Relationships in any area of life you need to create relationships, there are relationships at work, at school, at home, at the sports club; they are in so many places. We have relationships all around us; some people expect a instant relationship. Yet relationships do take time to build, they need to be able to grow. Without creating a relationship with someone there is no foundation for anything further, it’s like saying ok this is all we are going to do and proceeding from there. It is like the people who spend the night together and then go their separate ways, that is not a good relationship you are saying well ok thanks bye.
For me being in the relationships business it’s about getting to know people who they are and what makes them a person. It’s about not judging someone and learning ok this is who they are as a person, coming from a family where one person says I do not want any dependants anymore. That is why they have sat there for years and pushed people away, they do not anyone to depend on them or need them for any reason. This is a very bad attitude as it often says well I do not care about you, the hard part is what do you do when someone you love e.g. a member of your own family is such. Well the only thing possible to accept the person for who they are.
This person may or may not change however they have to want to change themselves no one can force them to change. In life we all build relationships, there are people who want to control others, who need to control others and their lives are often ruled by it’s about me. There are people who serve others and give from the heart they will do anything for another person, yet these people need to learn to not take on another person’s rubbish. It surprises me the amount of emails or messages I get saying hey I want a relationship with you and the person is looking for the instant relationship. They want you to be more then friends right away. That is not me it takes time to build such.
