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Month: December 2010
Who are you as a person
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Each person is unique, there are no two people who are the same and that’s always been said. However what does that really mean, it means that no one can replace you as a person. No one else speaks the same way you do, they do not care about friends like you do, they have not had to learn the same way you have about things. Everyone learns differently, everyone speaks differently, walks differently, they even show their love in different ways.
The hard part is some people are unable to express their feelings at all. They may say I love you however do not say it continually, everyone is brought up differently and learn things from that young age of childhood. Some people reach a point where they have to make a choice either the healthy lifestyle or letting their health become worse. For some people they get this wake up call at a young age others do not, regardless of weather you get a wake up call or not you are the only person who is the same as you are.
In 2006 I got my wake up call, I had been unwell for ages now it was at the stage where I had to say ok I am going to take care of myself and not put up with the diet which my family eats. I had to make that choice or I may not be here now. It was a hard choice yet sometimes it has to be done, I have watched members of my family let their health decline owing to weight or other issues. Now as I was saying each of us is different and unique in so many ways. You have to love who you are as a person work on finding that person who may have been trapped inside because of years of oppression or being told this is what you have to do.
When you stop listening to others and switch off from others programing you start to see the real you coming out. Life becomes more enjoyable and you have some real great times, I have had some amazing experiences owing to becoming a better person. The best way to switch off from the chatter and not listen to that programming which others have given you is to do a 30 day mental cleanse and to program your own mind with positive rather than negative.
You can find out more about the 30 day mental cleanse via www.30daycleanse.com
If you have any questions just contact or email me.
If you want to learn more about relationships http://bdrake.successin10steps.com/?mad=52669 some of the information is available from this eBook.
Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake
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Stress
Stress is such a big thing in peoples lives, some people become more stressed owing to factors in their lives or something that has happened in their childhood. Every person has what is known as a tolerance or threshold of how much they can handle as person when you get above such they become stressed. Everyone has a different stress reaction yet they are mostly the same for the males and females. People learn to cope yet often a low threshold for such could be because of a trauma in the persons childhood.
Each person needs to find a way to deal with their stresses, it can be meditation, withdrawing or talking with friends who you trust. It is hard to know how each person will react to stress or being overloaded. It is best to find a way to release that stress through a method that is good for you. For me personally it’s meditation I use a program here http://www.meditate.com.au/ which has helped me a lot.
If you have any questions just contact or email me.
If you want to learn more about relationships http://bdrake.successin10steps.com/?mad=52669 some of the information is available from this eBook.
Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake
Your Faults
Ok this is a very interesting topic as everyone does have faults weather they want to acknowledge them or not. It’s what you about those faults that really make the difference, what do I mean by such is that you need to actively acknowledge those faults saying ok this is what I need to work on. Yes it can be hard however each person has things they need to work on and use to their own advantage, you may not be able to work for long hours however; you can certainly still take care of a family.
You may not be able to cook well but can clean a house, use your talents to your advantage and also work on making your faults work for you. You may only be able to work your business 10 hours a week owing to medical or otherwise its working around such, Making that work to your advantage, some people can become overwhelmed with too much going on. There are a number of things which can be faults for people and it’s about acknowledging and seeing how you can take advantage of such faults. It may take time work and patience yet at other times you just need to say ok lets work out how this can become and advantage rather then a disadvantage.
Ok so your medical situation means that you have to go to the gym 3 days a week and have to attend physio for so long sure that’s no problem it’s working around such. Then there is taking care of your family, so that leaves only a small amount of time you can work. Other people have the time to put in that full 40 hours a week, it’s about knowing yourself what you can and can not do and what is important and working around such. Some people are good at writing up a storm, others can not, some people can cook others can not, some people can paint others can not, it’s not that it’s impossible you need to find a way to use that talent.
There are so many faults that people can have some people make things so complex that they just end up being unable to be duplicated, some people are too good at their job when they leave no one knows what they did or how. It’s about saying well ok this is who I am and could someone duplicate who I am as a person, could they duplicate what I am doing easily. Sometimes those things which have been developed over years have to be untangled and removed before you can become a success on your own. Do you have a system that no one else could understand? Some of the things I used to do were so complex that only I knew how they worked. Is that easy no, it was because of what made sense to me as a person I used to say lets separate this, this and this so I can tell what it has to do with and it created more mess then having things in one place. Ok yes sometimes a system is needed however the complex ones just get to be so hard that they are unable to be duplicated.
If you have any questions just contact or email me.
If you want to learn more about relationships http://bdrake.successin10steps.com/?mad=52669 some of the information is available from this eBook.
Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake
Your own purpose in life
Every person has their own mission in life, now you never know for how long or why each person is in your own world. Some people are in your lives shortly and make a impact, others are constantly in your own life. You have a purpose yourself, it is not just to be someone’s partner, a husband, wife. Now the thing is some people never find out why they are here or what their real why is for living their lives.
I know why I am hear, some people may go all their lives not really knowing why they are around. Remember although you are in someone’s life for a short period you have made a impact. There are those people who are in our lives 10 minutes, others who are their for a lifetime when we met them. You can never tell when you meet someone, everyone lives out their purpose in life and yet sometimes there are so many purposes that each person has to achieve that you live an entire lifetime. Think about such, some people are hear to make another persons life better, others are hear for different reasons.
Sure people walk in and out of your own lives just as you walk out of some peoples lives quickly also. However you have left an impression in someone’s life by what you did when you did what you did. Sometimes you do something small and it leaves a lasting impression, each person has their own mission and what they need to fore fill in life, its known as destiny and well sometimes you do not know it however each person does come into your own world for a reason no matter how long they stay. Its the same with yourself you were placed somewhere at that point in time for a reason, the friendships and more.
You have everything already to achieve your own purpose in life, for me it’s the same everything is here now to achieve that which I greatly want and it is time to walk that journey. I know some amazing people who have touched my own life and well I am too glad about that, each day I am glad to have them around. Their smiling faces, a quick chat or a 2 hour conversation, it’s what happens. Everyone no matter who it is touches your life for some reason. As you do theirs. Knowing you touch everyone’s life you meet and that you have everything right now to fore fill your own destiny what would you do, what would you say to those who are special and important to you as a person.
You are destined to be someone great who made a tremendous impact on a person, so enjoy that and know that every day you are living out your own purpose. If that means you work from home and work around your family and friends great, if you are their for them excellent. You can never hide your own purpose or what you are meant to become in life. As no matter what you will become such, you may have to make 2 choices and go a path that will eventually lead you back to the path again, when you touch another persons life it’s because you are often walking the road together. You are quite often placed there to do something and to help someone at that point.
You may have had so much pain in your life just to learn for your purpose in life. You learn a lot from those people who are in your world, they teach you so many things.
If you have any questions just contact or email me.
If you want to learn more about relationships http://bdrake.successin10steps.com/?mad=52669 some of the information is available from this eBook.
Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake
