Boy they sure are!
I have noticed this last time around as I battle the weight loss that my thoughts have a different feeling than they did.
Before I said the right words, I said I could do it, I would lose 10 lbs, 15 lbs, or what ever number popped into my mind but I didn’t believe it, but I kept saying it and kept THINKING it would never work. Finally I was driving down the road, again, and crying, again because I didn’t know why it was so hard for me to do it and called a friend for help. I made it a regular thing to go to my friend ( she is a nutritionist) and get educated about food, and even agreed to see her husband, another friend and counselor about me and my relationship with food, actually my relationship with me that made me use food the way I have been. I learned, am learning to get rid of the sadness by looking at it and allow the anger that followed, and to get rid of the anger I have a plan and I am carrying it out. I do the shake every morning… the cookie is usually too much and pay attention to the rest of my day, and I am losing weight! I don’t think to my self why can’t I, I think to myself this time I am doing it! And I am. I Feel this time it is working and I am not quitting until I have done it. There is a knowing behind the self talk. I don’t push the negative thoughts away, I look at them and dismiss them.
So it isn’t just saying the self talk, it is thinking the self talk, feeling it as it has already happened and maybe more important DOING the self talk. If you say it but don’t take action nothing happens, and you think the negative, so that is what you get. I took action, as much as it scared me, I took a headlong dive into finding out why I wanted to keep the weight, so I could face it and take action to change it, and now I KNOW I will succeed.
Now I am doing the same with the business. I am taking action, and not making excuses. I am doing the parties even though I still feel the resistance, because I know I that once I take action to match my self talk, positive things will happen. The feeling behind the words will change, and my thoughts behind the words will change and I will get results. My thoughts are things, and for the best results they need to match what I say and what I do. I won’t be afraid of success because I have a plan and understand the fear. That critical parent that tells me if I try I will fail is wrong. I am not afraid to prove them right, because they are wrong.
PS. As I read this over, I noticed I was still saying I would and I will, changed it to I am… present tense!
PSS Just in case… Don’t think I can read this but if you want to use you you are welcome to have someone else read it instead. Maybe it can give someone else some courage and to know they are not alone in how they feel and that they can change it.
Lesson plan from Ruth Renshaw on chapter 1 for the 30 day mental cleanse.
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