February, 2011 • Coach Freedom and Friends

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Quite often we are asked to change something about ourselves by life. This allows us to become that person we have to for our own future. E.g. we decided to make a change that has in the past not even been considered and it propels our lives forwards. The thing is we may not be listening to that little voice which is saying I want you to make this change. Often when we make that change it propels our lives forwards. When oppose the changes because we are not willing or wanting to change and we have become comfortable where we are as person. So what happens we remain the same and do not change? Some of the changes are needed, whist others are not.

The only person who has the power to change us is the person who we allow to change us. We can be asked to change however unless we want to make that change people are unable to change us in any way. Life may ask us to change either through a thought, a person suggesting a change or otherwise. You can never know what changes are going to be needed. That’s the thing some people are unhappy with something and yet they want another person to make a change in their behaviour. When someone is trying to help you change it’s because they love you, people who refuse to accept changes remain stagnant and do not get anywhere.

Sometimes life is using a person who loves you is used a conduit to help you to make a change in your own life, however at other times they may not be. At times it’s a matter of thinking why do I need to make this change and is it something I am prepared to commit to. When it’s a change you do not want no problem, yet when it is a change you want great. Change is about becoming the person you were meant to be, certain people have different things which look good and bad on them as a person. E.g. their dress, their clothes, their appearance, their family, it’s a matter of knowing what works for you as a person and what you are most comfortable wearing and dressing in, then going from there. You may not be comfortable in a dress no problem, you may not be comfortable in a suit ok, how do you like to dress. How you like to look to feel, what is it that is really important to you as a person. It’s a matter of ok this is something I like and something I don’t like. Sure sometimes those who you love will disagree with such, yet it’s just a matter of accepting their opinion and finding a way to work with those who you care about.

The people who can accept the changes that they are asked to make are often the ones that will make great progress in life, when they are asked to change their diet or to make a change in their lifestyle for some reason it’s quite often for the best. Quite often it’s the change that the person really needs to make in order to move onto that next level as a person, in order to become worth a lot more. You have to think ok what change is needed to make this better or work for me. Life may through a bunch of changes at you however when you change and become the person you were intended to be then the sky is the limit. There are times when you need to consider what am I happy doing and what am I not happy doing, how can I integrate what I am happy doing into my own life.

Some people are so conditioned by others that they will stop changing and then they literally stop becoming more than who they are, so what these people need to do is make some gradual changes in their lives, when people make gradual changes rather than rapid changes they propel their life forward in small steps. When they make a rapid change a person tends to not be happy when the changes stop happening and they become dissatisfied with the results they are getting.

Think about what it. What changes are needed or wanted in your own life?
Do you need to change your diet?
Do you need to change how you relate to your partner?
Do you need to lose weight?
Do you need to gain weight?
Do you need to lower your stress levels?
Do you need to regain or improve your health?
Do you need to learn to become financially independent?
Do you want to find true love?
Do you want to foster kids?
Do you want to start a family?
Do you want to leave where you are now? (E.g. home, environment, who you are living with).
Do you want to change jobs?
Do you want a income which supports your life?
Do you want a better lifestyle?
Do you want to create better relationships?
Do you want to pay off your debts?
Do you want to travel more?
Do you want to spend more time with your family?
Do you want to get married?
Do you want to needed, wanted, accepted, supported, encouraged, and loved?
Do you want to be financially free? (Debts paid, money in the bank to do what you want and when you want to).

There are so many things a person can change or may be dissatisfied with in their lives. You need to find out what you niche and how you work best and go from there. Change is something that is very important in life.

Want to know more? Just ask. You can call or email me.

Do you want to learn how to create better relationships? Information is available by downloading our free eBook. Ben Drake

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My story – Out of the ashes

14/02/2011

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I have many different versions of my story, each of them to do with a different area of my life. As I shall say, a lot of it has been lessons to allow me to become the better stronger person who I had to become. Seeing myself become that person and looking around at what my life is like now. I needed to learn those lessons which would allow me to become successful in my own life and my profession and business. What is successful to me? That is answered later on; I had to learn what success or rich meant to me as a person. I am concentrating on professional, business, relationships and health in this portion of my story.

