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Month: October 2010

Coach Freedom and Friends

My journey

 11/10/2010 11/10/2010
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    |   Mentor Ben Drake Mentor Ben Drake
    |   5:51 pm 5:51 pm

I never realised how destructive some influences can be. Work colleagues can have the same destructive influence on people as with the rest of society. Everyone has a different upbringing and well you have to think about what that person has been through as a person; some people get their lives destroyed by these influences. It can be very hard for lots of people, the thing you have to learn to do is start believing in yourself and determining what you are meant to be and do in life.

This only happens when you switch off to the negative bad programming as a person, to do this you need to sometimes distance yourself from those influences totally and limit your association with those people only seeing them when it suits you. It can be very trying at times, for me personally I have to distance myself from the people I love most owing to who they are as people. They have some pretty destructive influences in their lives. You have to look at it like teaching someone how to do something yet if they listen to all their chatter that they are not good enough then they will not be successful.

That is what destroyed me listening to all that bad programming. It's why my weight got bad and my health got bad as I just did not care about myself, I could not love myself because of all the negative bad influences in my life. This did include family and many other sources, these days I have to work constantly on programming the good rather than the bad, these days my life is not as much as a mess as it was 3 years ago now. Far out has it been just shy of 3 years now since I began this journey of getting my health under control. Well all I can say is that it's been an amazing journey one that has had its ups and downs.

Recently I had a oh my gosh moment. Ages ago I brought some 82 sized jeans and they have not always fitted right, they have been too tight. Lately they fit like a gem; I can sit in them comfortably no problems. I went out and brought small undies on the weekend, for me seeing myself go from that triple extra large to a small within the last 3 years has been just such an amazing thing. Anyway for me I just love the fact that I am able to now fit into small pants, next I am up for working on fitting into a small shirt. I already have one singlet which is small and fits like a gem, the road ahead is going to be an awesome one.

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Influences

 10/10/2010 10/10/2010
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    |   Mentor Ben Drake Mentor Ben Drake
    |   4:03 pm 4:03 pm

Influences are very powerful things they come from many sources family, friends or other well meaning people. For me personally I have come to realise who my most destructive influences are now when I am around those people too long or too much I tend to start heading down hill if I do not take care of my own personal needs for me when I am starting to feel the pressure of others rubbish or programming happens to be by myself starting to feel tired and letting the old stinking thinking come back to play. What it means is that I have to learn to switch off and disassociate from those exceptionally powerful negative influences which tend to push me around.

How do I do this or work on doing such by surrounding myself with good positive emotions and switching off from the negative influences and people who tend to just pull you down. Everyone knows of those people who just tend to pull you down, they make you feel worse. Now for me I have a good run then suddenly slam I hit the wall as I am working on building up my strength up again. It is only because I have not been around the right influences that I tend to go downward or that I am not feeling loved and supported. Anyway all I can say is people need to get themselves around the right people and people who will support and encourage them.

Those people are at times the ones who are there for you through thick and thin. They say ok you are having a bad time let's work through this, let's talk this out. They listen and help as much as they can, they do not drag you down these are real friends. I realised recently who my real friends are and I am glad to have them, having found another gem of a friend who is a good person. A lot of people's negative influences come from programming either by the TV, news, stock reports or otherwise you end up receiving that programming. What lovely programming does leaving the TV on crime do to your mind whist you sleep or ABC talk back radio? Yet that's what I see happen. People destroy their own and others life's because of such programming.

Anyway this programming has to be removed before we can learn to make anything of ourselves. So what is best is turning off the TV, the radio etc and only reading and listening to positive things. Do this at night and you can really improve yourself, how try a 30-day mental cleanse which is available via http://www.30daycleanse.com and let me know how you go. Anyway have a great day and I will write some more soon.

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Life’s Journey

 08/10/2010 08/10/2010
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    |   Mentor Ben Drake Mentor Ben Drake
    |   8:38 pm 8:38 pm

For me life has been a journey, I am unsure what the ultimate destination is however I have started to realise some of the visions which have shown up in my life over the last 6 months. Things are finally starting to make more sense for me and I am glad. Sure some of the things I have been through are not easy, things are placed there to teach us a lesson.

For example someone who pushes you around is quite possibly there to show you that you are hanging around with the wrong people. They an be someone who may not realise what they are doing however they have to have control. This person may not be easy to work with, OK so what this means is that my life until now did not suit the lifestyle which I was living. It's a long story and one that some people will hear. Yet essentially for me I know that a life I used to live is not the life that suits me. It's good to know whats going on.

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These last few weeks

 07/10/2010 07/10/2010
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    |   Mentor Ben Drake Mentor Ben Drake
    |   2:04 pm 2:04 pm

Living my life. Well I have learned a lot over the last 3 months through some trial and error. Some people have shown their true colours or personality and made me realise hey why am I following those people who are unsuccessful or do not understand. Sometimes these people just want to make their presence known and push people around, tell them what to do and how to do it. That really hit home last week, despite the fact that I had a bug I still did my personal development. I still managed to get things done, despite being unwell I got things done; today I sat on my weekly conference call and listened to all the successful people.

I have to go back and learn many things, how to make my business work. It is going to take patience yet I am doing the best I can. I stopped blogging regularly on a daily basis owing to recommendation from a unsuccessful person who had merit in what they said. Now that I have come to understand myself, better and understand what was going on well ok it is what happened. My life was a mess owing to programming and the negative influences in my life. Those negative influences has me down and out, I had to choose to listen to other people. I listened to one person and that got me to a point, yet they only helped me start the journey.

Anyway, as I will say my mind is now a lot clearer and I have direction in what I want to do, I am better off. I have realised why some people have stuck around, others have not our personalities were never the same. That was why a friendship destroyed its self 6 months ago; our wants and needs were too different. For me being a person who needs to feel wanted and respected. The old friend could not meet those requirements. So what changed boy I wish I knew what to say, part of it has been having a constant friend in my life. Yet also, finding a mastermind group was willing to help me deal with things, for me finding mentoring for free and doing a mental cleanse has really opened my eyes allowed me to become a better person and to realise the type of person I am.

In my life, I have let others tell me what to do for too long, I left a group a few months ago and finally realised why that group did not work for me. This time I am not going to listen to those negative people that say stop this it is for your own good. When they are not successful themselves, my lack of success is because I have been around the wrong people. Coming from a broken family where I live with no love or love is not shown, that is ok it is not my fault. Yet knowing that someone does really care about me is the one thing I enjoy right now. Sure, I have my ups and downs, yet I know in my heart that I am on the right track now.

There are a number of people who I would thank so many times; they are worth their weight in gold. To me I was searching for a way to volunteer and help people when I closed the chapter on my old life and I found such. I asked myself time and time again what am I going to do when I move away from the coast, I found that answer. I know now that everything is being placed into motion for me to for fill my life's purpose. The negative people may say but Ben this is not how it has done, tough it is my life and I choose how to live it. I know deep within myself that I am becoming now the person I had to be, those 27 roles or jobs I had in the past each taught me a skill needed for my future. These days it's goodbye to the negative it is not possible or do not want to know it people and lets go.

See you at the top.

Ben

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