March, 2011 • Coach Freedom and Friends

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A persons diet is the most important thing that they need to consider in life. When you have diet heavy in processed foods, which has little or no exercise then it’s not easy. As fast food or pre packaged foods can tend to be high in sugar and fats. These foods also can lack the basic things which a person needs for a healthy body such as proteins, low sugar and low fats. When we have a diet which is high in fats and sugar we may put on weight as we are not burning off those calories throughout the day.

When we do very little exercise, then we are not burning off what we put into our bodies weather it’s good or bad. A person who lives like this can end up with a number of health complications long term. There are many reasons why people no longer eat the right foods or exercise and the major one they do not have enough time to prepare the meals that they want, so they eat a lot of convenience foods. For example the foods are already premade and ready to be cooked so that the family can eat and leave. They may not arrive home till late and its dinner time.

This has become a part of today’s society, we live in a world of fast pace everything can be instant this. Everyone is rushed and do not have the time anymore, it’s no longer like it used to be that we took the time to take care of ourselves and choose carefully what we ate as a person. Also we expect results so quickly that when they are not showing up people tend to get frustrated and annoyed. Sometimes we are doing the right thing or need to change something to make such better and working. When we do such we tend to get better results, it’s the same with diet and exercise. Sometimes it’s about knowing ok this is what I can eat and what helps me stay away from those bad foods.

Also it’s about knowing yourself as a person. Are you someone who will eat when you are in a stressful environment or do you eat very little? Everyone is different, some people talk like crazy when they are nervous others say nothing. It’s a matter of knowing who you are as a person, what amount of exercise you need to do, also how you can fit that into your life. Sure we work hard and have long travel times for work now. However when something is important to you either you health, a friend, diet or simular you find a way no matter what happens.

Changing our diet to better foods and exercise is about choice and finding a way to live healthier. It is making that choice and saying ok this is what I am going to do no matter what and keeping to that commitment. Almost always you need someone behind you supporting and encouraging you to do such, saying go for it. You can do this it’s the same with anything in life. When you have little support or encouragement then it does not work well at all.

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How to Create Content That Brings Traffic Year After Year

02/03/2011

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Being Controlled

02/03/2011

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All our lives we are programmed by other people through media, family and friends. You may have someone ring up and try and force their opinion on you. Family can sometimes think that what they have to say is right and you can be made to feel that you have no right to express yourself or speak up. People may believe that they are able to tell you want to think, believe, how to behave, how to save money, how to spend your own money and even what to do as a person. When a person is told how to think from a young age they can start to believe that the other person’s opinion of them is the truth, they believe what they are told by others as they may not have been taught any different during their upbringing.

Everyone will develop habits owing to how they grew up as a child. Some people learn to fight for themselves, some people learn to defend themselves, others learn to save, others will learn to work hard and not care about the bills and how much they spend as a person. When someone is not allowed to express themselves and their needs, wants or desires and they are told no you don’t need that what do you need that for, why do you want that. Then they start to feel that their needs, wants and desires are worthless and not worth anything at all.

The person may have be yelled at or told no I don’t want you doing that they may have been ridiculed for their choices, as per what they have done. These are all forms of control as the other person is trying to force their opinion on you. When someone has low self-worth or self-esteem then they start to believe what they have been told as a person, when they are challenged for speaking up and told to either to shut up or may be treated like they are not worth anything, then that persons self-esteem crashes and the person can start to feel down or blue. They may become suicidal and depressed.

I have been in situations where someone feels that they can push another around as they are in a position of power and they have power over them. It doesn’t just happen at work, it can happen at home, in many places. The person feels they have the power and that they can do whatever they please; they can talk to someone how they please. They will make the person feel bad for saying no to them; they will get their way no matter what happens. There is a big difference between being controlled and standing up for themselves. A person who stands up for themselves is saying look I am not going to put up with this; I am not going to take this. However the person who is controlling generally tends to put the other person down; they make the person feel bad for what they have said and they act as if they do not care about the other person’s needs as a person.

