Month: November 2010
Being too trusting who does it hurt?
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Trust it’s a big thing in any relationship if that’s a friendship, a marriage, a couple (partners, lovers, boyfriend or girlfriend). There are so many types of relationships that it’s not easy to name them all, essentially we all have relationships in our lives. Every relationship always requires trust some require more trust the others a couple who are married or seeing each other need to trust each other deeply. Where as work colleagues may not need as much trust, they may have to trust others with their lives in professions others it’s not as necessary. Trust is a necessary part of team work, when you do not trust someone how do you have any relationship with them.
It is hard, when you really trust someone and they abuse the trust then it’s not them that gets hurt. It is usually the person who trusted them that gets hurt badly. People tend to learn a lesson too quickly about trust when someone else abuses or missuses their trust. I learnt that one quite some time ago, I am a very trusting person and yes someone abused the trust quite badly. The friendship will never be the same again, there is no way it ever can be the same again. Once someone has violated your trust it is an exceptionally hard to win that trust back. The person who violated the trust in the beginning has to somehow show they are trustable again and that takes work.
As I said trusting someone too much does hurt only the person who trusted the other person deeply. When any trust is broken it’s not good for the person who has had it violated they can devalue themselves and their self esteem or self worth can start to decline further then what it was initially and that does hurt.
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Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake
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Decisions and a powerful day.
I have been doing a bit of personal development lately and one thing that came to mind today is that I have put a lot of my life on hold owing to my love of my biological family. A family who I care deeply for yet they do not return such. It’s who they are as people, for me it’s time to concentrate on my own life not on that which my own family wants. It has been years since I have felt in control of my own life, e.g. not being screamed at for something. For me it’s time to do some of those things that I really want, I have lived my life for my family as per my biological family for years.
For me it’s time to walk that road of success leaving behind those painful memories of the past. It’s also time to say well this is what I am going to have in my own life and it’s knowing no matter what there are others out there who care about me. Thank you all. Last night showed many things; the people who are the greatest and yet they have also become wonderful friends. Saying hello is a pleasure with them and it’s wonderful to know them, they are the best people I could ever ask for in my life.
There is so much love coming from these friends, they are people who care about me. Yet it is not just the people who are in my business there are others also, 3 great ladies who are wonderful and external to my business each of them is a gem. It is just so great, I have put so many things on hold because I considered my brother, sister, mum and dad over myself. I listened to them their destructive ways, their opinions of what they wanted me to be. I have learned so much about myself and right now I know I give from the heart. There are people who I shall have to leave behind owing to their attitude right now. People who may never understand or be bothered understanding, that is who they are. Sure it’s been a very emotional journey and I have had to lock a lot of this up for years.
There are things that I want to know, see, experience and do. It’s not that I feel I have not lived my life, it’s more I have put others ahead of me for too long. I have done what they want rather then what I want or need to do. It is time to walk this journey and to say well I am not prepared to put up with such from my family, you are not ahead of me in my own life. I know what I am looking for with things and I am just too glad.
If you have any questions just contact or email me.
If you want to learn more about relationships http://bdrake.successin10steps.com/?mad=52669 some of the information is available from this eBook.
Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake
