October, 2010 • Coach Freedom and Friends

In life there is one thing a successful person needs to be able to and that is being willing to learn. When you close your mind to learning those new things and start saying I know it all you become unteachable and start declining in life. Some people need to be literally down and out before they become teachable. Others never are, some people are so teachable that it's not funny. It's strange yet I have learned so many things about myself and my life, I have become the teachable one. The one who is willing to learn the new ways and methods, despite the fact that I have lived around others who remain unteachable such is life.

Anyway for me I know now why I have failed in the past and see it again and again, some people set themselves up for failure others do not. In the past when I have gone downhill I have been in the lions den or associating with the wrong people for too long. These days I just switch off or do not fully listen to them. Other days I do, right now it's about being supportive to those who mean a lot to you and not listening to the bad stuff not taking that on board. Sure there are those people who literally need your support and are going through some of the roughest times like myself, we talk about it and move on, trying to find the positive inside that negative.

Some people need to learn that others love them, they have lost all faith and all love within themselves. Others need to learn other things, everyone has their own learning curve in life. The biggest mistake that people can make is saying I know everything as then those people become unteachable. Are you teachable?

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Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake

Being teachable

22/10/2010

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| Mentor Ben Drake

| 10:56 am

Anyway for me I know now why I have failed in the past and see it again and again, some people set themselves up for failure others do not. In the past when I have gone downhill I have been in the lion's den or associating with the wrong people for too long. These days I just switch off or do not fully listen to them. Other days I do, right now it's about being supportive to those who mean a lot to you and not listening to the bad stuff not taking that on board. Sure there are those people who literally need your support and are going through some of the roughest times like myself; we talk about it and move on, trying to find the positive inside that negative.

Some people need to learn that others love them, they have lost all faith and all love within themselves. Others need to learn other things; everyone has their own learning curve in life. The biggest mistake that people can make is saying I know everything as then those people become unteachable. Are you teachable?

Do you want to learn about yourself and how to create better relationships with others? http://bdrake.successin10steps.com/?mad=52669 to download a free eBook here.

Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake

Who am I?

21/10/2010

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| Mentor Ben Drake

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I have been getting to know myself better lately, why I was so prepared to spend 12 months in China working. As well as many other things, however also about myself as a person, the type of guy I am. Ok what type of person am I well first I need to look at those things I enjoy and go from there.

So what is there that I enjoy and like to do?

I enjoy giving people hugs, being supported and encouraged, I enjoy being a volunteer (I have been volunteering since I was 17), I enjoy teamwork, helping people, walking along the beach, swimming, the mountains, the view from the mountains, I do not have to have all the stuff however I do appreciate having my things in a good state e.g. usable and not falling apart, I like clean and tidy not a big mess.

So essentially what I am saying is that to me I enjoy being around people or having that social contact daily. Being around people, to me social contact can be email, phone, text message, face to face or simular. I am someone who loves socialising and also is a romantic; I have seen that side of me come out quite clearly lately. It's the guy who loves writing poems, who cares for those who are dearest to him, who will do anything for that person, he loves them deeply. Walking the beach of the world and travelling with them having an enjoyable time would be just so wonderful.

Honestly I love my friends; a number of them are just so amazing and have been awesome and amazing friends to me. I have got to meet some great people via social networking; some people get fed up with me and the questions, with me wanting to know them. However it's their problem not time. I enjoy those friendships.

Anyway I have some more questions which I am answering. They are as bellow.

What would you do if you were given 1 day to live, 1 week to live, 1 month to live, 6 months to live, 12 months to live, with unlimited time, with unlimited money? Only you can answer these questions yourself, however the thing is often these help a person to discover who they really are as a person. Sure a person will crack from extended stress however there is nothing that can be done about that.

If you want to learn more about relationships http://bdrake.successin10steps.com/?mad=52669 some of the information is available from this eBook.

Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake

Success or failure

20/10/2010

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| Mentor Ben Drake

| 11:52 am

Life its interesting some people succeed and others will fail. Why because the ones who fail simply give up before it's their time. Someone else tempts them with a better offer or says oh you are not making any money come and join me and I will help you. I did that once and ages later it feel in my face because of how the person treated others, yet the good part was that there was lessons learnt from such. Sometimes you need to analyse and reset your goals. At other times are you going for the right goal is what you need to ask yourself. Recently during a period of much stress I asked myself a question one which I believe everyone needs to ask themselves. Here is that question....

What would you do... if you were told you only had 24 hours to live?

To me the answer came back quick as anything and I have to keep that answer between myself and those who know that answer, sometimes you may not get a answer that is ok, it may confuse you or it may not be what you thought it would be. To me I received no surprise with my answer; my answer tells me why I continue going and where I am heading. How well it says this is your purpose and I would of never found such without doing a mental cleanse, yet also without the support of some really great friends. Sure it's rough at times, yet there are things I have to do. We each determine our own success or failure by own our actions or words.

When we try and push, bully or bribe someone to do something for us then we are not confident that they are going to say yes. It means that the person is trying to strengthen their own position so that they have a better chance of getting a favourable outcome. I been thinking about my past close relationships today and what happened, some of it was my own fault. Others well it was a combination of things, however these days I enjoy each day more and more. Right now I need to sort out my stuff and go from there, say goodbye to those who make me feel worse, work out what I am taking with me, find a place and just go. There are things that need to be taken no matter what, clothes mostly yet other things are unable to be replaced some things can be.

If you want to learn more about relationships http://bdrake.successin10steps.com/?mad=52669 some of the information is available from this eBook.

Be a mentor with a servants heart Ben Drake

Stress

19/10/2010

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| Mentor Ben Drake

| 11:48 am

Stress it is one of those things that sometimes you do not know if it's built up until you end up falling down. It's a hard thing to manage when you do not know if you are stressed or not for me it's like saying well you have not been taking care of yourself or have been too strong for too long. You are doing too much is another thing it says, so what is best. Working out what causes you the stress and how you react, in a way I need to do such myself just take the time to realise ok I have to rest and take care of myself.