March, 2011 • Coach Freedom and Friends

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Life is really one big adventure; we have to learn so many things. We are given talents as a person to allow us to perform our life’s work as a person. Yet part of the adventure is learning those things you need to as a person. You need to learn to become the person you were destined to become as a person; some people have to learn talents that are necessary during their life time. We have to learn those lessons needed which allow us to become that person we must become.

So we must therefore learn how to become worth more, yes also we must learn to let love in sure. Yet we must remember love is something we all need in our lives, when we are starved of love we don’t feel worthy of continuing. We may become depressed when love is stagnant and that is not easy. Sure ok we can love ourselves, yet some people need a lot more love then such. It’s part of who we are as people.

Life is such a big adventure we learn and have many missions or things that we have to achieve during the course of our own lifetime. We learn skills, talents and more to allow ourselves to become that person who we were destined to become. Sometimes you need to speak up and say look this is what’s happened or this is what’s going on for me. Sometimes we need to be able to go yes this is what I want and I am going to do such no matter how long, no matter what it takes or needs.

We must remember that we do not choose things we love; often it’s built into us. Often its part of who we are as people, how can someone have the love for someone else despite distance easily it was built into them as a person. How can someone be passionate about what they do, it was built into them. Its part of who they are as a person, each person has talents and skills which they need to use in their life. They have their natural talents and part of them could be unconditional love, yet it could also be that you are happy to accept kids as your own. The love we have for another person is already there. It’s a matter of using such.

Life has a very different adventure for every single person, although our lives are mapped out by what choices we make. We are essentially the product of our own choices, we choose who to love, who to support, who to be a friend with, you never know what’s going to happen or how. We can choose to say yes I am going to love this person until no matter what it takes or costs; essentially we are a product of our own choices.

Did we choose to run late, no we choose to do something which delayed us. Yet we may choose to never have an accident or to be a safe driver, we can choose to improve ourselves and our skills. We can choose to improve ourselves in many ways, yes life is about choice. We make the choice to love someone; we make the choice to leave them, to let our love die. To not say I love you, to stop being the person who you were when your partner feel in love with you.

We all have things which are part of the adventure and what we love, some of us our adventure is helping people such as my own. Others their adventure is to save lives, others are destined to build things, others are destined to make money and never have enough of the stuff. One thing you can always guarantee that there is always an abundance of is love for not only family, friends too. The adventure is many things, through the rough times we are taught the skills necessary to for fill our own personal mission. We learn those skills necessary for what we have to be in the future, we are constantly learning. When we stop learning and think oh I no longer need to learn something then you stop growing as a person. You stop growing and shortly after you will start to decline. The adventure is part of the learning, going to new places and learning about their culture.

Spending time with your partner and kids, spending time with your friends and saying ok it’s been a while since we last spoke lets catch up. Ah life is just one huge adventure. Live it, do not expect that you can learn everything from just doing nothing about such. Have fun and enjoy what you have.

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The Biggest MLM Truth Is To Stop Being A Firehoser!!!

11/03/2011

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| Mentor Ben Drake

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The Biggest MLM Truth Is To Stop Being A Firehoser!!!

What do you do when being taken advantage of?

11/03/2011

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What do you do when being taken advantage of? a good question the best thing is to somehow walk away from the situation. Being taken advantage of is not a good thing. However there are people out there who will literally use others and spit them out when they are finished with that person. Quite often they treat others like trash and may not realise what they are doing. These people literally do not give a stuff about others. Let alone the person whom they are using for their own advantage, they just do not care.

The best thing to do as I said before is to walk away, leave the situation. Also it’s best to no longer even continue that relationship, however should it be family it’s normally best to maintain minimal contact and not spend a lot of time with the people who have taken advantage of your generosity as a person. There are people who do use you up and make you feel like rubbish. When you find these people you do not have to put up with it. It’s best to just walk away.

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The more you give, the more you receive long term.

10/03/2011

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The more you give, the more you receive long term. What does this mean, well it means that the more you help others or give to people the more it comes back to you in abundance. Basically some people spend all their lives giving that they get very little. Unfortunately some people do not return the favour when someone gives to them from the heart; there are people who expect to just receive without giving. These are not good relationships to be in.

The thing is that there must be some form of reward for you either short term or long term. You must be able to gain something from what is going on or it does not work well, when you are taken advantage of by others because they think they are able to control you. They expect you to just give and not receive long term then it does not help. Basically this about finding a situation where you give and receive almost equal amounts.

Meaning when you give so much it comes back to you, yet sometimes we do not see those rewards until much later in life. It may take quite some time for those rewards to start coming to you. However long term it does come back to you, there are times when people do not even realise that they are in a situation where they are giving more than they are receiving. The people who do not expect to return the favour for things you have done for them are not easy to work with and have around.

When you are in the situation where you are giving more then you are receiving it is quite often best to set some boundaries and rules. Yes there are people who are not going to accept these boundaries and rules, they never will. They think oh yes I do not care. When people are just using you or think someone else will do it. Then it’s a bad place to be in, you need to be in a give and take relationship or environment. However there are places where it does not happen, some people do not necessarily understand that someone has given too much.

The person who is constantly doing things for others and not getting appreciated, accepted, even respected is in a place where they are giving more than they are receiving. There are people out there who expect to receive and not have to give. They pray for help and do not do anything personally to correct the problem, they think oh yes that is someone else’s problem and expect someone else will take care of such. Giving is about accepting responsibility and helping out when possible, when asked for help doing such. It’s not about getting angry because you are asked for help; it’s not about being taken advantage of as a person.

Giving is necessary to start the receiving process however unfortunately at times there are people who do not even realise that they are not giving. They are receiving more than they are giving, there are people who take advantage of others generosity and will push them. They do not understand that the person is tired of being taken advantage of, when someone offers genuine help then it is used when needed. However there are people who will literally use someone and take advantage of them and their generosity as a person. They use them, spit them out when they have served their purpose to them and never repay the person for their assistance. They disappear, however the good thing is that no matter how much you give it always comes back to you in abundance weather it’s love, money, romance, sex or just being there for someone else when they need you.

The times that you know you have a true friend is when they stick by you and return the favour. They are there for you when you need them and they come to see you not for some other reason, they do not feel obliged to do so. They want to come and see you. There are people who will call you out of obligation, they will come and see you when you feel sick, and they will talk with you when you are depressed as they feel obliged to. However when it gets really bad they are unable to be found, they do not stick around. These people need to learn the art of giving rather than receiving; it’s a matter of learning.

I have given so many things to different people as I want to rather than feeling obliged to. However I know people who have taken advantage of such and will use you for all your worth before saying goodbye to you, almost always kicking you out the door, making you feel bad for giving them so much, these people do not realise that they have used someone and not given as much as they have received. They think oh yes I will just get this person to do this for me and they will not expect anything back. As I said before in the end everything balances out, you may have to give quite a lot prior to receiving the rewards however it does happen.

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