February, 2011 • Coach Freedom and Friends

During the course of our lives we are given a opportunity, at times they last a while other times they do not last long at all. Those that last are the ones that we work to keep hold of, that we go ok this is what I want and I am not going to change it. Sometimes things are worth it, other times opportunity only brings learning experiences. So what you need to do is learn to recognise that right opportunity and go from there. You need to know what a good opportunity is and what a bad one is.

People can turn bad opportunities into good ones; it’s a matter of knowing how to do such. When the time is right you move forward and not backwards, you go full speed ahead and do not slow down. Sometimes you need to know when to rest and recuperate or to go ahead. It’s about knowing when to pull back and when to say yes to something there are times when you do not know, there are times when you can turn a bad opportunity into a really good one. It’s a matter of knowing how to do such and going from there.

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19/02/2011

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What’s holding you back – Excessive Fear, Self Doubt?

18/02/2011

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In our own lives there is something that might be holding us back from achievement of a goal or dream. The hard part can be working out what is holding the person back from success. Some people are afraid of success; some are afraid of losing the person they love. The thing is fear is a big thing which holds people back and it stops people dead in their tracks. It stops people from making that next move which will ultimately grant them success.

Personally I’d rather make baby steps towards a goal, rather then one big leap forward. Why? Well when you make minor changes you notice them more, the major changes can sometimes become so overwhelming. So it’s best to do such over time not to change everything at once. Ok so something happened and it was meant to, a situation comes up and you go ok let’s just handle this and get back to achieve that goal. Ok so you have limited time to work owing to having something unexpected coming up and that took it’s time; sure that does happen. However the one thing that needs to be done is saying ok lets regroup. What do I need to do to be able to get today done as this has happened? Life quite often throws tests at you to see if you are ready, it tests you. You are given opportunities daily to meet your goals; they are sometimes tests or designed to show you that you are ready for moving on. It also lets you see what you may have achieved or become.

The question is what is stopping you from achieving that goal, is there some voice inside saying hey you are not worthy. You are not ready, that’s what it used to be like for me, you cannot do this, why are you doing this. I have seen my life turn around owing to changing my thinking, allowing myself to associate with more positive people rather than listening to the programming of my past. These days seeing those changes in my life and going ok this is how we are going to handle such and this is what needs to happen.

Now old man fear can paralyse you and keep his hold on you. Why well he programs you saying look you are not worth this, you cannot do such. You need to recognise what is stopping you from reaching that next level in your profession, business or personal lives and say well ok this is how I am going to handle such. I am ready and that is what needs to happen, this is how this issue needs to be worked on. What you need to do is show yourself that the thing you fear is no longer relevant to you. This takes work, time and patience yet it’s what happens.

Self Doubt is driven by fear that you doubt you can do something owing to the programming you have received. We are programmed daily from many sources and we need to stop listening to such programming and start to program our own minds. We are the creators of our own destiny, there is a poem called Invictus by William E Henley which finishes by saying

I am the master of my fate.
I am captain of my soul.

This is a very potent poem especially these last two lines, owing to the fact it reminds me that everyone is in control of our own destiny and we control our own future. We decide what is allowed to come into our own minds and what is not, we decide what holds us back and what is not, we decided who we are going marry, we decide who our partner will be, we decide to destroy a relationship or nature it. Yes ok health may get in the way of achieving a goal, no matter what there is always a way to work around such. You just need to find the way to deal with things and regroup. We need to learn to create our own life, that life which we ultimately want as person. No one else is capable of doing such, as they do not know what we are after. We have to let those who are special to us know what are needs are and what we want. We also need to remind them.

When we suppress our needs, wants and desires owing to others programming because of the negative emotions then it destroys our lives. However when we literally say look no that’s not on and that’s not fair it can mean you have moved on. Each of us will need to learn something that is going to assist us in the future. It could be more confidence or saying look no way. Each person has to learn to deal with different things and well that is what has to happen.

Want to know more? Just ask. You can call or email me.

