily action and measures progress. It can also include a reward system: “If I take my shoes off at the door for the next two weeks I will take us all out to dinner.”
Since starting this 30-day mental cleanse and working with my mentor, David H. Paul, I am getting up an hour earlier, and I also wrote out my goal plan from A to Z.
As once said, “the only way out is through”. So persist through any troubles you have gotten yourself in and have trust that all things do work together for good. Lemons can be turned into lemonade if you persist in love and faith.
In relationships this has been difficult for me because I sort of felt like life was a Greek tragedy, and so too much seriousness in relationships made it more difficult to persist through what others might view as a run of the mill upset, that I might have viewed as a hurricane force “deal breaker”. So everyone has their tolerances for persistence and best to know yourself and what your tolerances are and to understand others too.
For example, take Greens, how do they exhibit persistence? How do Blues exhibit persistence? Greens are persistent at getting the details known, and Blues are not. Blues are persistent in making sure they and their friends are getting blissed out. If you were the CEO how would you best employ someone with Green leanings? With Blue? How would you show your appreciation?
Oh, about the “cold blooded, ruthless” part: If one is too hasty in their persistence and views other people as the obstacle and inadvertently or calculatedly does not take the effort needed to communicate to a point of mutual understanding and agreement, then of course feathers are going to get ruffled.
Conservative people don't like getting their feathers wet and ruffled, and rather you kept your goals in line with theirs, so it's really not the persistency but the height or direction of the goal that can feel threatening. When you have a deeply personal goal that is unspeakable, you are setting yourself up for trouble and a lot of unnecessary need to persist through counter-efforts. If you can, simply get with some good masterminds and mentors who can help you by example to communicate your goal(s) at a level that is real to others. Learn to talk “pit talk” if you have to. It's all about helping others anyways, so best to meet others at the lowest common denominator of the people you mean to help. A good psychotherapist is always asking himself what is the best runway that will help the most people reach the highest levels of self-actualization.
Also, never force someone to persist and never prevent someone from persisting to achieve their goal(s). Both are sure ways to get into non-complementary games conditions with others. Imagine a diplomat or ambassador of a peace loving country treading toes. So, there is such a thing as persisting with diplomacy and understanding. At least take care of the poor widows of those you ran over on the way to achieving your goal [wry humor]. Best of all, hold them up as “Perfect” and believe in them and give them the time and space and 'presence' they need.
Writing this essay speaks to me probably more than to anyone else and I'm not trying to teach anyone but myself. It is a self-reflection.
Lesson plan from Colleen K. Peltomaa on chapter 9 for the 30 day mental cleanse.
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