The best thing to do when someone else is trying to control you or telling you what you should be doing, is try and sort things out. However when this repeatedly fails to produce results, then its best to walk away from that situation where things are not good at all. When someone treats another person like they are rubbish and refuses to let the other person have their say without getting upset or defensive then it’s not good, when you are unable to express something without the person always using an angry, annoyed tone then it does not help the situation. In the end the person who is being controlled quite often says I am unable to take this anymore and they walk away.

They either cut off the friendship completely or should that not be possible they say look I love you however I just don’t like you. They are saying look I love you I just do not appreciate what you are doing to me and how you are doing it. Sometimes this has to happen with family, you just need to say look no I am not going to put up with your rubbish anymore. You don’t ring up and tell me off for something you know nothing about, you don’t expect that I am your servant and willing to do anything you want, yet when I ask for help you do not give such or pull me down for saying I need you to do something. You expect that it’s all about give me what I want and that’s all, yet when I ask for help you fight it.

There are people out there who expect others to just give, give, give and not to want anything at all for themselves at all. They think oh yes I am going to just do what I want and go from there. I do not care if they’re busy or what that person has to say about something. It’s my way or the highway, I am in the right and there is nothing you can do about such. When someone responds to someone else's every demand such as take me here, do this, do that. They are giving in to the person who is controlling them. When a person considers that a commitment they made is not worth them doing, its saying look I do not care about you or that is not important to me. So I am just going to leave it.

There are people out there who will always push others around they make others unhappy and drag them down. Its best to identify who these people are say no I am not going to take them pushing me around whether they like it or not. There are people who think that they will always be right no matter what and these people are quite often the hardest people to be around as they are unable to easily pleased. They think oh I am correct no matter what anyone else says, I do not care and that’s final. They do not realise that they are pushing others away from them by doing what they are doing. Quite often these people do not realise until it’s too late or their children and family are rarely in touch as they do not enjoy being with that person.

Want to know more? Just ask. You can call or email me.

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What do you want and what do you not want?

01/03/2011

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When thinking about this subject it’s asking us about our goals, what we are looking for and what we are not looking for. You see you may want a position that is high paying however with little training. What are you prepared to do to obtain your goals, however it’s also asking another question. What are not looking for? Essentially you are being asked what you want in regards to a relationship, business, and professional position, even the small things like a volunteer job, a home, car and an investment. Yet you are also asked what you do not want from the above listed.

You may want a job that you can work from home around your family and health no matter what, you may want a position that can save the farm, you may want a new home which can cater for your growing family, you may want a new TV. Each person has different wants and desires, they have things that are necessary and things that are unnecessary. I know I need a profession where I can work from home around my health, where I can do the best I can around my health at that point.

Also I know that I have to go to the gym to maintain my own health, so they are wants when considering a profession. A role that is flexible around my health and that I can maintain my own health at the same time. I know that I have had enough of working for people who push others around. That’s an example of what I want and need, I want to maintain my own health and watch my kids grow up. Not turn up and never do anything with them. I want to be able to travel and show those I love that I care about them as a person, that they are special to me.

That is what we are talking about, when people do not know what they want or are seeking they often take what they are given. They accept it and are often unhappy about what has happened owing to the fact that they are not in control of their own lives. However they were unsure about what they were seeking and why, some people do not know what they want and why. This is part of a person’s why, what they want to achieve from life and what means the most to them as a person.

Some people will go all their lives not knowing what they want. They literally go around lost as are unaware of what they are seeking, others when they target on what they want and go for it the goal is theirs. However you do need to know deep inside of yourself what you are looking for and just go for it. Essentially its goal setting and being exceptionally specific as to what you are looking for and how you plan to achieve such. Think about it what do you want from life and what do you not want.

Want to know more? Just ask. You can call or email me.

Do you want to learn how to create better relationships? Information is available by downloading our free eBook.

Month: March 2011

Health tips – Diet, exercise and good food.

How to Create Content That Brings Traffic Year After Year

Being Controlled

What do you want and what do you not want?