When I first came to network marketing in 2003, I was looking for work; I had spent years not able to find work stable. When I did find work it did not last long and was short lived owing to me being unable to cope with such for a variety of reasons. Sometimes owing to being unsupported in the role I was doing. At that time, I had little or no friendships, a number of jobs had been wrong for me; I was overweight and had a couple of life disabilities.

My life was literally a mess; I spent the next 2 years learning the business and then left because of ill advice and someone offering me an opportunity which I took. At that time I was not ready and still had things I needed to learn, for the next 2 years I remained self-employed working in that field of IT, I would work as needed. My health was not good; I was not taking care of myself health wise. In 2006, I was told either you lose weight or you are up for an operation or worse.

I could not afford the operation, having no work and so I slowly started to lose weight. I had also seen the consequences of ill health on my own family who still do not take care of their health. So I started my regime of losing weight. I’d seen my mum with diabetes not control her health and that was not something I had wanted, so in 2007 whist I was still searching for work and having left the IT role for a number of reasons which included medical reasons. I came across the same network marketing company that I had been involved with previously. I found out that it was someone whom I had met the first time and said yes without a doubt. Knowing the products worked. At that point I had no money and yet I knew I would find a way to get started, which I did.

From that simple decision, I started to get my weight under control and regain my health, a person who had struggled to maintain work and his health owing to many reasons. I literally started to put my life back together, living with a disability which limits your lifting ability was not easy; also knowing that I needed a role that I could do around my health, which could create problems. During this time, I started working on relationships and my other issues as well. Some relationships worked some did not; it was simply what I had to learn. So I worked on my relationships as much as I could and creating friendships which I had hardly any.

I also had a very poor diet owing to the lifestyle I had been living and the diet my family ate. Very much fast food or meals that were premade, that had been the lifestyle for a number of years. I did not know any better. I began eating healthier and getting my weight under control along with working on relationships. I was going to the gym to physical side of my health, which needs to be maintained constantly.

In just over 14 months New Years Eve 2008 I finished my weight loss and had gone from weighing 116 kg to 82 kg which was 34 kg weight loss. I had also lost over 135 cm of body fat it was great. I had gone from a double or triple extra large to a medium / large which was great. As the months went by from there I gradually went down to lose a further 6 kilos to keep my weight around 76 kilos for me I had never been able to do such. I was not as hungry and was able to do a lot more then what I had been able to do in many years.

One of my disabilities used to restrict how long I was able to stand on my feet. These days I no longer have that issue; sure, the condition is still there. I have managed to maintain my weight bellow 82 kg since then. For me I have been working on keeping my health and appetite under control. Something I do not ever remember having done at all. I spoke about success and rich at the begging of my story, to me rich is relationships. Strong friendships and being happy, it has been over 3 years since I started that journey now. I have had to learn creating relationships, friendships, to be comfortable with myself, to be myself and not care what others think. I have also needed to learn financial independence, saving, investment, so many things.

Why did I have to learn all this? Well I was not taught such. I was always made to feel that my needs, wants dreams and desires were not worth it. So I they been pushed so far down that it was not funny; owing to my upbringing. Why do you want that I would hear. The people who I hung around would literally drag me down rather then pull me up. I just existed as I did not know any better. Looking back I had to learn all that I learnt to be the guy who I am today.

I have gone on to find 3 of the best friendships I could ever ask for. These friends are wonderful, they know what has gone on and I am glad to of met them. One of them is a legend and my very best friend, they are the best. They know who they are and I am glad to have them in my life. What can I say I have literally started to rebuild my life from nothing, out of the ashes and had to do that, I started with nothing, now I know that no matter what I can rebuild my life no matter what does happen.

I have become successful and rich in being able to find those 3 great friendships, they are friends who I can count on no matter what and would trust with so many things. Each of them are the best. I have best colleagues who are there to help when I need them and I am glad to have them around.

I have kept my story generic and non-company specific owing to the fact that I have had to use a number of different methods to get my life back on track. Let me know should you want to know more.

Do you want to learn how to create better relationships? information is available by downloading our free eBook. Ben Drake

13/02/2011

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Being All In

11/02/2011

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In anything in life you need to be 100% committed or you are not going to succeed at all. When you are not committed fully to what you are doing you are leaving a chance for sabotage, it’s the same thing with business, relationships, friendships, when you are not committed then you don’t put in all your effort into that activity or relationship. When you are 100 precent committed to the outcome of anything then you are all in. As one of my mentors says you cannot be anything less that 100% in with a relationship, business or otherwise, any doubt and you are gone.

