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Month: March 2011
Becoming worth more.
Some of the things you may hear a lot is I am stuck in this job that I do not want to do, I am so tired of this situation, I am tired of having no money, I am tired of getting nowhere in life, there are many things that people can be sick of. People need to look at the problem at present and think ok what do I need to learn or become in order to overcome this situation. What needs to happen so that you are able to change the situation you no longer want to be in? In order to change a problem or situation we have to become worth more.
So your business is not going as fast as you want, yet are you actively chasing the business or are people asking you what do you do. There is a difference, when people approach you and ask look can you tell more about what you do it’s better than just forcing your advertising or business right underneath someone else's nose. There are people who literally force their view on the people they are around and want you to think, believe and behave just as they do. These people will push others around making them feel bad about themselves. These people do not allow anyone else to speak their mind, they tell you want they think no matter what and some of them will not let anyone else speak or make a decision.
The people who are the greatest are those that are willing to learn to become worth more, they see an opportunity and take it. They see failure as a learning curve, they ask for help and say look help me work out why this is not working. When they help is not forthcoming they look elsewhere or go at it solo. Those who refuse to learn, so they become worth more or they say I do not need to change do not realise that they have created the problem they are seeking to correct. Becoming worth more is about developing an awareness of where we are as a person and being able to improve our own lives, then working towards improving that area.
Ok so you want a better relationship, and then work on building your relationship and interpersonal skills. So you want better finances, and then work on improving them. There are many ways to improve your finances; you just need to work out how you can change such. Don’t just sit there and refuse to change, when you refuse to change or do not acknowledge that there is a problem then it only makes things a lot worse. I have met people who literally pray for help but do nothing to change the issue, they ask that the problem get fixed however do not realise that they have the responsibility of fixing the problem not someone else.
These people do not realise that they are the cause of the problem and in order to change they have to become worth more, they have to develop the skills to become more. Unfortunately some people do not realise that they have to change something in order to become worth a lot more, they either do not understand or accept that they have to change something within themselves. Unfortunately some people do take on other peoples rubbish as their own and this just makes the person who has taken it on feel worse. The people who take on others rubbish need to learn to stand up for themselves and not accept others opinions as truth.
That is part of becoming worth more, becoming worth more is recognising the area’s you are lacking owing to programming or simular and having the courage to work on these areas. To not accept someone else’s opinion as truth; even though you may love that person. It is also about surrounding yourself with a mastermind group of positive people rather than negative people. Everyone has different things they need to do to become worth more as a person, everyone has a different learning curve and how they must change. It’s a matter of how much do you also want to change and become better at those things that you want to improve as a person.
When you are not committed to making the change then you will give up at the first sign of trouble. You will say no I am not worth this goal and not proceed towards the goals achievement, however when you really are committed and want something so bad and you are prepared to learn to become more. To become better at what you want then you will be able to keep on going with the goal even through the rough patches no matter what. Sometimes it will be rough as anything whist working towards the goal, when you are prepared to stick at it no matter what even when it gets that bad then you are becoming worth that goal. When you give up its saying no I am not worth this, I am not going to achieve such. However when you fight the urge to give up, you have already showing you are committed to the goal.
There are times when you may have say I am unable to do this right now because of such, that is part of becoming worth more. Working to overcome those obstacles which have placed themselves in your way, No matter what becoming worth more is about overcoming these obstacles standing in your way to success. It’s about remaining persistent and consistent, saying no I am going to do this no matter how long it takes. There are many examples of people who had to overcome obstacles such as Albert Einstein who perfected the light bulb after over 10,000 failures. Where would we be without the light bulb? he had to become worth the goal. He had to learn what worked and didn’t that took time. That’s what becoming worth more and worth the goal is about, it’s about committing no matter what you have to learn and do to obtain that goal.
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Getting our lives back on track
During the course of our lives we have situations which need us to deal with problems which arise. It may be the death of a member of the family, it can be a separation of family members (parents divorce, decide to separate). We lose our best friend for some reason, we can no longer live where we are, we no longer have a job or we no longer have an income. There are so many issues and problems that arise; the best thing is to think about ok how can I get myself back on track here. What can I do to make this work for me as a person?
It’s about working around what we are able to do about the problem and making it work for us as a person. The people who continually demand and force others to give in are controlling, however the thing is sometimes it’s a matter of learning ok what am I meant to learn here. I know people who just push their opinion on someone and are exceptionally forceful in doing such. In order to get our lives back on track from such we need to separate from them. We need to say sorry however I am no longer going to take this anymore sometimes that is the hardest decision to make. Sometimes it’s a matter of saying no more. Even when we set boundaries their happen to be people who do not respect these.
In order to get our lives back on track we need to begin the rebuilding process, we need to cultivate and build the relationships which are positive and not negative. We need to walk away from those negative bad emotions, saying no I am not going to put up with this anymore. There are people who continually have others living in fear; they are the worst people to live around. As when you live with those people you are made to feel you are not worth anything. You are made to feel that you opinion is not worth anything, nothing you say is right. Sometimes it’s not even possible to have friends.
The best thing to do hear is to say no I am not going to take this and to work on leaving the situation as quick as possible. Some people never learn that it’s their attitude towards you that is why you speak to them as you do, they do not realise they are projecting their bad mood and bad thoughts onto you. Others refuse to think that a person may be acting out because they are not feeling accepted, loved or appreciated. Others are trying to deal with the pressures of so many people pushing them around, the people who treat others badly wonder why they are being treated so badly, it’s because they hate themselves, and they force their opinions on someone and do not give stuff about anyone else they just do as they please. These people do not love themselves, so the best thing is that you walk out of the situation and to say no I am not prepared to accept this. As often the people who push others around refuse to listen to reason, they refuse to listen to what others say.
People develop coping strategies owing to how they have been brought up. They learn to handle certain situations, some people realise that they are being controlled. For others it can take years, even a lifetime to realise they are being controlled. When a person does not feel safe or secure, then they start to shut down. When they do not feel that they have the right to feel the emotions or are shunned for having them then they shut down. People shut down for even not being allowed to talk to friends, not being able to do anything they want anymore, they shut down because they are not even able to have friends over.
The people who shut down and learn to please everyone are made to feel bad for their choices and hurt for what they want as a person. There is often a person who has created fear in this person that is controlling them. These people feel that they have power over that person and that they can do whatever they want, they can treat the other person as if they are not worth anything, talk to them as if they are not right, they think that they are always in the right and have to always control their environment and other people.
The best thing is to walk away from these people and to allow yourself to heal, to work on no longer living in that environment. When this is not possible as someone else is using you for some reason then we start to shut down. I have seen it happen in my own life, we then need to learn how to start the rebuilding process and how we can get our own lives back on track and this is about acknowledging who we are as a person. It is also about healing and starting to repair the damage which has been done. It’s about no longer letting those people who have a low opinion of themselves get to you. The ones who you care about are allowed in and helped. However these people need to ask for help.
The people who hurt you or think that they can do whatever they want to you in order to make themselves feel big, they can say what they want, treat you like you are not worth anything at all, these people are the people who are the hardest to live with, they are the hardest people to work with, the hardest people to have in our own lives. They refuse to acknowledge their own actions and the ramifications of their actions, they do not even realise that they are the ones who have literally created the problem. There are people who literally do not care who they offend and push around.
In order to get our own lives back on track we have to acknowledge who we are with our personality and then go from there. We have to be free to be ourselves and not feel controlled, used, hurt, abused, neglected or unloved at all. We also need to walk away from the problems or situations which are causing us pain and say no I am not prepared to accept such anymore.
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