Do you want to learn how to create better relationships? Information is available by downloading our free eBook. Do you want to be mentored for free? Ben Drake

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Using your talents

17/02/2011

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One thing each person has is talents; we all have abilities which we given that allow us to succeed in life. Bellow is just some of what be a person’s talents
a calm demeanour
a natural telephone voice
understanding of legal matters
financial management
writing of stories, poems, blogs and newsletters
motivating, supporting and encouraging others
story teller
natural parent
leader

Each of us has those talents which are needed and necessary in our own lives. We have a number of them as a person, the list above is certainly not a list of everything, I know there are so many talents. These were given to us to allow us to become successful in our own lives. When we use these natural talents we then start to become successful within our own lives. So what we need to do is find a way to use all these natural talents within our daily lives, whether its network marketing, parenting, teaching or any other profession. We need to use these talents in both our professional and business lives.

During our developmental years we are trained to hone our skills and talents, however there are talents which come naturally to us. Now sure there are also skills which need to be developed in people. However it is our natural talents that are the ones which are best being used in our lives. What you need to do is work on utilising those talents that come naturally to you and using them regularly in your daily life. There are many reasons why we need to use our natural talents. It can be helping a friend in their time of need by being understanding supportive and encouraging, it may be showing someone the path that is best for them to take and encouraging them to become better as a person, it may be raising a child or children you never know.

There are so many uses for our talents which we need to realise and use regularly. There are reasons why we learn those lessons and that is normally to teach us something. We have to learn something. There is nothing we can do about that. Think about what your natural talents are find a way to use them daily and regularly.

Want to know more? Just ask. You can call or email me.

Do you want to learn how to create better relationships? Information is available by downloading our free eBook. Ben Drake

What makes you happy and what does not?

16/02/2011

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In our own lives we have things which make us happy and things which don’t. We have talents and abilities, our talents are what we need to use to be successful. However when we combine this with something that makes us happy it is a great combination. When you are happy you sing, you dance and act stupid, you can be yourself, you know that no matter what you will be loved and accepted by the person who you are communicating with. However when you are unhappy you can be grouchy, mean, disrespectful and hurtful to others. Unfortunately people do not realise that this is will often be what causes a person’s life to be a total mess. They do not realise that the source of their own unhappiness has been brought on by themselves. They hurt others in an attempt to boost their own ego and self-esteem.

It’s a matter of ok what do I need to do to be happy. What does literally make you happy as a person? Is there a special someone who makes you happy, a partner, a friend, a child, is there something you enjoy doing which will help improve your mood? Such as helping people change their lives, volunteering, raising kids, talking with someone that you love. Within each of us is a deep yearning for what makes us happy, this happens to be the key to making others happy also. When we let others know what makes us happy it helps those relationships develop. When we are happy others are happy too.

You notice when you are happy that more people will say hello or want to talk to you, they want to know you. When you are happy you walk different, talk different and move differently. However when someone else is unhappy it literally effects dynamics of every relationship. When you put in a person who is unhappy it drags the whole group down. However once that person is taken out of that group it is once again harmonious. The more negative people that are there the more draining it can be on those who are positive. Put a number of very unhappy people into the mix and you end up with a group which goes downhill.

In order to be happy again, you need to find a way to make those things that have to be done enjoyable. You may need to put on music to listen to whist cleaning, listening to personal development audios at the gym. There are often ways to make those things more fun and enjoyable. Sure sometimes we have to find out how we are going to do such and take it from there. Yet once you find a way to enjoy such it’s great.

I know that communicating with my special friend makes me happy. A chat with her makes me happy, also communicating and chatting with the people who are important to me. Staying involved in their lives as person means a lot to me. So what makes you happy and enjoy life more. Only you know that and only you can answer that question yourself, no one else can do that. Just remember though you do need to be able to fore fill your own needs and desires too. So you have the right to expect that your own needs are meet also.

Want to know more? Just ask. You can call or email me.

Do you want to learn how to create better relationships? Information is available by downloading our free eBook. Ben Drake

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Month: February 2011

The right opportunity

What’s holding you back – Excessive Fear, Self Doubt?

Using your talents

What makes you happy and what does not?