This is a cause of failure with relationships, business or any endeavour which a person puts themselves into. When you are not committed to the outcome you sabotage yourself. Sometimes it’s the little things; however as a person you need to be 100% in to your business, your relationship, even your job. Imagine putting in only 85% effort at work and still expecting the full pay, turning up late daily and leaving early. Yet still getting paid for that full day every single day you are to be working.

That’s what it’s like when you are not all in. Sometimes it takes something small to make you realise just how committed you are to the outcome. Ok yes sometimes there are reasons for delays, yet when its consistent you need to ask yourself are you 100% committed to that outcome. Sometimes it’s a hard thing to come to terms with, other times it’s a matter of yes I am committed no matter what happens. Some people are not even committed to their marriages or partner, they may not know such. Being committed is being there for them no matter what.

Are you all in?

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Want to learn more about relationships http://bdrake.successin10steps.com/?mad=52669 information is available from this eBook.

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Behind every successful person is a loving partner

10/02/2011

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Abraham Lincoln was unsuccessful until he met the only woman who he truly did love. Now behind every successful man or woman happens to be a truly loving partner who accepts supports and loves them as a person. No matter what the person looks like, no matter what they love them. This person cares about them deeply and they are special to that person, when they do truly love someone and are accepted and loved for who they are then the person can go on to achieve many things. People may go through life searching for that person who desires them all their lives. Others will find that person. When you find someone who loves you for you and desires you no matter what you look like it is an amazing experience.

A lot of people will literally be crying out through the lack of love and appreciation that they receive for who they are as a person. Each person needs to feel loved, respected and supported. Even appreciated for who they are as a person. When you cannot do such then you will go downhill, you will go into one of a number of different states. Yet when you are appreciated then you will gradually come away from those states. It will take work and encouragement, yet it can be done. When a woman is not feeling loved or supported she goes out there and does things for everyone looking for that love and support. That she is starved of, however when a man is man is deprived of love and support he may start overwork and trying to be more successful. He is literally crying out for the attention which he is starved of as is the woman.

Now it takes support and encouragement to draw someone out of these states, you have to appreciate believe and trust in them. You have to show them that you appreciate them and want them there, giving them the thing that they are missing. It’s about recognising what the person is missing, even having the guts to ask that person and listening to what they are saying. Remember that behind that successful person is someone who truly does love them and they truly love that person. Sometimes you have to say to the person who you love, tell me what are your desires what do you really want from life and a partner. You are asking how can I love you best and what is it you truly want. You see when you fore fill other people’s needs it often fore fills your own needs too, when the person who you love is feeling loved they are capable of doing anything they want in life. This person will go on to to be a great big success, however when they do not have such from a loving partner, then their lives are in tatters. You can always tell when someone loves themselves and when someone does not. You can also tell when someone is in love and loved by that person too.

A person who loves themselves will dress differently and even have a healthy appearance, whereas someone who does not tends to not care about their appearance. The person who does not love themselves can tend to dress poorly and be sloppy in appearance. They may have weight to lose also, now the person who does love themselves will dress tidy and will be comfortable who they are as a person. They are people who take care of their health as best as they can no matter what, they do what they can. The person who loves themselves draws people to them, where as the person who does not love themselves will tend to push others away. They are crying out for love and are starved of such. I have seen both sides of this coin in my own life, there are people who I care about and they do not care about their health, others who do care about their health and want to keep themselves as fit as possible.

People have many destructive behaviours when they are unloved and lack of love is a two way street. You may hear blame from someone however they do not realise they were as much to blame as the other person. When a relationship breaks down its because the person quite often stoped caring about things, they stopped caring about the other person, even the family. It’s hard when this happens. What is best is to show that person who you care about that you love them and truly care about them no matter what may happen.

Want to know more? Just ask. You can call or email me.

Want to learn more about relationships http://bdrake.successin10steps.com/?mad=52669 information is available from this eBook.

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Month: February 2011

Life’s Changes

My story – Out of the ashes

Being All In

Behind every successful person is a loving partner